Step right up, it's dating thread 97

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

'These men are all so me, me, me'. (Don't know how to put it in bold!).

Yes, that. Exactly!!!

Waving I suspect the young guys you're attracting have the age groups open to probably 20-50 therefore you are included.

Hello all!

Sorry head is pounding (too much vino yesterday..) and work is insane so I will have to catch up later and be all "me me me" right now

So.. I have not heard from MrTheatre.. No "nice to meet you" text or anything. Mind you I have not texted anything either as I thought he would do it first. I also do not think he dates a lot so probably is not familiar with dating etiquette. Also could be put down to his shyness I do not know. Or simply he is not into me at all.
Anyways, now that he has not texted I am slightly more attracted to him and would like to hear from him again... I must be a bloke, damn. So, wise daters, do I text something? Or will it sound like I am chasing him down and delivering the dreaded moose burger?

So I grew a pair and ditched the guy his nickname can be MrAttached as I'm 100% convinced he has a girlf.

He got binned this morning and I did it with dignity. He sent a long last text, haven't responded no intention of!

Jolly good.

So onwards and upwards. Plenty more fish in the sea.

Men who talk about themselves, eugh it's so off putting! Had a date with someone in early January, he spoke about himself for 2.5 hours, asked me no questions then declared "I've had a great date, let's do this again"
I was sat there thinking, no chance you narcissist!

Waving It's "clear chat". You can also email them to yourself before deleting (if you are in any way soppy, like me!)

Jolly I would text to be honest. If he's not much of a dater and a bit shy then I won't think there's anything to be lost from a quick "it was nice to meet you last night" just so he knows you are interested.

Go Roland! Definitely the right thing to do.

Haha Waving - sometimes I wonder if we are not the same person. So I caved In and took Folk's sound advice. He is very unlikely to be a player indeed so a little nudge will not bring a moose burger to his doorstep. I made it really clear I was interested so ball is now in his camp.

I have a new Tinder iron! He seems lovely, he has a horse. My expectations are so low at the moment that all I can think is "please don't turn out to be a psycho...."

Jolly, I only felt relief that Del didn't message me again on Sunday. So you must like Theatre a bit still. Sometimes it's so hard when it's not a no, and it's not a yes. With Del, my maybe was a bit nearer to no, but your maybe was a bit closer to yes.

Might be worth messaging to say something about how it's funny when you've been emailing somebody for a while and you meet up and it's like changing gear.

ps, jolly, those thoughtcatalog articles about myers briggs are very funny but they have compounded for me the futility of trying to carve out any type of friendship even with bear. i read the deal breakers in a relationship for each type, your type's flaw in a relationship, who you should go for, the why you're still single, all very funny. but i read it and thought that even being his friend is a major incompatibility. i have taken the 'comms' right back since wednesday. will message enough not to be in a huff this weekend, but i need to believe that he doesn't represent men. that would be so horribly horribly depressing.

waving Go to the actual chat, click on the 3 wee dots in upper right, then "more" and you should be able to email the chat and then clear chat. This is on my Android phone but would imagine it would be similar for iphones?

Jolly Hope he replies!

I have an evening in so I'm going to update my profiles using the advice you lovely lot gave me and get me some IRONS...and then DATES. I'm starting to think that maybe I'm not a relationship seeker after all as I just fancy going out and having some fun without all the angst. If that's possible.

Best thing. H's whatsapp messages have sunk so far beneath all my other contacts now, but I wish I could figure out how not to see his big handsome face on POF. All messages older than a month disappear, so there are no messages and I know you can block somebody who's messaging you. Can't see on somebody's profile how you would block them. I checked on somebody else's profile! not his!

I don't really care though. It'd just be easier and healthier not to have to see his beaming healthy cat that got the cream face. He looks so full of himself now, he has new pictures.

Yay waving you're freeeeee!

I know 314. Mr2015 is still on PoF (and Tinder...wonder if his new GF knows?!) and he keeps coming up in my searches and my matches. There really should be a "been there, done that" option that you could tick on someone's profile to stop them coming up!

People are weird, I sent a message to someone, they replied, I replied again, as did they, I tried to reply and got a message that they'd blocked me...how rude!

I don't think people you have previously matched with come up again, unless you delete and reinstall your profile

MrTheatre has replied.. Turns out he thinks he is not ready to meet anyone but loved our chat and the date so did not say anything earlier. His text was very sweet and apologetic... and now I am pining for him! Even though he made it clear he is not available (recently single)! Rawwwrrr.
Not sure snatching the newbies that are recently single is the way to go in the end. Meh.

Oh, FFS Jolly! That's rubbish! If he's not available, what's he doing going on dates?! Bloody men.

Good question Folk! He says he just logged back into okcupid "just to see", saw my profile and decided to go with the flow. He says he did not talk to anyone else, so not really looking to date.

So now people we have the players, the serial shaggers, the liars, the psychos, the clingy & desperate, and the emotionally unavailable that are just passing through. Happy dating..