Oh bloody hell [Images may be triggering - warning added by MNHQ]

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Name changed. My face is scratched up to shit. Can't leave the house. He is a complete and utter bastard. Reported him so many times and the police don't care. Then again, I am a fool for continuing to see him.

Redroses I think Thatsnotmyrabbits posts are highlighting that OP is minimising her situation. Whether it was the first or hundredth time he is violent and abusive and OP needs to realise that what he's done is wrong and criminal. If she had the same attack while walking down the street I'm sure she wouldn't have hesitated to call 999

Sorry all. Was just looking for a bit of support and a hand hold. But seems my integrity has come into question. So best I leave it Eh? Rung 101 again, they said someone will get back to me in an hour or so. Sorry if I have pissed anyone off, or haven't made my story clear

Can we not pick apart the OP's post? She is a victim of assault, I'm pretty sure she is finding it hard to think straight.

If Police don't get back to you within a couple of hours maybe you should just get your sister to go with you to the station. You need to be 'seen' really, rather than spoken to.

I will go and speak to them in person if they haven't rung me back within the hour. I look disgusting

Good idea OP.

OP it is very important that you understand this is his shame not yours. Tell people what he's done. Go to work and hold your head high. Don't carry his burden of guilt on your shoulders.

And if the police don't get back to you or see this through, take it higher.

Yes, good thinking op.

You absolutely should've posted, I'm not sure why you're getting grilled.

We will be here to support you

Well done OP. Hope you're feeling ok.

Don't leave it. You must act on this. I couldn't understand the logistics of your prior reports to the police but other than that I don't haeve any questions about your story. (not that you should care)

And even if it weren't true my advice would be the same.

For fucks sake, I have two degrees, I am a professional. What the hell was wrong with me????

That's got nothing to do with it. My friend didn't leave until she was literally in fear of her life (barefoot on a February night.) She was told they were really pleased she went to court, because apparently a lot of women with a background of being highly educated and professional won't, because they think they should have known better. But it does happen to women like her, and like you, and from all other walks of life. It's what's wrong with him, not you, that you should be asking.

She was amazing in court, and now, a decade on, is in a far better relationship, with a loved child, and doing well at work. It was an awful, awful decade when she was living in it, but she got out and is now doing well - and so can you.

I hope it goes well with the police.

hennifer you seem to be insinuating that I am making this up? I have endured a wile day of 'oh God, your face', I have rung 101 to report it for the second time (only this time like I have said, there are scratches all over my face. Deep scratches that hurt. I was just looking for a bit of support, that's all. Sorry

For fucks sake theres a dv victim posting and all some judgemental pricks can do is vent THEIR frustration (you have no right to be frustrated with her) at HER situation and nitpick at her posts. This isnt AIBU and even if it was it doesn't give you the right to lecture her on what she should do like your word is law.

Some of the posts above have a distinct flavour of troll hunting well guess what if you think she's a troll you're supposed to report not try and undermine which bits of her story you think don't add up.

That said op youre not wasting police time. If you don't hear from them please chase them or go to the station. You deserve help to get out and stay out of it. Women's aid could help you. If the assault has caused any other symptoms particularly head injury symptoms then seek medical help . . dizziness, blurred vision, headaches, confusion, memory loss etc. Be honest with the people closest to you about how it happened but not everyone you meet needs to know he attacked you. It's none of their business. Not telling people at the stables you hardly know didn't mean you're protecting him. You're bound to be mixed up and hurt and not knowing where to turn. Some posters on here seem to think that situations posted here are soap operas to which they demand a satisfactory conclusion. Its you who is living this and you have to do what is right for you. Keep in mind your anger though. Don't let him back in.

Thank you bear makes me feel less stupid.

I promise I am not a troll, ffs. Why would I post a pic if my injuries if I was??? Just tried to put moisteriser on, and by the power of Thor (or whatever), it bloody well hurt. Sister is on her way. Feeling genuinely crap and sorry for myself right now. Twat was just texting me; apparently I deserved it because I was 'flirting' with some guy...? Blocked and deleted. Fucking hell. Apologies for the expletives

Sweety, please go and see the police? You need to go with the momentum and keep going this time.

You have done nothing wrong, he did this. I know he you feel, but this will pass

We're here for you. Keep posting

I believe you 100%.

You need to open up and stop covering for him too, so ditch the hedge story, you have nothing to be ashamed by or for.

Erm no, that's the opposite of what I was trying to say. I'm very sorry if it appeared otherwise.

I mean, I'm on your side. I believe you.

Thank you. Just spoke to a rather lovely lady who called me back and said that there are a unit on the way over to speak to me... I am scared. Not sure why

He's texting his guilt which means there's something else for the police to look at. Get the twat lifted.

*there is.

OP I am sorry he did this to you.

It is NOT your fault.

I am also sorry the police didn't come last time. That too is not your fault and does not mean you do not deserve to be listened to.

The average number of attempts it takes a woman to leave an abusive rs is 7. They are not wrong and neither are you. The bastards that do the abusing are in the wrong. This time and every time.

Keep at the police until they do something.
There are people here for you. WA are there for you. Your sister is there for you.

He is the idiot. Not you.

Re. The texts if you can block.so that his texts go into a separate folder, do. Don't delete them they are evidence.

Do not reply to them though.
On my phone I can mark a number as spam. All texts go in the spam folder and I don't get any alerts. V useful.

Xpost so glad to hear that. You're going to feel nervous but please don't worry this person needs to be reigned in.

Can't believe this has happened to me. In floods of tears now. He literally gouged my face. I am not pretty at the best of times but seriously!!!!