What would you put in DATING THREAD 101....

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

geordie not like you will have to make much conversation on a cinema date anyway! So why not

You need to meet someone again to be more sure... And if you both wanna see the film why not

314- sounds like a great weekend

Waving- how lovely that he phoned straight away- you must have been the first thing on his mind!

I'm a bit unsure, again...! Had a date last Thursday, which was lovely but I was hoping he'd be a grower as I wasn't dying to kiss him. Over the weeknd, he's messaged and told me various things he's been up to, and the busier he is, the more interested I've become But he's not mentioned a second date, and messges slowed down yesterday and only had one today. I'm assuming he's gone with another option. This is the trouble with me only having one iron at a time- I'll have to start from scratch again now. Ho hum!

Haha! Haven't quite nailed the date yet...need to finalise plans but plenty of time to do that...and indeed for anything to happen between now and then. But it is progress and the chat we had last night was pleasantly flirty so I am feeling good.

Toosassy thanks for the heads up- I hadn't noticed that my text was showing his face.

How do I get it deleted?

Oh, and not heard nada ...

waving that's bloody lovely. To know he's missed you loads and has been writing a text to you over days is just lovely. So when are you seeing him, tomorrow is it?
lacoba no response? How sucky! I'm surprised and peed off on your behalf!

I was so embarrassed to log onto POF "who's viewed me" and find a familiar face, a regular at the bar I work evenings in! I'm dying at the thought of him not only seeing and reading my profile but more so, showing it around the whole bar so I've hidden my profile. that will work right? I'll be able to search and message guys myself but nobody can see me unless we've already exchanged messages?

at the romance of wavings update. I don't think he will notice the 5lbs!!!!

314 you have stronger willpower than me. I'd totally fall for bear despite my having repeated words with my heart. Your weekend sounds heavenly!!! Aside from the interruption from your mum! PMSL!!!!

lacoba swipe left on your post and the option to request delete should come up. re the no response. Time to move on. He's pretty heartless IMO.

deedee hang in there! Based on the brief time I was in the FB group, everyone is stunning on this thread! And we all have our not so nice stories to share. It's not about you, just repeat that and persevere! I struggled the first few weeks of OLD. Now I just expect a portion of douchery in all honesty.

foxtrot enjoy today's date. Anymore coming up?

Crikey an invite to Spain for date 5! I love the fact he spent days texting you.

I'm dithering over my date tonight with MrRescue, I'm not sure I want to go I need to get a grip.

Lacoba if you want to delete something you can report your own post.

Cross posted Sassy I'm also seeing MrCrumpet tomorrow who is much more my cup of tea. He coaches children's rugby .

waving if logistically you can go. Go!!!!! Get some sun!

fox go on the date....

At the beginning of relationships in the past I've often got norethisterone to postpone my periods . They used to be ridiculously heavy and unmanageable. Now I have the mirena coil and I hardly get any periods at all. Best decision I ever made after the decision to leave my exh

I think it depends on the man, some don't bother, some might be squeamish. It might be worth hinting to him that it's that time and testing the water? See which side he's on not bothered v squeamish.

DrFoxtrot, I've been recommended the Mirena (horrible perimenopausal periods) - I'm tempted but worried about any effect it might have on libido Can I be nosy, and ask if it's been okay for you?

It's been fine for me, but the beauty of it is that you can just have it taken out if it doesn't suit you. Well worth a try.

waving every guy is different. Some just won't go there during but plenty of other stuff to do. Others don't bat an eyelid.

I'd give him a heads up, but then if I'm sleeping with someone I'm pretty open about this stuff. I bet you he won't bat an eyelid either way (ie. He will still want to see you), but I would give pre warning so he knows.

Excellent are you going to go to Spain?

OMG re the romance waving - go!! And don't fret about or mention the period!! It's life. You're adults. It'll be handled however you guys need it to be...

DrFoxtrot do go out on the date! And yey for another tomorrow!

Geordie deffo go on the cinema date as long as it's a good movie Might be fun. That's what's it's about, right, and he can't 'geek' you in the cinema, really, can he?

Dee I'm sorry you are feeling down. Be kind to yourself.

ocelot

Well done muddling on the message!

Lacoba what a cowardly douche MrDiamond is. Im surprised. And sorry.

Twix has just now messaged me breezily... that he found out today his work commitments (which looked last wk like they would prevent us from seeing each other tonight - my child free night) have been postponed. Except there is not even a sniff of a mention either asking if we could see each other later, or saying he needs to be home for his kids, or work, or anything at all. Just a mention in passing... I'm not part of that equation...

My take home message is that he's really not bothered, ultimately (our last date was a quick pint last Wednesday). I'm not replying to the message. He's either pretty lukewarm about me - or merely emotionally unavailable in a 'I prefer to float around being creative and beholden to nobody' sort of way.

I have to accept its time for a load of distraction irons. Because our exclusive chat was about sex and not about the sort of relationship we are after. So I'm not secure in this and he's making me feel shit (in case you guys hadn't noticed haha)! And I'm smitten and will get hurt if I keep waiting for him to emotionally 'show up' (to coin Natalie Lue).

I'm off all the apps now so will need to re launch myself into OLD. Praps at the weekend. Although we've planned to see each other Saturday. I need some encouragement to get back online, ladies. I'm really fucking pissed off if I'm honest. Because when we're together it's different. And I am the fucking prize - just not in his world!

I have a cold but might go and cry into a large glass of wine with a friend later...

Oh no Handy I didn't think Twix would be like this. Is he just one of those oblivious characters who thinks he's doing enough and showing enough interest when he isn't? Probably leaving it until the weekend before going back to OLD is best, a few more days to fathom what is going on. But if it's not feeling good then something isn't right.

It's nearly date time and I'm nervous because I don't think I'll fancy him

Oh now just this min - 30 mins later he's bloody sent a 'Ps I thought we might meet if you not doing anything -might be a bit rushed ' message.

Still not exactly being hunted down!

Don't know what to say now??

WTF do I do? Shall I MH him and tell him I now have plans? I feel like I just don't think it would bother him!

Ever the Mooseburger with this guy! I'm out walking the dog in the rain and my keyboard barely works and I FEEL SHIT !!!!!!!!!!!

foxtrot good luck for your date, looking forward to an update later and hoping in person he might suprise you!
handy go on the date with twix, maybe he's just not very confident? If he's better in person and you click when together then it may just be that he's not a great messenger etc? How many dates have you been on? Sorry for not knowing the back story, but I can see you really like him so well worth swallowing the offhand text and accepting the invite to see how it goes?