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What would you put in DATING THREAD 101....

999 replies

tanyadm · 28/03/2016 11:58

The Rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.
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aMag314 · 30/03/2016 15:46

Well, either mrcanceller is genuinely busy or he is rebuffing me for not having engaged in his weird text chat last sat. Either way, I think now it's been left very civilly if this is it. Friendly emails both ways. If I never hear from him again, I'd still wave and say hello if I bumped in to him by chance. So phew.

Ocelot, realistically, I would be insane to try and get more irons during April. April is just going to be crazily busy. But in May, things calm right down. and both of us have to message ten people on the first of May!? you can do it before me, or you can wait and do it with me but OK, I'm going to do it. I also need a photo of me, full length. In a dress perhaps.

GeordieBadger · 30/03/2016 15:52

BatshitCrazyWoman only one?? RED FLAG ALERT.

aMag314 · 30/03/2016 15:54

Glad to hear it DrFoxtrot!

lastnicknamefree · 30/03/2016 15:55

foxtrot yay for loo updates, I have a good feeling about your new bit of crumpet! Grin

TheDatingDoofus · 30/03/2016 16:03

Good update Fox! Crumpet is as crumpet does... or something Grin

ocelot7 · 30/03/2016 16:30

Its a deal 314 :)

GeordieBadger · 30/03/2016 17:07

Question: Is it possible to go on too many dates?

HandyWoman · 30/03/2016 17:11

Yey for DrFoxtrot!! Smile

sparklesnpearls · 30/03/2016 17:27

Geordie I must have had about 50 in 4 years I been single Blush

TheDatingDoofus · 30/03/2016 17:35

Thanks for the advice on Tinder, ladies. I have a date with a Mr Bulldog on Friday Grin

IdaShaggim · 30/03/2016 18:08

Evening all... Have been following the thread for a couple of months, but you all inspired me to join Tinder so I thought I should jump in Smile I'm early forties, divorced last year after an abusive marriage, and live in very remote rural Wales so the pickings are slim!!

BatshitCrazyWoman · 30/03/2016 18:12

only one?? RED FLAG ALERT

Yeah, I know! He has stopped with the texting now (thank goodness, as I had lots of stuff to sort out today, and didn't need my phone pinging every five minutes!).

N (date tomorrow) seems a bit off, not sure if that will be happening ....

WavingNotDrowning · 30/03/2016 18:36

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HandyWoman · 30/03/2016 18:44

Please come back waving hahaha!

So exciting!

Welcome IdaSmile

TheDatingDoofus · 30/03/2016 18:48

Hello Ida I'm a newbie here too :)

muddlingalongquitenicely · 30/03/2016 19:16

Newbie here too Ida :)

Lacoba66 · 30/03/2016 20:07

Welcomes to Ida Doofus and Muddling Grin

Muddling I think that's a very good reply on the link he sent, especially as there was content and not just the link.

Mygast where've ya been - lol.

Ocelot I'm so sorry that you are feeling a bit 'stuck' but I've been there & listen to the good folks on here and their advice- it'll feel like an uphill struggle at first, but you will get there!! M is not worthy of you!!!!!

Handy - Grin Grin is all.... Well chuffed for you!

Bloody hell Waving envious, excited, cheering you on are just a few of the expletives that I have to say- have a fabulous time away!

Lacoba66 · 30/03/2016 20:14

I know that I miss lots of people off, when I post, but I can't post at work and you all move wayyyyy too fast for me Grin

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 30/03/2016 20:22

Evening all! Sorry, have had a busy few days!

No news on the Bacon front. I haven't heard from him since the convo we had on Monday. Which on the one hand, I am weirdly feeling fine about. With all the date cancelling etc, I think a bit of space is a good thing. I'm way over-invested all ready and I think daily messaging would just build expectations too much.

On the other hand, reading back the messages, he didn't actually confirm the 9th...He said he was free the weekend after next, I said, "so, the 9th then?" but he didn't say yes...conversation just continued. My plan was to message in a couple of days and just confirm the 9th in a breezy fashion...that's cool, right?!

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tanyadm · 30/03/2016 20:22

Handy and Pie, hooray for Twix and Bear, good times! Also, Waving, the MTG story has been so lovely and unexpected, have a wonderful time in Madrid!

Ocelot, hard though it will be, you have to find a way of pulling away from M. We've all been there, hankering after something that just isn't going to happen, and it's horrible, but chasing the impossible will just hurt more and more.

I got a job offer today, after weeks of stress and anxiety. Only found out yesterday morning I had the interview, was 10 this morning and had job offer by 3. Feel a bit dazed and exhausted now, but pleased, and can get back to the important business of iron warming! I sort of ghosted the tall PhD...

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IToldYouIWasFreaky · 30/03/2016 20:26

Oh, congrats on the job offer tanya, that's brilliant!

HandyWoman · 30/03/2016 20:29

You ghosted the tall PhD? Think he is psychotherapist? What did I miss? What did he do wrong?

Congrats on the job offer Smile

Freaky yep a breezy confirmation at some point. Perhaps not til next week if you can manage??

TooSassy · 30/03/2016 20:45

Evening all!!!

Yay waving!!!! Am so so so excited for you!!! You'll have to make sure you keep us updated out there! Grin

fox is it wrong that I'm laughing out loud at 'hospical?' Great loo update on crumpet!

trills nice work on the irons!

who brilliant line on the manhole. This thread just gets better and better.

ocelot I have a version of nuclear but I'm absolutely sure it's not the MH version. Delete his details! You have to move on, really you deserve better than this. He's been needlessly cruel and shown his true colours.

steady I'd reply with to the hey with 'I'm not a horse. Who is this?'. Then if he tells you, I'd tell him that the last time you looked you didn't have mug tattooed on your head. Then tell him where to go. Or you could just ignore. Wink.

handy am sooooo glad all is well with twix!

at gast

last How's the hunni iron faring?

314 oooo. How are you not going to fall for bear? Dare I ask?

jolly yes to the sweet shop mentality.

geordie good list, going to have a think and add to it.

batshit one??? Oooo. I'd back away at high speed!

ida welcome

lacoba is diamond still silent??!

Hello to everyone else on the thread! Moves way to fast to say hi to everyone!

Original poster
tanyadm · 30/03/2016 20:46

Nothing really, I'm just a bit wobbly, and there's no long-term prospect there. There's a nice man I'm chatting with at the mo who works in artificial intelligence, so that's nice.

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PrincessBooBoo · 30/03/2016 20:49

I had a (2nd) date on Friday, and at the end he received a text which he opened and said, ''Oh it's from a GF. She says she misses me and sorry that she hasn't called.'' I was a bit Meh to be honest Hmm

What would you do?