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Name changed. My face is scratched up to shit. Can't leave the house. He is a complete and utter bastard. Reported him so many times and the police don't care. Then again, I am a fool for continuing to see him.

Sorry, x-posted with previous posters.

They won't think you are wasting their time.
They will take one look.

Anyway, even if you had no physical injuries, it is their job to take all allegations of dv seriously.

Darling - they'll take one look at your beautiful face and know that you are not wasting their time. You are the victim of a violent assault and are as worthy as anyone else of police time. That's what they're there for. And I'm sure they would love to be able to help you and see the bastard dealt with.

Keep the texts anyway. You may not think they are incriminating the police may disagree. Even showing that he thinks you were flirting is evidence of a controlling jealous nature.

The police dv unit have a lot of experience in dealing with people just like him. You just tell them what he did and let them do the rest.

I'm glad someone is on their way to help you.

Don't delete the texts especially the one in which he blames you. Even if you were flirting , and I'm not suggesting you were, his violence is not justifiable.

Just report the bastard and stick to it and never look back at him again. You deserve better. Don't let men treat you like crap.

You are not wasting the polices time, you're doing the right thing. Ignore but keep any texts if you can't block. He knows he's in the shit. My exh rewrote history (still does) despite him going to court and being convicted. He may get even more irate and violent which is another reason that police and friends and family should know. You need to keep yourself safe.

Stop panicking OP, the evidence is their to see.

OP he WILL trip himself up. Stand firm and DON'T reply. Tell the police everything and don't hide it tomorrow at work, or from anyone. You have nothing to be ashamed about and have no obligation towards your Ex, especially when it comes to protecting him.

And your sister sounds like a Gem. Let her help you!!

good luck. you deserve better.

For Gods sake some of the posts on this thread are utterly unbelievable- like a how-to guide for shaming victims of dv and stopping them posting again!

OP, the only thing you need or have to do about this is what will make you better. The only person to blame is him, if you take him back once or a thousand times. The average victim of dv is assaulted thirty times before they leave- that's not because it's a walk in the park to leave!

You are very brave to have called the police and I hope you get the support you need. Not to preach and bully like others on tjis thread but it may help you to know that they should help you with steps for your immediate safety, that may include advising you to stay somewhere else tonight, but they should then refer you to a domestic abuse adviser that can help make your home more secure. Good luck OP.

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You are right wild. What happened to "we believe you"?

Just had the police round. He called them. And apparently he assaulted my sister last weekend. I feel horrible

He called the police?

What? Did your sister tell you this, or him?

He called the police? Why?

Yep he called them. Just been crying my eyes out. They were interrogating ME, despite showing them my diary with the pages folded down with every single time he has hit me. They were more concerned about my cheek and my face - which they said looked like I had been hit with a blunt object....to my shame I don't remember this.... But still

She called them last week apparently. He called them this eve

They said he was terrified. And made ME feel like I had done something wrong....

Op you have done nothing wrong.
Did you tell him you were going to report it?

OK. why did he call the police? Did your sister not mention her attack to you?

1. You can give police permission to access texts from phone provider
2. Police can lift burden from you by pursuing case themselves.
3. They will see abuse and control easily. They were happy enough to be concerned about a guy who would follow his ex from where she parked to her workplace and drove past her house on days he wasn't seeing her so they won't think you are wasting their time
4. The flip-flopping you feel emotionally about whether you should do anything is what happens in assault, its waves of adrenaline and emotion that combine in different ways as you progress from threat to (relative) safety, and back. To sympathise, I was assaulted, was clear surprise assault, by someone I didn't know, one punch. Guy had a blade, had been squaring up to people all night. Once I had reported, I was still magnanimous enough to suddenly feel a pang of guilt for ruining the next six months of his life, even though he was clearly pressuring women to go with him by showing the knife, and in other waves, I thought he should have his hands cut off. Its what reminds you you are essentially decent and not just out for aggressive power plays and revenge. Enjoy your regrets as a compliment to who you are, but don't act on them the grim truth is that you have helped reveal himself to who he needs to be revealed to to stop the damage. You have helped lance the boil.

You need to take a step out of the box and see what a manipulate bastard he is.Y ou have been slowly brainwashed into thinking this is the norm.
It ain't.

Did he call them to admit to it?