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Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

999 replies

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 16/03/2016 15:12

The Rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.
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WavingNotDrowning · 26/03/2016 13:26

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ALaughAMinute · 26/03/2016 13:37

It's a shame your date wasn't brilliant 314, but having had a very similar experience to Handy, I would say it might be worth giving him another try.

Hello Geordie and welcome!

Trills · 26/03/2016 15:22

OKC amusing first message of the week

Hello, a quick and straightforward point - would it be a chance that you may like being served and worshiped, maybe having your feet pampered? I would love to run errands and do chores, amuse and relax you - asking nothing in return; and not to worry, I am obedient, patient and not looking to interfere with your life more than I am allowed. I am looking forward for your reply and I wish you a good Easter!

Anyone want his details?

Trills · 26/03/2016 15:25

I am trying a different tactic and have signed up for a singles cooking class thing next weekend.

Even if the men there are all not my type, I think I'll enjoy the evening.

CiaoVerona · 26/03/2016 15:29

She started online dating six months before the Guardian started publishing I wonder how long they're actually together it must be at least 6 months too a year.

After my own wobble about MTGS early declarations am now firmly thinking he's the real deal you two are going to make it Waving.

Enjoy the fruits of your baking......

CiaoVerona · 26/03/2016 15:30

Blimey Trills the only thing hes not offering are his wages:)

AnnaChronism · 26/03/2016 16:18

Me Trills!
I never get messages from those types, which is a shame because I could do with someone to get down the back of my radiators and give my oven a good going over Grin

HandyWoman · 26/03/2016 16:30

Hahahahaha Anna!!!!!!!

Trills that's genius with the singles cooking class. Please report back!

Been out for a run, dog walk, shopping with my youngest. Bought the last 2 Easter eggs in the supermarket. Now going to make a fruitcake.

No angst about Twix. Only pining. But we had a lush and friendly and fun text convo this morning. He's gonna ring me this weekend. Feels good.

Wine and PJs for me tonight! pumpkinmoon is out tonight in her lovely dress. Anyone else?

tanyadm · 26/03/2016 16:43

I survived the daughter's pony party and have some sparkling red in the fridge. 😊

WavingNotDrowning · 26/03/2016 16:49

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Trills · 26/03/2016 16:50

This is the "dating thread" right, not the "online dating thread" - so I'm allowed to seek out dates through other means and still talk to you?

Saturday daters please tell us your plans!

Man who cancelled Thursday night on Wednesday night has not sent a single message since, despite being very apologetic on Weds. Odds on him messaging ever? Not great I think.

pumpkinmoon1 · 26/03/2016 16:52

Haha thanks for the mention Handy :) I currently have hair dye splattered all over my head and hoping to God that my ex isn't out or if he is I have the strength to ignore him! I shall update!

HandyWoman · 26/03/2016 16:54

Mmm you could be right there, Trills except that after a few months I think they do have a habit of reappearing...

Well done re party - time for wine soon??
And of course re other means of dating! The more means the better!!

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 26/03/2016 16:57

Aw, Handy It's so nice to see you back on track re Twix. I wish I was out tonight but I will be joining you with wine and PJs. I am feeling fairly positive about it though. I had a lovely day yesterday with DS and family and we went out today so an evening in is fine.

No irons here. Keep popping back into PoF, getting disheartened and leaving. Part of the reason for the disheartenment (totally a word!) is that Mr2015 is back on there with a new profile pic which means he is no longer seeing whoever he was seeing. Which has stirred up some mixed feelings for me. On the one hand, I am pleased cos I feel like I can contact him again. I backed right off when I thought he was seeing someone and now I don't have to. But then also, he's back on PoF which means he wants someone...and it's not me. But then I don't want a relationship with him. He's too confusing and complicated. Ugh.

Also on PoF last night, someone offered to pay me for sex, which is a new low! His profile pic was a bunch of £50s and he offered weekly meetups and "I'd make it worth your while". Scumbag.

Couple of new matches on Tinder but one so boring I cannot be bothered and the other one doesn't seem that keen. No word from Bacon (which I expected) but he's also not been on WhatsApp since Tuesday when he read my message, which pleases me more than is reasonable!

Trills Please do let us know how the singles cooking class goes. I'm thinking of trying BMF (British Military Fitness). A friend met her husband through a class and says they are generally good fun and sociable anyway, so got to be worth a try.

314 I also say meet MrCanceller again. Maybe you were just having an off day (possibly due to lack of booze!) Under different circumstance, it might be better? Have fun with Bear...sounds like just what you need right now.

Anna Pugwash sounds promising! I hate waiting for texts. 90% of dating seems to be staring at my phone going "why won't you just bloody text?!"

Jolly The only way for me not to angst over irons being online is just not to look. Even though I know it's totally reasonable to have several people on the go before meeting and in the early stages of dating, it still bothers me, so I just don't look. I love that Tinder got rid of the "last seen" feature.

Waving Hope your mum's visit is going ok...and that you are not pining for MTG toooo much Grin I agree with you that families might not always be as they appear. I had a lovely day out with just DS today and it made me think of all the family days out that we used to have when exP would be a moody sod and I'd snap at him etc etc.

Geordie Welcome! I hope we are not a clique!

Sorry for the epic post! Lots to catch up on...

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tanyadm · 26/03/2016 17:03

Kids will hopefully be asleep by 7.30, then that wine is open, tv on, duvet on sofa, then I'm going to crack this OLD business wide open...

HandyWoman · 26/03/2016 17:09

🚀

For tanya

tanyadm · 26/03/2016 17:11
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Trills · 26/03/2016 17:21

Are you a sporty person Freaky? I think BMF might make me cry, and that would not be attractive! :o

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 26/03/2016 17:25

Easter Grin I am sportyish! I run and do the gym. My friend assures me that BMF caters for all levels of fitness but yeah, I suspect it may make me cry too!

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AnnaChronism · 26/03/2016 18:01

I'm out tonight for drinks with friends in the city, not on the pull these could be famous last words

It's blowing an absolute gale here so I'm envious of people at home tonight. Enjoy your wine + pyjama combo and think of me taking one for the team in the middle of a pea souper.

Captain Pugwash did text this afternoon taps watch we're meeting tomorrow night.

JollyXmasJumper · 26/03/2016 18:09

Hello everyone!

I am also staying in with DM, lots of wine and chocolate - looking forward to loo updates! Can we dateless people have a thread online slumber party?

I need to reply to my irons who could be bothered with texting but I am just not feeling like putting in any effort at all. Their texts are boring and I know I will be staring at my phone for hours afterwards so ... bleh.

Welcome Geordie!

HandyWoman · 26/03/2016 18:18

yy to the slumber party - I have wine in the fridge, Twix is having a meal with his family so won't be in touch til late. Is The Voice on?

Good news re Pugwash date, Anna - I think late with a text is balanced out by proactiveness with date arranging.

ocelot7 · 26/03/2016 18:26

Its lovely to be with my friends but I'm sad too :( Feels like we broke up all over again though its nothing like as bad as it was in November...
He wasn't horrid but he didn't want to talk & I couldn't convince him I wasn't asking why etc :( :( :( though I really wasn't but he kinda shut down...seemed like he's only just getting over it himself & did not want to go there...
Still love him but going to try to put it behind me & throw myself into stuff incl dating :) chatting to some guys on tinder...

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 26/03/2016 18:31

Go Ocelot! Any good guys on Tinder? The really dull one I was chatting to last night unmatched me....RUDE! Grin

I'm up for a Thread slumber party tonight! Please don't let me drink too much wine though...I had a random compulsion last night to send a naked photo to all the guys in my contacts that I've either dated or chatted with. It's been running through my mind all day...who would reply first? What would all of their different reactions be? It's really fascinating! Most fascinating is that I have NO IDEA how Mr2015 would react and I actually dated him for 6 months...Anyway, I really, really MUST NOT actually do it.

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ocelot7 · 26/03/2016 18:38

There was a nice guy yesterday but he unmatched me overnight :( maybe because he thought I went silent on long journey to Wales....