I am supposed to be meeting a guy tonight for our second date. He hasn't even told me at what time we are meeting or where yet

[SoleBizzz]

Am I supposed to wait for him to message me or just make other plans?

This is weird.

Yes, I have. You're telling the OP she sounds 'desperate for a man'... nice.

Well she does in my opinion. I'm allowed to have an opinion based on the emotionally drama filled posts she's written about a man she's met twice (and only once when this thread was started) I'm not the only one to see how over invested the OP is and to say so so how on earth am I sticking the boot in?

Eight years u have chosen to be single pinky. I'm nit desparate just realise there are different dating rules nowadays. He is as insecure as I am. I really don't see us going anywhere and I hardly know him. There are many different layers to a person pinky. You're opinion is horrid.

I nit u

Not

Well, I've said the same to you before, pinky, I only remember you because of your unkind posts. I'm sure that you do post others, but I've never seen any.

Blimey I was just about to wish you good luck. Other posters have commented that it's a lot of drama, not just me. Anyway hope things work out whichever way you want them to. All the best.

Lying you must be thinking of someone else (or you're my ex ;-) ) anyway let's not derail. You can pm me if there's anything else you'd like to say.

Pinky is right though, you do sound desperate. Plus you're saying here you don't think it will go anywhere he's all these bad things...I sure do hope you're not wasting either of your time with another date. Because that's how you end up getting trapped into shitty relationships. Just keep seeing them and then you realise you're in a relationship with them. Cut your losses if you're not interested

OP I apologise if my comments were unduly harsh. I think I failed to appreciate that you're a living breathing woman just like me and not just words on a screen. I would never deliberately cause distress or discomfort to anyone. I wish you all the best.

bake coming back to this late but you asked in response to my post :
"can't a man cook for a woman without it being an issue"

actually, yes of course he can.
But in this case he'd told OP they were going out to dinner. She said herself, 'we're going out for a meal'. If she'd said from the start 'he's cooking for me' then ok but I was interested to know why the plan had been changed.
OP said he was in a 'strop'. I wondered if the change of plans was his way of being more of an arse while he was 'stropping'.
That's all.

And now I've caught up with the rest of the posts this :

"Sole, I think you've had a bit of a grilling on this thread but I suspect this is because a lot of the posters on it know you well and are looking out for you. I hope you get the relationship that you deserve. Best wishes."

I've recently NCd. Don't want to out myself so won't say much more but YY to this.

I think some people are a bit too over invested in this thread and being a bit mean. I think they have made their 'point' and leave it.

Sole I don't think you sound desperate. I think getting back in to dating can be confusing and a mine field at the best of times never mind after a huge break. If it doesn't pan out sole don't let it out you off the dating scene

On a side note, I did karioke on a first date once and it was a right laugh!

I can't force a guy to be in a relationship with me. He wants us to wait before we have sex to see how compatible we are. I think we might end up not together. I can't put my finger on the reason. A bit dull. Flat. I don't know yet. It has been eight years fir me. Dating us confusing.