What would you put in DATING THREAD 101....

[tanyadm]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

I'll have to catch up with this thread later. B at work but coming back later. Has been nice having him here. My mother let herself in with a key when we were in bed yesterday morning. Unbelievable. No fekking privacy.

I was texting mr canceller at the airport but I think I'm seeing everything he says through the filter of ''gone off you now'' so I'm not sure if I'm judging him too harshly for a jokey comment.

Oh oh ohhhh message from MTG sit on hands for at LEAST 30 seconds! But yay, I'm unreasonably excited about this!
In other news, one of my irons slowburner has been more forthcoming on POF this morning and is asking about meeting for a drink. Not sure I'm feeling it, I do like the look of him from his photos and he's local, plus has a young child so on paper all ok but his personality is a little dull so far. Well worth a meet up/quick drink to check out if he's better in RL so hopefully he will firm up some details and I can actually get a date that turns up this week!

How exciting today! Can't wait to hear what MTG has said. Love the ship stalking

ocelot I completely second what has been said about getting on with your great life, looking after yourself and if you feel able, chatting to some other men.

last there is a reason why that man is still single!! It can feel like the good men are few and far between. Block and onto the next. Definitely have a drink with slow burner.

I have two dates planned! MrRescue tonight and MrCrumpet tomorrow. I don't think I'm going to fancy MrRescue but it will be nice to meet him.

Doing a happy dance for you waving I don't think that could have gone much better could it? How lovely that he called and not just sent a brief message, and that he's keen to see you! If you'd love to see him say so!

foxtrot looking forward to hearing how your date goes this evening, and for some reason the name mrcrumpet made me chuckle!

Just read the thread and I think I know what's going on!

Yes waving, we were in bed , seconds away from getting right down to it, when the door bell rang. I froze. 30 seconds later I heard the key in the door, so I had to leap up out of bed, grab my dressing gown run downstairs to get rid of her. Normally I'd give her a coffee, but I was saying ''ok, thanks! bye now, see you". I wonder if she's suspicious. She probably is but it will never be mentioned I hope. I can't cope with any more disapproval.

Lol at boat stalking! why wouldn't you!? you'd be weird if you didn't ! :-p

lacoba good text. Not sure what happened though :-(
handy what's going on, somebody said you were worried about twix friendzoning you?? surely not.

tanyadm thanks for the new thread. I'm not sure I've any business on this thread right now. Mr canceller is the only iron I have and I'm not mad keen to follow that up. I don't know, I like him but I've doubts too. I don't think I will look for irons until May. The next few weeks are going to be so busy. I've two different friends who live abroad coming home, loads of plans to meet up. Driving lessons in the evening.

Going to do a work out now.

ps, hello to freaky and batshit and alaugh and ocelot and everybody else too.

freaky well done, you nailed that rasher to a date finally

lol at poetry with moist rhyming with hoist.

I'm genuinely laughing out loud at that! oh dear!

My gosh, this thread moves fast!! It's a full time job keeping ontop of it! haha

Batshit I've read Mr Unavailable, I love the author's blog. But it took me AGES to realise that Mr Unavailables are actually just men with an "avoidant/dismissive attachment style" (Totally into learning about attachment styles at the mo).

Nannys Yes I am from the North East. How did you guess?

you nailed that rasher to a date finally funniest line this thread!

You are so not leaving this thread 314 till you've told us about yr bare bear w/end!
And besides I've spent months here with only a brief hint of an iron (Sheffield) - would I have to leave too?

Guys, what's an iron? Explain please!

Iron in the fire= potential date...
We need a glossary!

Thanks ocelot Have just googled it. Makes perfect sense in this context!

ocelot he's coming back luckily!

not 'til later, and I have to go to work tomorrow, it's been really nice. It feels comfortable, sort of like we are already in a relationship, except that we are not of course. But it's not excessively romantic or exciting or uncertain because I know exactly what the score is, but I enjoyed having him here, we climbed a mountain near me yesterday. He wanted to do that. But I was glad I did. He knows the names of all the mountains in the distance. He asked me did I have an ordinance survey map of this area. ha ha ha ha ha. Men! :-p what are they like. I said, em, no I don't. But he pointed out a range of mountains that can be seen from where he lives and from where I live. So that was kind of nice. I made a curry while he smoked. I enjoyed watching a documentary in bed with him, enjoyed sleeping with him, felt very comfortable with that side of things. I can be very inhibited but I'm not with him.

I was worried I'd be falling in love with him, getting ideas, but I'm not. I feel so fine about the situation. I like him, but it sort of feels like I've already been going out with him for a few years. I can't explain it. It's not like that new excited feeling you get with somebody when it might be a thing. I'm glad he's coming back later though. I want a bit more before he goes again.

314 that sounds amazingly lovely :) you have had the w/e d I would have chosen!
If you need to be not getting attached I hope you are managing it... Not sure I would

Afternoon everyone this morning i sent my first ever message to someone on match. He responded i felt a bit strange and blushed (not that kind of message) my friend was laughing at me lol. I have now responded and sitting on my hands to not check he has responded again.

muddling it does feel a bit strange to begin with but you soon get used to it and before you know it you'll be messaging and juggling several irons in your fire!

Hi ladies
Another thread begins
Easter was hard really struggling with this OLD...feel I also need to take some time out...had a second date with Mr nice
..he's nice...but he was hungover and I had my time of the month.. So hard to realky judge the date,Going to see him again at weekend and decide...we'll end if I'm honest,normally they do the ghosting... So I'm going to find it really hard..I'm too nice and don't want to hurt anyone...
Hard to keep up with everyone on here...but lovely to hear the positive stories...
Does give hope....
The attitude is to go on lots of dates...see it as a fun thing... I think I'm too sensitive to do that... I take the rejection very badly...then go on a massive journey criticising myself.. It's tough..its brutal...and I still don't know if it's for me...

Oh deedee it's not for the faint hearted is it? I find the rejecting as hard as being rejected, if I've had an "ok" date with someone but there is no chemistry for me and there looks like there is for him, I find it terribly awkward wording and sending the brush off message!

I know, that's really hard. The message that there is nothing wrong with the person at all and in fact you do like them but that you couldn't imagine wanting to sleep with them.

Got a date at the cinema tonight with someone I met at speed dating. He's a bit of a geek and I'm not that fussed about him. Am I a bitch for going anyway?