I am supposed to be meeting a guy tonight for our second date. He hasn't even told me at what time we are meeting or where yet

[SoleBizzz]

Am I supposed to wait for him to message me or just make other plans?

This is weird.

Thats the problem with conditioning.

They vanish for a few days and you panic and then when they come back keen you are so happy you'll do anything.

Ive been there.

I am worried he is a player eyc but I will not have sex with him etc...

It was planned I would have a drink so can't drive Cabrihna.

Ok, be careful and look after yourself. Nobody's gabby is too big though, go to the sex section when you get to that stage for some great advice

JoysMum thanks. I do feel he has been inconsiderate! I will tell him tonight!!!!

Damn right. Start as you mean to go on, hosts is the best policy and no game playing bollocks

Drinking is more important to you?
OK.

More important than only staying at the house of a man you are comfortable with.

FWIW it's not a moral judgement - I've got back and had sex first date. Whatever.

My point is that you aren't even comfortable enough with this man to text and arrange the date - yet you'll stay in his house.

Just don't drink, give yourself the option of leaving. Is alcohol that important to the date?

More important to me than what safety? I had a gin and tonic on NYE. I'm hardly an alcoholic. I feel safe with him but he could still be a dirty player. I will find out!

Then I will be here moaning my head off .

Not safety - though it's an issue, but your call. Like I said - I've decided in the past that I'm safe to go to some man's flat.

No - comfort. You didn't even know whether you should text him today, yet you're prepared to stay at his house.

All I'm saying, is I wouldn't drink this evening so I had the option to come home if it wasn't going well.

Just to try to put the other side to this. Could it be possible that he's sent you a text then gone in to see his new employer (as he told you) and is still there? If I was in meetings with a new employer I don't think I'd want to say 'excuse me I need to text my date about tonight'. It's a bit off that he hasn't considered that you need to know when to get there and he could have sent you the details in the earlier text but he may just not have thought about this.

Last time my DH went in to see a new employer supposedly to sort paperwork he got dragged in to various meetings and discussions and didn't get out all day.

I think you're right to have texted him. Hopefully he'll come back to you with an apology for the late notice etc

He's already come back to her!

Well I have a feeling he is an inconsiderate person already! I'm going to tell him tonight I won't be played. I have a feeling he will be too busy to be in touch after he starts work. I'm too curios to not go. Like the twat I am.

Sole, pack an unflattering onsie and some fluffy slippers and when it gets late imagine a JCB parked up outside with a bucket full of PWBs and their beady eyes on you. Then it'll be all good.
PS don't forget to breathe.

I am packing a huge pink onsie with navy blue stars on. How funny Enrique. I will have the PWB'S on my side.

If you already have the feeling he's inconsiderate, why waste a precious evening on him?!

I'd bust his arse down to evening drink dates only until he proved himself

Telling a player you won't be played is a complete waste of time.
Why are you worried he's a player? Is it because of your past bad experience with other guys or something he's said/done?

Because he didn't tell me where to meet him or at what time until I asked!!

You don't tell someone you won't be played, you show them.
I hope you have a fun night either way, and hope it does lead to something.
But set your standards high.
I don't the sound of his bullshit about cramping your style... every man I've ever dated since the advent of texting has texted nearly every day - only reducing when the end is nigh.
I'd have been quite relaxed about late confirmation of time and location, given that evening/town was already agreed.
I'd be less relaxed about someone who after date one wasn't super enthusiastic to chat to me every day.

op cabrinha is right.

Your gut is telling you that he is inconsiderate/ something is off. You have met him one time.

Stay over, have rampant sex, swing from the light shades ect but I'd scrap the booze. If he turns in to a complete fruit cake or nob head your going to be very uncomfortable sleeping at his house with one eye open.

Many moons ago a lady I knew stayed over at a blokes house she had met on online dating (PoF) they both got pissed and he ended up knocking her front teeth out. She was OK in the end and he got time for it but just be careful.

Be sober

How do I show him now after I asked him for the details of tonight?

I feel as if I have lowered myself already.

Yes what is his problem wrt text g me everyday? I will ask him

I'm with Cabrinha on this. it's a second date, you're really not sure about him but you've already committed to stay over at his house tonight. Fine if you go out and have a great time but if have a few drinks and then decide he's a waste of space you're a bit stuck. Are there no public transport options so that you have a choice at the end of the night about whether to walk away?

Taxi please! It's the contact thing that makes me