The ignoring....gaaaa

[jellybean2000]

That is all.
Yes, I'm divorcing him.
He will continue to stoop to whatever method he can to control, upset and anger me.
Delay, delay, delay.

I've been here for a while but NC a while ago.

Do you look around uni's at AS or A2 year? Just wondering for DD, who is struggling to narrow down exactly what she want to do in her chosen field.

Lol @ DS2, good he has a strong opinion, he knows what he likes. Half the kids usually stand there yawning so tell him to try and get at the back and it will be over in 2 minutes.

Open days kick off in the summer term of L6 and they have them again in the autumn term of U6. We went to 1 last term, 2 this term so far and 2 more to go (done some miles on the car!).

I guess for your DD she needs to find a course in the area she is interested in which allows to narrow down after the first year. It's not common to find a teenager who knows exactly what they want to study at degree level.

DS2 is usually at the front because he's so amazingly talented a short arse

It's my Birthday that day so I'm going along..I do love a good Birthday hymn! Better still, ex is working that day so if he's not OUT OF MY HOME by then at least he won't be around.

Right ok, best to start looking at various courses so as to narrow it down, she's very creative and would want to study within the arts, this can range from advertising, specialist make up, designing, advertising etc., etc.

Bet I know what your birthday wish will be and perhaps you could add a little prayer when you are in church. I know it's hard but try to do something nice. X

Things awful here. Am assuming he's heard from sol.
DS2 confused and upset. Ex cooked for himself and DS2 but not DS1.
I can't cook while he's in kitchen. I need to be here for DS2 but just want to leave.

Why not for DS1? Forget that, probably no reason, just him being a twat.

Hope it's all settled by now.

hope it's better now. Is it the usual twattery or is he being particularly bad tonight? Does he know now that because he delayed, all the house items are yours?

Can you not just change the locks when he's out now. Instruct sol to transfer the money on x date and change the locks while he's out?

There is no money to transfer - mortgage stalled.

No, things are not better. I hate it.

This is so horrendous for you FV, yes the law sucks when it comes to abusers

Has DS2 settled down now?

I hope that was the strop before he signs. No idea what goes on in his head, how he thinks he can delay this.

Just dropping in to say thinking of you. xxx

Yes, me too. How is everything?

Thank you.
He's still here. I think he signed. 5 weeks after the form was sent. 3 weeks since court order final date passed.

I have barely been at home. I can't stand it.

I am now embarking on residency issues. I feel my sol has failed in her duty of care in not pushing to get Child Arrangement order in place as part of divorce.

The only way to make him comply with any reasonable residency proposals I make is to make it legally binding through court. I can't afford it. I am not entitled to legal aid. I don't know what to do.

I am utterly worn out.

I have exhausted all lines of support. I just don't know what people do in this situation.

I have no idea or suggestions but sending very heartfelt and sincere hugs and good wishes.

I think your situation is fairly unique and I just can't work out what your ex hopes to achieve, any vaguely normal person would have got bored by now and given up.

I agree re your solicitor, I think everything should have been tied up.

How are you embarking on residency issues? He appears to have issues with letting go (your shed must be very comfy) and maybe until he accepts he IS moving out he will oppose any residency order. Look how he has fought against any plans on access whilst you were under the same roof, encroaching on your time because he won't be told when he can and can't see DS2.

Most important thing is for him to move out and then you will need to be tough or he will continue messing around and cause you continued stress.

I remember that the Senior Partner of your Solicitor's firm was helpful before. Perhaps you could write to him or telephone him stating your concerns and asking what his form intend to do (Free of charge) to remedy the situation. As far as I am aware proper Arrangements for the children should be in place before the divorce is finalised.

Firm not form!

Yes, it does sound like your sol has missed a trick. IME the firm will fall over backwards to ensure you're happy to avoid a formal complaint.

cash child arrangement order has not been compulsory part of divorce since 2014.

FV I think you can self represent, and can have assistance from a Mackenzie friend. A centre like the one mentioned above would be able to get you started.

Thank you back
I've heard of them, might be just the thing actually. There are no safeguarding issues and I intend to be entirely reasonable so any court proceedings should be straight forward ie tell the ex to stop being a twat.

Deeds form has arrived. He signed! I can now sign my bit (or wait 6 weeks ha ha ha), send back and then the ££££ should be with him soon. Unless there are other hurdles I haven't thought of or someone hasn't thought to tell me about.

Yay! He signed! Happy 💃

So now on to him realising that he actually has to move out......

I still don't understand how you will physically get him to move it.

Once you have transferred the money do you ask him to leave and if he refuses you call the police because he is trespassing?