Oh bloody hell [Images may be triggering - warning added by MNHQ]

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Name changed. My face is scratched up to shit. Can't leave the house. He is a complete and utter bastard. Reported him so many times and the police don't care. Then again, I am a fool for continuing to see him.

Did they take photos of your injuries?

He called them before you did. This is to discredit you and remove support from you.

This is why everyone was so eager that you go to the station yourself earlier

Never mind. Your sister can help with statements

Love I can't make any sense of this.

Have you had s medic check you out? If the police think you've been forcefully hit and you have no memory of it you could have a concussion or a brain injury. Please see someone just in case.

Don't let the fact he called the police worry you too much. It's a known ta tic of abusers.
It starts witb she assaulted me, she is abusive.
Then when it emerges you have injuries he will claim self defense.
However, the police are not daft.

Was it is the dv unit you saw or just ordinary bobbies.
If the latter you must ask to see the dv unit.

Did they record your injuries?
Have you seen a medic?

Did they have any record of you calling them before?

Also is it likely that the neighbours may have heard anything on this or other occasions?

Its bobbins that he got in first with the police but if you can you need to build up a picture. It is shit that he assaulted your sister but it does go to supporting your story.

Even if he is not charged it may still be possible to get a restraining order.

Stay strong. You are away from him now.
Lean on us and any support you can get. The most important thing is to stay safe.

Report it if he texts you or comes near you.

Ok. So just found out that he slept with my sister. Jeremy Kyle eat your heart out.

How are you holding up pet? I'm sorry the police were less than exemplary in their treatment of you.
How are your injuries. I know they must hurt a lot. A bath might be easier than a shower, as the shower spray could hurt. Maybe put some salt in the water to ease muscle pain? Make it pretty with candles and insence if you have any.

Oh my love - now that is not something I was expecting. God love you. Fuck the salt water bath, fill the bath with wine!

I will regroup and try to come up with something more sensible to say.

What the fuck?!

Did your sister just tell you that?

Ok so he slept with your sister then assaulted her? Last weekend?

Look you're well out of this one. Please get yourself checked over by a doc.

Crikey. Has your sister reported him? Is she ok? How on earth did that come about??

Sorry. Yeah she just told me. But she said that apparently he assaulted her... She has form for lying (alcoholic). But I literally don't know what to think or say or whatever. I feel like I have been stabbed in the stomach.

Well, he assaulted you, didn't he? It's not a giant stretch to think that he's assaulted her too.

No. She slept with him. Can't decide who I hate more/..

God almighty. You know you have us here, but did police give you support numbers to call? Have you a plan about work tomorrow? How are you physically?

Well if nothing else you can say you are definitely well rid of him.

Sorry your sisyer may have turned out not be the best ally right now.

Do you a friend you can talk to?

Nope. No friends right now. Spoken to one. I just feel extremely sick right now... I know I should be more angry at him, but it seriously makes me want to throw up, that she was there, sleeping in my spot, he clearly wanted to shag her...

Well we're here. Feeling sick would be pretty normal. How are you physically though?

Are the police going to arrest him?
I'm just mildly concerned about the head injuries. Were you drinking at the time, or do you think you may have lost consciousness? Have you any injuries beyond the hairline? I.e. not visible on your face.
Would you go to a hospital if you felt ill? You know, that if you feel very unwell, you can call for an ambulance.
I'd be concerned about your ability to go to work tomorrow, unless it's something relatively therapeutic in nature! You'll be emotionally, mentally and physically fragile.

I feel so sad that you don't have anyone to put their arms around you and mind you when you cry.

I'm a bit confused-did your sister say she slept with him or he assaulted her? He's obviously got form for violence. What makes you think she's lying?

My sister has form for drama. And she has been off work for a year or two because she has an alcohol problem. Having said that, I believe what she says. It adds up, if you see what I mean? My face is so swollen. I work with children, teenagers, so they will definitely notice... No injury round my hairline, just huge bruising, etc. Mr policeman asked if I had been hit with a blunt object... Ps thanks roses

To be honest, having looked at your face, it looks to me like multiple slaps/punches. Mr. Policeman probably had to ask the question.

Do you feel fit to work tomorrow? Do you feel able to explain the situation to a manager? Genuinely, if I were you, I would visit a GP tomorrow and get signed off. If you trust your employer, meet them in person if you feel up to it, but a sick note should be sufficient. You'll be in shock. You are in shock.

Do you feel safe now at least?

I am safe now. Just too tired to sleep if that makes sense... I can't take anymore time off, had a week off in January due to horrid sickness and allergies. Can't take anymore time off... But I just know the kids are going to say something tomorrow. Plus I am shattered. And I will have had no sleep..

And don't mind the 'advice' of posters telling you to go into work tomorrow. You're not hiding anything. You've told the police. You can see this go to court very quickly.
I'd love to see them advising someone viciously assaulted on the street to go straight back to work.
Some people are clueless.

Right - well I won't keep you up then - try to sleep. Loads of makeup, concealer etc. and say 'don't mention the war' if questions are asked and change conversation back to work.