Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Hopping yes it is a bit tiring - like a full time job really! But you have to start somewhere. You've taken the first step, get some decent pictures when you next get your hair done or something and put them up. Put something upbeat that you like about your life. So how many emails did you get in that short time? Sounds like you're off to a good start.
Waving I've lurked on this thread enough to know that MTG sounds like a better choice - didn't Soho kick you out of bed? If you delete the contact surely you remove temptation (and he may still have your number)

Aloha.

Not a loo update, a home-already update.

I am coming down with a cold. Not much fun. But it did allow me to gracefully exit after 2 drinks this evening. Nothing WRONG, a perfectly pleasant evening, but no spark and I wouldn't have wanted to take it any further.

Urgh Trills wrap up warm and get well!

Hopping can you get a friend to take some photos of you? Yes to time-consuming. Absolutely. But before long, and with the help of the thread, you'll be an expert very soon.

waving maybe you are on the brink of a 'thing' with MTG and just needed to get the Soho message out of the way? Hope you're ok.

Waving you need to let Soho go the man is a heavy laden down lump of baggage till he deals with his shit he'll be a pain too anyone he dates.

He's like kryptonite! he's killing your MTG buzz!

But his strangeness would be much harder to deflect if you didn't have MTG's return to look forward to. I bet MTG will be so uncomplicated when he sees your FB request! he'll just think ''brilliant, waving'' and press confirm. No agonising over the compartments of his life collidinng or anything angsty.

I did swsp level 1 so I'm allowed to post. (I allow myself I mean ) I'm losing it. Coming back to the thread is a treat I don't deserve 'til after my workout. I really am dating the thread.

I joined POF.

The DC have asked if I can turn my notifications off because it's stopping them fall asleep... I'm talking to one person at the minute, he seems nice

Ooh hopping I'm a poffer it's a crazy place but fun

Trills, oh well, you can add him to the list.

HOppingforward, swift work!

Oh waving...you have done so well with Soho....he wasent worthy...
You now know
Delete and block is the only way forward

Oh dear, I think I scared him off - must remember to read their profiles before replying

I'm off to bed, he seemed lovely but doesn't drink and Dc are a lot older than mine even though he is apparently I bit younger than me.

I'm exhausted and think I broke rule 14 on his behalf, oops

He was miserable

Not much has changed then has it?

A guy I had a good first date with about a month ago has reappeared - he has been working abroad (oil pipeline shizzle) since then and we've been whatsapping every so often. He messaged today to say he should be home this weekend and talked about meeting up again. I think I would like to :-)

Am also in the process of arranging a date with another guy of the same name (I have four of them) who I'm chatting to on PoF. He is very entertaining and also new to OLD so it could be good.

Feeling very positive today about life in general, not just OLD. Things are good, all will be well.

You're talking to four guys with the same name not how do you distinguish one from another.......

Good work, Not sounds good.

Universe. Can you please send us Waving back?! I think you just stepped for a minute in a dark hole. I doubt that in only three weeks Soho would have got his shit back together. Plus MTG's line was awesome. And I agree with Handy you probably also needed to get him out of the limbos and clear up the headspace for MTG and all the other positive stuff.

Fox MH is good isn't he? I love the confidence boost that comes with his tips! Re the asking out, I tend to wait 3 days max and then it either comes up or I just say I want to meet up in a jokey way. Freaky's technique is great btw - might steal that!!

Super Monday does not sound like it is ghosting yet but you too dtd I would be expecting a lot more texting and would be seriously pissed off too. I guess you could message him with something about the weekend tomorrow but then you would run the risk of getting into the slow fading zone if he was indeed trying to ghost. So you might be doing yourself a favor by not texting anything and concentrating on getting new irons/dates. Sorry thinking out loud here

Handy I like your thinking and a walk seems to be the perfect setting for having that kind of talk! Re the insecurity I learnt in CBT that a way to deal with it is to try to turn it into excitement for what is to come/what is already. It does work most of the time for me never with dating.

Disappointednomore & Hopping that's the spirit! Yay! I have found Tinder to be much better than its reputation too. Plus there are awesome GIFY for when you have zero inspiration.

Uh Trills get well soon! ..one more frog down, next!

Freaky Bacon really sounds like a good one, he might not reschedule that date at the moment but it seems like he is very likely do so quickly. I am feeling positive vibes here!

314 the thread is the best date ever!

I am very boring tonight, I do not have the slightest angst about MrOrganizedYogi. He is texting and even starting starting to show a goofy side. It is weird, I feel completely zen.
Oh and today I was daydreaming reliving the make out session and got lost while going to the same supermarket I have been going to weekly for the past two years.

(Sorry everyone else I missed)

Uh oh, apparently I cannot go shopping or proofread. Sorry.

So I'm chatting to various men- what's the etiquette now that I've had enough and want to go to bed? Shut the ipad and go? Or say goodnight ?

and he's growing a beard for me

Funny.

Aw! clone him! we all want one!

What is MH?

I've not dated in years (many years) so any advice very much appreciated!