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I'm not paying for her!

129 replies

Adviceneeded1 · 26/03/2016 08:35

Dh and I haves difficult relationship. 2 Dc . 10 years married. I am sahm.
One of my issues is that he is a show off / holds court and likes to attract attention. I'm bloody tired. The latest incident happened about a month ago. We went for dinner with good friends. I could tell he had drank too much and was showing off. He was giving me the evils at one point, whilst smiling and laughing with the group. At the end, when the bill came, he said smiling that he was not going to pay for me.
The feeling of impotence was just burning .
I get a weekly budget. The restaurant in question is fancy and he knew it would take up at least 1/3 of my budget.it was late in the week and I didn't have enough money.
I just stood up left the table and drove home.
He has been apologetic, but I just can't forgive him. I won't be intimate with him. I'm disgusted. Also I need to GET A JOB.

OP posts:
timelytess · 27/03/2016 13:14

Get/stay angry.
Get advice.
Get everything you can.

And get rid. What a horrible man. Really, get rid of him.

Lighteningirll · 27/03/2016 13:27

Didn't want to read and run I have little new to add other than please keep walking. Step one us to ask around and find the most Rottweiler lawyer in your town and go and see her. You sound just like one of my very good friends she had years of this we all tried to stand up for her but she would never follow through no matter how awful he was or what he did she was terrified of being alone and terrified of him having a relationship with the dc without her. He left her two years ago for another woman and she us utterly devastated, impoverished and has lost her lovely home at 49. Please don't let this be you, this man has zero respect for you and you are allowing that to strip away all your confidence. So what if you are dyslexic and forget to pay fines, I am 'guilty' of both of those, you will still be better on your own or possibly with a man who loves you for your faults not exaggerates and exacerbate s them.

balia · 28/03/2016 16:04

Hope you are ok, OP. Happy Easter.

hollyisalovelyname · 02/04/2016 09:34

OP I hope you are ok.

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