What would you put in DATING THREAD 101....

[tanyadm]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

A bit of a 'non' update from me. Total silence from Mr Diamond (and there won't be tonight, as he's an early bird due to work). Guess it says it all really ish.

The longer he leaves it (maybe not at all?) the more I will think FU and not be willing to engage.

Maybe I 'mooseburgered' to soon?

If I can be really honest on here, what he has done has thrown me back again to my ex twatishness (new made up word . It's the tell you one thing & then renage on it. I end up questioning myself as to whether I'm making too much of this. He did apologise & professed to delete, but in hindsight, I should have said " do it now in front of me" but I panicked and thought that to be quite 'controlling'.

Gutted to be honest, but will continue to protect myself & may even dip back in to the OLD again soooon

With texts but he still online every time I log in to check

I really hate it when I like them more than I suspect they like me... insecurity is an ugly trait

Lacoba that's rubbish, why can't people just be honest?

sparkles thank you for that. I don't know the answer, but if I ever find out I will be a rich woman .

I will have my mantra for now as "his loss & i was the prize"

Sparkles I've gone back and searched for you, but can't find you (sorry). What's happening- if you want to share?

Oh lacoba .
You're not making too much of it. At all. He told you he was coming off the dating apps. Not only has he not come off them, he was actively still checking one. He lied to you. Either he mans up, owns it and tries to explain himself or he slinks away 'guilty as charged' because he knows he was up to no good.
Why are you kicking yourself when he was the one to deliberately mislead you?

Wow lots going on!
foxtrot I like your style checking out new irons while awaiting your date!! But also glad to see he was/is lovely and looking forward to hearing another update later on
doofus welcome! I did laugh at the bit where you said you kept getting matched with your sister! and good for you knowing you are awesome
batshit yay for a 4 hour date! Sounds very promising, did you have loads in common/to talk about?
handy have a lovely date with twix unashamedly stalking to see how it went...
jacoba

Pinging you to stay awake -lol! Fab days away in the sun- what more could you want.... Sooo happy for you!

Hey gang.

Chatted to MrTV for a while last night and eventually managed to arrange a date for Friday.

MrThursday from last week (who cancelled our Thursday night date on Wednesday) has restarted chatting but not yet attempted to book anything. I'm busy Thursday, have a date Friday, and a cooking class Saturday so if he's thinking of rebooking he'll have to get in line.

Waving I think I would go to Spain just because it's nice to go to Spain.

Doofus Tinder for me has not been for hookups at all - have had some very pleasant dates out of it. I think it's not too difficult to determine who just wants sex from pictures or from the first few messages.

trills ha ha at the get in line bit! Good for you

I'm not deliberately trying any tactics, I'm just busy!

Thx for the flowers & thoughts Handy & Batshit :)
I'm keeping busy enough that I go hrs without thinking about M but times like now coming home to an empty house... not so good...

PS glad you found the dog Handy! And that you are presumably with Twix now... :)

Daft question alert but i just installed tinder but it wants me to do it with my facebook account which i did then deleted because it kept matching me up people with common facebook friends. I would atm prefer not to be connected to these people as they also are good friends with my ex. Is there any other way of logging in?

You can only create a Tinder account with Facebook.

You don't have to say yes to any of those people.

You can also create a new Facebook profile just for Tinder if you like.

If you create a new profile just for Tinder, you still might see those people and they still might see you because you will still be the right gender/age/location. They just won't be

They just won't be informed that you have friends in common (because on the new Facebook account you don't)

Ah okay one of them it said we had friends in common then on another i had 5 2nds so i got scared and deactivated the account.

Will look to set up a facebook acc just for tinder in the morning. Thank you

Well that's one iron down...NEXT

Just not for me at all, lovely man, interesting but I actually couldn't get a word in at times and he didn't really ask about me, no compliments etc. It felt like we were in the friend zone on the first date. And I was already lost when he said 'hospical' instead of 'hospital'.

I have a date tomorrow with MrCrumpet which I'm hoping will be a lot better.

lacoba I don't think being three months in and finding he's still on dating apps is anything to do with your actions and mooseburgers you are the prize and he's losing his chance to have you.

Waving you must keep us posted from Spain, how exciting!

muddling I quite like it when tinder tells me we share friends then I can do a handy stalk before swiping.

Right I'm going to collect more irons...

One more frog down, as I have helpfully been told here before :)

I'm getting nowhere. Tonight I've had two bot messages and been liked by a married guy who wants a submissive on the side.

There is one guy whose profile I really like, so I messaged him at the weekend. He sent a lovely response, I replied and then he tripped and fell down a manhole, knocking himself unconscious and rendering him unable to message further.

(or that's what I assume happened anyway.)