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Would you find this irritating?

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lottielou7 · 05/03/2016 14:53

I've been seeing someone for about 2 months and finally we had sex last night. However, he kept on saying 'you're mine, I'm yours' over and over. It really ruined things for me and has now put me off him. Would this put you off?!

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karigan · 05/03/2016 14:55

Yes. A bit creepy. :(

TealLove · 05/03/2016 14:55

Yes would be v off putting for me anyway.

diggerdigsdogs · 05/03/2016 14:56

8 weeks and he says this?

Yes, totally off putting.

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lottielou7 · 05/03/2016 14:58

I'm glad it's not just me!

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lottielou7 · 05/03/2016 15:03

Would it be a deal breaker for you?

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wickedwaterwitch · 05/03/2016 15:05

Ewwww

TealLove · 05/03/2016 15:06

I would just feel a bit yuk and go off him

Soapmaker34 · 05/03/2016 15:06

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lottielou7 · 05/03/2016 15:08

Yes Soapmaker I'm afraid so. The problem is that once I go off someone that's it!

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lottielou7 · 05/03/2016 15:18

Yes, he's kind and respectful. He's also only the second man I've encountered who was good at oral. However, I think this particular thing has put me off unfortunately. It's just weird.

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TheNaze73 · 05/03/2016 15:19

Sounds like a wrong un

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lottielou7 · 05/03/2016 15:20

Abisive Naze?

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TealLove · 05/03/2016 15:23

I i don't think its abusive just really quite sad

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lottielou7 · 05/03/2016 16:15

Sad because it's desperate?

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Savagebeauty · 05/03/2016 16:16

Did he say it while he was DTD, or since?

TealLove · 05/03/2016 16:22

It's sad because it's such a drippy thing to say. Couldn't he just have kept it to himself? But I'd have to know more about his personality if I were to call him desperate. What's he like generally?

ravenmum · 05/03/2016 16:23

During the act ... that is a strange thing to say. I'd think he was a bit weird too - might ask in a light-hearted way if the always says stuff like that when excited and see how he responds. But if there were any other weird vibes that made me feel uncomfortable, I wouldn't want to go there.

RudeElf · 05/03/2016 16:23

My exp used to say (exactly) this over and over and would get annoyed when i wouldnt repeat it to him. He was very possessive.

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lottielou7 · 05/03/2016 16:41

Yes, it was during sex. It's definitely not the thing to say to me of all people really. I don't think any of my other partners have ever said such a thing. It's almost like he's trying to seal me into some kind of contract.

I do find him rather clingy generally.

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TealLove · 05/03/2016 16:53

Ah if he's clingy generally then it's something to flag up.
What do you want to do?

OurBlanche · 05/03/2016 16:59

Oh, I am sorry, lottie. But I suspect that I would have giggled and ruined the moment entirely. How on Earth did you manage not to laugh at the time?

Definitely a very good reason to end it now, I couldn't be doing with that, and the future possibilities are a bit scary too!

DadOnIce · 05/03/2016 17:01

Was he singing "Jailbird" by Primal Scream?

RudeElf · 05/03/2016 17:07

Ewwww that he was doing it during sex!! Like sex was some kind of lock on a door that he'd either opened up or locked behind you (aha, you're all mine now!)

Run for the fuckjng hills!