What would you put in DATING THREAD 101....

[tanyadm]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Yes trills one more frog down!

WhoWants he must have been rendered incapable! But it's all practice.

I've just had a really gorgeous match send me a tinder message and I think I've ballsed it at the first hurdle my replies have been really clunky. Oh well...

Umbongo: (page 1, sorry!) How did you and your estranged Husband re-connect?

Argh! Woken far too early thinking of M :(
Waving just out of interest - can you explain MHs nuclear option - for if I ever want to completely burn my bridges...!

Ah...well that would be pretty nuclear! M closed it down on friday when he thought I was asking him to explain why - I wasn't but he clearly still feels bad about it (?) & unwilling to talk about it.. :( he said that we have very different ways of dealing with "endings" ie no contact/no goi g back v talking it over (but then he decided & I had it imposed so we weren't dealing with the same thing....)

I know I know...though can't control my waking thoughts :(
I didn't ask him (as did not want to hear that!) But a sensible person would infer it ...
He did say before that he rarely changes his mind(!)though someone in MH field said that's most men's comfort blanket
And in lucid moments I agree with Sassy(?) ie why would I want someone so stubborn? Its NOT a virtue!

So Mr Wtf has messaged me. Just 'hey x' (how inspiring...) It's been over 3 weeks since he last stood me up and I've not heard a peep from him. I ignore it, right?

ocelot please go and get some new irons to distract yourself and give you something nice to focus on. I know it's hard but it will help I'm pretty sure
steady how much LESS effort could he actually put in! I don't know the backstory but even without the being stood up I'd ignore that, he clearly thinks he doesn't have to make any effort.....not exactly being treated like you are the prize or wooing you!

steady too right you ignore

I'm away without signal so I'm signing in to wave before it drops again.

lacoba Captain Pugwash is so called because he has a seafaring connection, I won't say what exactly because it could out him but I will say that he looks nothing like Captain Pugwash. He's tall and slim, no beard.

Hopefully I'll have signal this evening so I can read and reply properly.

Steady what a prize cock he is. Ignore! Better still block the bastard.

Sorry, it's just how dare he after he treated you so much disrespect.

morning all!

Just got to work after staying over with Twix. I think I'm just about the happiest person in the world right now Glass of wine, relaxed chatting, both of us sharing at last a bit about our pasts which seems to have finally opened up the emotional connection to go with all the bloody ridiculous chemistry. Which is exactly what the doctor ordered. And then just the. most. wonderful. night. with him leading the way. And falling asleep in each others arms. Am not in any doubt any more.
Am just ridiculously happy.

Today I shall be knackered but grinning like a loon.... It will take a lot to wipe this smile from my face.

Handy that's so lovely :)

Wow Handy that sounds amazing! So glad you found a deeper connection too. Very jealous here!

handy!!!!! How fecking awesome, so happy to read this! Yay for twix

Need your help want to message someone but stuck with what to say. Any suggestions for a first message to someone who likes cooking going out socialising wants intellegent conversation. I was going to ask him his ideal dinner and guests but my friend thinks its not an ideal question/ice breaker

Rarely find anyone interesting on Ok Cupid, it's not been working for me so far, but just had a quick browse and found the most interesting sexy man and we are a 91% match so be sent him a friendly message, hopefully he'll reply! In other news I'm getting very bored with my slowburner guy from POF. He says on his profile he's laid back but he's actually coming over as completely can't be bothered/disinterested. Half heartedly asked me out for a drink, but no chat inbetween let alone banter and he takes about a day to reply to messages, it's slooooowww and I'ts feeling like I'm making all the effort here while he's practically horizontal, and taking all the moose burgers! may still meet for a quick drink if he can actually bother to firm things up, but only because I have nothing to lose -and nothing else on--

Muddling can you talk about something you like cooking/yr ideal dinner then invite him to respond rather than just asking Qs...

Great update Waving So happy for you :)
I am really trying to channel universal positivity here too ....

I ended up asking a question about which band/singer he would like to see. It feels lame but afterwards i thought it was a question that always gets asked when i go out with friends.

Ok so first iron has messaged me with a link to a youtube video of cirque de soliel duo maintenant benissimo and not sure how to respond now.

Handy really happy for you! I know that feeling of having a great big grin on your face all day, been too long since I felt like that!

Waving good for you, have a fabulous time and even if it doesn't work with him you'll still have visited Madrid and had fun, right?

Muddling did he just send the link only or some comments as well?

He responded to my question gave a little more info and then said i might like the link. Its quite a seductive dance routine from cirque de soleil!