The ignoring....gaaaa

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That is all.
Yes, I'm divorcing him.
He will continue to stoop to whatever method he can to control, upset and anger me.
Delay, delay, delay.

I've been here for a while but NC a while ago.

You are sounding very low FV45

TBH I really do think you need to go to court otherwise I think the abuse will continue even after he has moved out.

I am so sad that he is doing this to you and the DC, he is despicable

You are not a burden, had house guests so not much time to be online.

I do understand Randoms point of view and that is still an option but whether you do that in my mind would depend on how much longer you would have to suffer, unfortunately that is unknown until he signs and mortgage is in place. If my memory serves you have a court date in August which is still a little way away. 😞 I am worried that you will go through all that stress and it not be granted then his behaviour will escalate. I know that is not how we should think but there is light at the end of the tunnel in your case and you have come so far that unless you were almost guaranteed to win I would be worried about your mental health etc in proceeding, in case it is refused, especially given how much it has affected you since being refused ex parte.

It could be that even when he has moved out his antics will continue, if that happens then do not hesitate to take action, at least then you will have the safety of your own home.

Has his behaviour escalated since being taking off the insurance?

Def not a burden FV. I'm still here, useless as I am. Wish I could give him a piece of my mind, such a frigging bully

Not a burden, FV - haven't been on MN since last week. I hope you are still reading, as we are all here supporting you x

FV, I've been reading your thread on and off since it started, but had no advice or expertise I could offer (was also going through some difficulties of my own which took up a lot of my attention).

I really hope you are OK. You've been so strong, and have managed to keep going through so many of those thousand cuts he metes out. Hold your head up, you are extraordinary. I'm so sorry that the legal system is letting you down.

Hope this week brings something more positive for you. Been thinking of you. How is your foot now?

I think of you often and I wish you'd update so we know you're ok.

I wish you and the boys well

FV nobody thinks you are a burden, it was only a one day silence!

Have just gone through pages and pages of Relationships to see if you'd updated/were ok!

Let us know how you are xx

I've just been looking down my threads to see if you're still here, thinking of you

FV, I hope you're bearing up, and knowing that people are thinking of you helps to keep you going. It's hard and we're in sympathy with you. KOKO.

Still thinking of you

No updates for two weeks. Hoping everything is ok.

Me too, think of you often but couldn't find your thread

So sorry that you are going through all this crap. My situation is very similar. You have my sympathy. It feels never ending.

FV45 has given me permission to let you know she's OK.

Ah that's good to hear. Having lurked on the thread from the beginning it was rather worrying that she hadn't posted for a while.

Please send her my love, I hope she is managing to hold it together

Please send her my love too. Been checking every day or so for any update. Truly hope she's staying strong.

Actually slightly worried now

Me too

She has name changed, so is probably still about. I have had minimal contact with her, and none since I last posted. I too hope she is OK, but I am guessing that, for whatever reason, she doesn't want to continue with this thread for the moment.

From my own pov, I am glad that people here remember her and have been checking; we can be sure that she will be supported under whatever name if she needs it, this thread or another. I think she'd be touched to know that you will all be there if she returns, but that's just my opinion, as I say, I have only had minimal contact.

Anyway, probably best leave this thread alone now.

Hello,

Name changed back again to thank you for your concern.

I am OK, really. He is away with DS2 ATM. I've not heard from them in nearly a week so am trying not to panic. The respite has been very welcome. DS1 is here and we are having good evenings. I have been happier at work and have managed to catch up with many friends.

Me and the boys are away for a week from the 14th. Booked months ago and really, really thought it would be sorted out by now.

However, it isn't and I will need to brace myself for my return.

There are lots of hurdles still before he leaves. He won't make it easy for anyone.

I do feel more myself though I have developed very chaotic eating and obsessive exercise.

I am terrified of how we are going to sort out residency of DS2.
Thank you again.

Just read your whole thread, FV. Wishing you strength for what I hope is the home straight now.