Step right up, it's dating thread 97

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We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

Ohhh born Mr eloquent...what does he want
See waving its quite common for them to make contact maybe months after you've last heard from them...
Think you've done so well to unfollow Soho,keep up the good work..
Gast..know how you're feeling
Both my irons want to meet in march..but I'm taking it all with a pinch of salt!!

Well, he still doesn't want a relationship... But he's saying very nice things. And the conversation is getting flirty/steamy again but I'm shutting it down. I'm Anne Boleyning him..no sex (or sexy talk) without commitment
I am still though, I just like hearing from him.

Anne Boleyning him! Ha! Love it! I should be doing the same. I love Anne Boleyning!!! Genius! So many brilliant terms on this thread - we need a glossary!!!!!!

Anne Boleyn was the queen (literally) of the bitches. She bagged herself a king! Mind you, things didn't work out so well for her so maybe not a good idea to use her as a role model.

No, we've not met. We were going to but he backed out. Which is a good thing because we'd end up shagging and that wouldn't be a good idea. But I really do want to meet him, if only to see if there's any chemistry there in real life.

Waving you're doing so well, and you Folk.

MrM and I have had a long chat on the phone this evening, and sorted out meeting place and time for tomorrow. Really, really looking forward to seeing him again

This is a cockapoo, I've been googling. I think he's gorgeous, I'd go out with him

Hahahahaha! I hope mine is as cute and nice to cuddle!

Just had a message from my cockapoo

Anne Boleyning.. Hahaha. See that is why I am happy dating the thread, if only I had half of that banter with my irons..!

That cockapoo is so cute, hope yours is too Handy!

Fingers crossed for you and M tomorrow Bat!and for you too 314! Good on mrCanceller to be upping his game, nice! And I agree that MBTI stuff is pretty useful to figure out what you want / don't want. Good starting point for building these standards.

Yay on the new iron Tanya!

Still trying to figure out to what to reply to MrTheatre - besides "have a good life time waster". So I am hanging out with some , ben&jerry's and some Tinder matches. A few of them have potential to become proper irons so that is a nice distraction. Also going to write to TinyGrey and see what he is up to.

Waving, I'd do NMTZ which is great for toning, and it's hard work, but there's no impact. it's very long so I used to do the warm up, and the first run through of circuits 1, 2 and then 3, 4 & 5 &6 just to move it along a bit quicker.

Mrcanceller and I did try and bring our date forward but he's working late mid week and next weekend I am busy every second, so it is not going to be for ages still. Oh well. I like chatting to him but I think we were both wondering if it would die a natural death within the next fortnight, so I think for now we've just left it, til the date. I like him. BUT it's all bullshit til he shows up!

Jolly, I just looked back over two pages trying to find what mr theatre had said to you. I thought he hadn't messaged you since you met in real life and underwhelmed each other in the flesh.

that cockapoo is gorgeous!

314 he did reply but basically ended it all by saying he realized today he was emotionally unavailable having broken up with his GF in December.

I want to try and play a Matthew Hussey on him, just to see what his reaction could be. So something along the lines of "take all the time in world to figure out where you are at/deal with your stuff and then come find me. We will see if I am still free". Do you think it is appropriate in this scenario?

Oh right. :-/ what's he up to. I wouldn't send the MH special, not after one date. Even though you've emailed each other a lot.

I'd say something a bit like ''sounds like you're really confused there theatre, I hope you figure out what direction you're headed''.

Bit passive aggressive? It is pseudo caring.

Agree with 314 no MH specials after 1 date. MrTheatre did a bit of window shopping and bailed. Pseudo-caring better, short-but-sweet maybe even better? 'Good to meet you, all the best' or similar. A few months down the line in OLD tells me MrTheatre will like the rest of them be checking back in eventually in a few months, anyway.

Well...I have no idea how to be chatting with two men at once. I think I am more into MrWhiskey and so I've kind of already put Analyst on the back burner.

Although Analyst asked for more pics on pof - I declined...and then he asked again through text after I gave my number. He then apologized for being too forward and said he wasn't a pervert, lol. But it gas slowed right down. Could also be the texting though...I find it easier to just write messages through pof

So the guy from last week text me again. What?!
I was around a friend's house for a drink and got something like this:
'Hey, have you had a good day?'
I didn't reply and then an hour later get:
'Are you glad it's nearly the weekend?'
I messaged him saying I had been busy all week and had lots planned for the weekend and next week. I am going away with a friend next week to Ireland so mentioned that too. I kept the text short and not too descriptive. I didn't get a reply lol.
My friend reckons he's trying to 'check in' with me every few days to see if I'm still chatting with him, perhaps he wants to keep me warm. She also thinks that he thinks I may be sat at home pining for him!
The thing is, I find it hard not to reply to people. I'm the type of person that if I receive a message I generally reply.

In other news I have been chatting to a guy on OKcupid. He seems quite nice, we've exchanged a few lengthy messages and then I mentioned meeting up. He mentioned he couldn't meet me because he was skint. I mentioned we could have one quick coffee meet but he kept going on about being skint. I have a feeling he's after a chat buddy. I know money is tight for some people (it has been for me) but he seriously can't meet me for one quick coffee?! I just find it a little strange. He didn't reply to my last message so feeling he's about to vanish into thin air.

Yes waving although can't confirm if he was in a mood about that or not.
It's strange because as soon as I start to forget about him he appears back on the radar.
I don't get him at all. He'll send a message but won't reply to my replies.
I know I should not reply just in general. I'm finding it hard to take my own advice haha
Hope everyone has a lovely weekend :)

Morning! Glad you are feeling ok waving

Mom I prefer texting than the app. I can juggle two men but not more.

Winter the text re Ireland plans actually sounds very descriptive to me! That's a lot of info and makes you sound v interested. With men who are keeping you on gas mark 1 I would reply with minimal info just 'yeah busy weekend planned take care'. And if someone can't get out for a coffee what the heck are they doing on a dating site?

I'm working today and tomorrow. Out on a work do in London later. Tomorrow I have my date with MrCockapoo, who send the most charming and amusing messages. Lovely.

I am looking forward to it so much that I had a dream about going on a great date and having a snog. I am so ready for that to happen totally getting my hopes up I really want to like this one!

I've been pretty naughty. Think I might have found my FWB. Been texting all week, sending photos and chatting on the phone. We are both very new out of our marriages and want a no strings fling. We are both out tonight and we are hoping to try and meet up in a bar. If the chemistry is right I'm taking him home!!!

Morning. I have set up a coffee date with a match from Tinder- we've barely chatted though, so no idea what the conversation will be like! I usually chat for ages before meeting up with someone, so this is completely new. Wish me luck!

Hope everyone else has a productive weekend, with whatever you are doing

handy looking back on what I wrote on this thread it does sound descriptive, but my text went something like:
hey yeah busy week off to Ireland next week too.

Good luck with your date tomorrow

Ladylou hope it goes well with the FWB.

Sorry ladies. Got to ask. What's an IDWAR?