Oh bloody hell [Images may be triggering - warning added by MNHQ]

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Name changed. My face is scratched up to shit. Can't leave the house. He is a complete and utter bastard. Reported him so many times and the police don't care. Then again, I am a fool for continuing to see him.

Or given that you've a horse, 'I fell off the horse into a hedge' might be good? 'Now, can we get on with business?'

Arnica is apparently good for bruising (you can rub some in and take Arnica tablets). Gosh, I wish you had medical advice, the swelling won't go down for 3-5 days. I'm not sure whether Ibuprofen would help with the swelling? It will certainly help with the pain at least, though if your stomach is dodgy, paracetamol would be best.

Thanks roses I have some codeine, to help with the pain. My face has ballooned. I will be useless at work tomorrow... And I can't sleep. Oh crap.

I've never taken codeine, does it have any sedative effect that might get you off to sleep?
Pet, you really shouldn't try to go to work tomorrow. Would you ring manager/whoever and pop in with sick note?

You're so vulnerable right now, it could be too many questions for you to deal with.

If your eyes are puffy from crying, stick two teabags in a mug to brew, then pop them in the fridge for the morning.

I don't think anything is going to remove the swelling miraculously, it will be bruising i.e internal localised bleeding. Takes time for that to go away.

Have you consulted a doctor at all? Did the police suggest it? Did you refuse it?

You can expect your face to look very much worse in the morning, as the bruising starts to come out. :(

Glad the police have been and so sorry to hear about your sister's betrayal, just to add further insult to injury.

Don't worry about him having phoned the police - he obviously realised you were going to, so has done the classic "get his side in first" - it will be very obvious who was at fault here (i.e. HIM).

If you feel rubbish in the morning then don't go in. Your face is likely to be swollen and achey, and you may or may not have a headache; so you'd be justified in staying away.

Also, the bruises will probably go through the colours of the rainbow before they go away. Red, yellow, blue, black, purple green (no orange).

Babes - even if you lashed out at him to protect yourself, you know that you were allowed to do that? Also, if you told him he was a fucking prick and slapped him across the face and he left your face like this as a consequence, then he's still the one guilty of criminal behaviour.

Lastly, I read research somewhere sometime, that the more jealous types tend to go for the face, to destroy it rather than the body. Don't take that as gospel though as I'm too lazy to look up the research and probably too dopey to find it.

Judging from your face, I know you took a fair knocking around a room. You didn't just stand there and take a few 'hits'. You know that you're a beauty? It's an awful shock. We're here. Hope you fell well enough to make it work in the morning but if not, don't feel sad.

No advice, OP, just to say that I've been there, bought the T-shirt. I think there is something primitive about how guilty we feel about being the victims of DV, but the only person who should feel guilty is the perpetrator. And it is hard to just turn the love off after the first time they hit you, you really want to believe their excuses and promises.

So glad you have got the police involved and very sorry about your sister.

Hope you got some sleep, how are you feeling today?

Sympathies OP. Sounds very traumatic. I also would not go to work.

A GP won't give a sicknote for the first week though.

Hope with the help of the police that this is the last time this ever happens.

I also wouldn't be quick to disbelieve your sister. He may well have forced her.

I wanted to wish you luck at work today. How about telling the truth to your boss but making up a story for the kids? Car accident, fell off your bike, tripped in the garden. Anything is fine.

I don't know how he managed to make those scratches, they look awful but I think you are doing great. Take everything one step at a time. You have a lot to process.

Thank you all. I am not going to work today, feel so guilty but I just can't cope with it. I look horrendous.

You shouldn't feel guilty. It wold be absurd to expect you to go in. He is the one who should feel guilty, not you for dealing with the consequences of his actions.

I don't blame you love.

You must be reeling after yesterday.

Take a day for yourself, do you think you need to see the doctor?

You would have been at work fine if it wasn't for him. So no guilt needed

I know I know. Feel awful about work. But as you said, if it hadn't been for him I would have been happily on my way there right now. Seriously stressed and feel like I am in a complete nightmare right now... Not sure what to do.

Have you not got a friend, or your mum perhaps that can come and be with you today?

Everyone is at work. Where I should be. And to be honest, not exactly on speaking terms with my mum as I have a nasty feeling she knew about my sister.

I think that you should see your GP or go to A&E.

I have just read through all of your post and I am so so sorry to hear what's gone on. I can't believe how some posters have lashed out.

I was once in an abusive relationship where he would hit me but kept telling me he was play fighting. but not only was he doing it to me he done it to me mum and brother. he finished with me and said he made a mistake and the minute I got with my DP he kept trying to get back with me and even ended up going to the same hotel as my nan when she went on holiday. he made out that I was the abusive one cause I "stopped" him from going out. (the actual case was I caught him cheating with the girl who attacked me so he had to stop that. back then I didn't know much and he made out he got hacked and got his mum involved too). anyway...he made my nan believe it was all my fault and once it all came out and my dad found out my nan was so sorry. running up to this happening he was sexually blackmailing me, telling me if I had sex with him he wouldn't post pictures of me online and wouldn't show them everyone. I went to the police and all they said was to change my number. then he got aggressive in the messages and even tried to injure/kill my partner my tampering with his car. I went to the police again and they said the same thing.

so I know how you feel when they don't help you in your time of need. keep your chin up high, don't let these horrible posts get you down and keep onto the police. for you

If you aren't going to work , see your gp today. Get the injuries assessed and explain how stressed the situation has made you. Not only will this give you much needed support but formally document he consequences of his attack.

I just can't believe this. I am still in shock. Feel sick and shaky. Going to try and sleep for a bit. Just feel like I have woken up in a nightmare. Sorry - drama queen that I am.

You're not a drama Queen at all. Someone has inflicted drama on you.

OK, so you're not at work (fair enough after a serious assault, don't worry about that).

When you wake up your job today is to get this sorted. 3 phone calls: police, GP and women's aid.

If you don't feel anything is being resolved and you still feel ill go to A&E and they'll do full neuro obs and check your neck out. You may well be concussed after the trauma to your face.

Tell your story to all of them. They are they to help you. Soon it will be out of your hands.

Much love to you. I continue to be sorry you've gone through this.