Oh bloody hell [Images may be triggering - warning added by MNHQ]

[iamacompleteandutteridiot]

Name changed. My face is scratched up to shit. Can't leave the house. He is a complete and utter bastard. Reported him so many times and the police don't care. Then again, I am a fool for continuing to see him.

Op I hope you're ok and have reported him

So I have had to fend so many people off, with the whole 'I fell in a hedge' story. Going home now to lick my wounds. Called 101, they said they would get someone to ring me back. Again.

You should have gone to the station in person, as was suggested up thread. It's not too late to do that, you know. If your sister is still with you, she should take you.

Hedge, eh? :(

It isn't the police's fault.
If you have kept reporting him then not been pressing charges and continuing the relationship you will have been wasting their time.
You should have rang them while he was doing it, pressed charges and never seen him again, ever, the first time he did it.

And you sitting drinking won't help. Nor will covering up for him by telling people you fell into a hedge. Hiding from it in any way just deflects responsibility from him.

Own it. Go to a police station and make a report and insist he is charged and prosecuted. Never ever speak to him again.

So you haven't actually been into the station.
But you're rolling your eyes that they said they'd get someone to ring you back. Despite the fact you've got form for wasting their time.

And you've lied about how you got your injuries. So that nobody will think badly of him when you get back together perhaps?

Why are you "fending off"?? You are NOT in the wrong and have NOTHING to be ashamed of.

As suggested, it is far better to GO to the police station, today. What is stopping you doing that do you think?

The fending off is so that when she's back with him, nobody will think badly of him/ask her any awkward questions like "Why the fuck do you keep putting yourself at risk?"

The reluctance to actually go to the police is for the same reason.

Alright alright everyone, don't have a go at the op, she's doing what she can do right now. She may just not be up to discussing her abuse with every person that asks, or indeed walking into a police station to give a statement.

Op, is your sister with you? Hopefully the police will be round tonight to take a statement, if they ring, request that they do that.

You're doing great, have you heard from the twat?

Thank you bastard for sticking up for me. The reason I haven't been to the police station yet is because a) the nearest one is miles away and b) I have been out with my horse (which by the way, I work fecking hard for to keep him, before you have a go at me about that). Stupid me. Shouldn't have posted, should I? No, not heard from the twat. I should think he is busy getting kicked out of his flat, after his performance last night. Not that I care.

Ps like I said, I have rung 101 and am waiting for them to call back.

I remember you OP, hope this means the end this time.

Good luck.

Why can't you go to the police station now? Do they close early on Sunday's? (genuine question - I have no idea).

You can't blame them for not exactly treating you as urgent. They know full well what's likely to happen. They're over stretched as it is and can't be expected to put the blues and twos on for someone who has form for reporting tiff after tiff but not following through.

Come on, op is posting for support, she's been violently attacked, let's be kind.

Kindness is all very well but it's a bit pointless unless it goes hand in hand with good advice.

The time for hugz, pats and tea is AFTER the practicalities are over.

It's ok betty I deserve the criticism. Yes I have reported him before, and yes he has come crawling back and like an idiot, I forgave him. So it's nothing less than I deserve for being a complete twat

Yes, well she's rang 101, and I hope she will press charges.

I will be doing so.

Hope he bloody well gets deported. He is not british

You absolutely don't deserve what's happened op.

You believed an abuser that said he'd changed, you're certainly not alone in that.

Practicalities have been done Rabbit maybe not as you and others would like, but they've been done.

I hope you're not alone op, and that the police ring back soon, so you can get the statement out of the way. Look after yourself.

OP please can you not see everyone's frustration? You have physical injuries that we have seen and people in RL have seen - they are that bad. You say you are a professional lady and you work, have responsibility to only your horse, which has now been sorted, but you seem to be putting every excuse not to go to a police station. Do you really not know where it is and why won't you google it? Do you drive? Can you not get a taxi?

You don't deserve any of this. Just because you gave him a second - or third or whatever! - chance does not mean you deserve what you got. Please do report. Ask if the police can come and take your statement. Get it on record. And take care of yourself, you've been brutally attacked for goodness sake, none of this is your fault it is his.

I don't drive. And like previous posters have said, I have confirmed that I have rung 101, wouldn't want to waste anymore police time.

Lots of victims get assaulted multiple times before leaving and some never leave. It's a sad fact.

She's reported it ffs! They will come and take a statement.

Tell the truth. You may get a lot of support which could help you make the break with this abusive person. Tell the police, and insist they do something. Big hugs to you. DO NOT hide it as you are protecting him.