Step right up, it's dating thread 97

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We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

Ooh good loo update!!! And good decision. Strange how people turn out to be not what we expect. Enjoy the rest of the date jolly

On another note : MrLivesWithTheEx is messaging me again from the app (knob - he has my tel no - he is sniffing around). He is an SAHP with added immaturity for good measure. I told him back at Xmas in no uncertain terms it wasn't going to happen (he is living in a big house with the ex - mortgage free - told me I could be the reason he might move out - tosser!)

Vermin!!! Him and Cufflinks!!! It's like they can smell the lack of irons!!!

Having said that I'm meeting MrCockapoo on Sunday early evening! Woop!

Im juggling too many Irons I'm going to get burned
Mr driver meeting him on Sunday
Mr tall lots of texts everyday but lives a bit too far
Mr same name as step dad eew ok a nice man but not very exciting
Mr wrong sooo hot but so wrong would be a perfect fwb
And mr short on pof phoned says all the right things but I don't think there is any chemistry and I think he's too pure I like a bit of flirty banter he was a bit shocked at something I said

Yay Handy! Looks forward to Sunday night update

Sorry for the late update. Went out for a meal with some friends.

My date is on Sunday afternoon. Quick drink to ease me in gently. Lives very close to me so nothing lost if it's terribly awkward.

I've chatted to loads of blokes over the last few weeks on Tinder and no banter/spark at all. This one was very easy to talk too, sounds nice, lots in common. We'll see.

Must remain super cool

I am back from my date with MrTheatre. Alone and at home. Not that he really tried anything though, although goodbye was all very awkward and I suspect I might have unconsciously run away from a kiss. But I did say I wanted to hear again from him. And he seems to like me. Perhaps he senses I am not that attracted to him? We have also very different personalities.. He is very much an introvert and kind of shy whereas I am a loud opinionated piece of work. Not sure any of us saw that coming. So much for getting to know one another during that month long of messaging back and forth. Uh oh. Tomorrow is another day.

Oh well Jolly. Time will tell.

I'm never sure on how long to leave it between messaging and meeting. You can't beat meeting up for a definitive answer on whether you fancy them or not.

Ok...and with more pics, it seems that guys become more abusive. To date I haven't really had any rude/aggressive messages. And suddenly today there have been about 3... Block!

Waving no one is out of your league - you're the prize, remember!

Jolly sorry your date was a bit disappointing.

Typed a long post, and lost it (stupid tunnel). MrM hasn't finalised tomorrow night's arrangements - he did this before, and our first date had to be rearranged.

And I'm the sort of person who needs the details (time and place of meeting - pretty important) sorted straight away. Now feeling like I've put aside a Saturday evening for something that's not going to happen. That he's waiting for a better offer.

007 is hinting at a date ...

waving if he does click with someone (I've not heard anything from him btw) then visualise this - woman 'tentatively mentioning the R word' then Soho physically legging it out the door.... cos that's what going on with him. Rinse and repeat. It's All About Him. If you unable to arrange dates for next week then it's natural you are going to fill that emotional space with Soho. Try filling it with waving and sleep and kids and friends and the thread

Am looking forward to Cockapoo date (yey!). I like his sense of humour and he 'seems' quite comfortable in his skin ie not afraid to crack a joke. Really nice banter. Million times more interesting than MrIT. But of course the proof of the pudding..... and there's the hair thing. I hope there's chemistry. I need to wean myself off Cufflinks as we are dangerously close to meeting up at this rate.

Bless you waving

MrCyclist sounds like a catch btw and it's great he's asked to see you again.

Cockapoo date is Sun (early evening)

Hi all, sorry for not keeping up with the thread, it moves so fast! And have had poorly children this week. So a quick question if I may to you wise ladies... My FOAF real life dating was going brilliantly, quite intense quite quick then abruptly dropped from a great height. Can the it's not you its me ever be true? My battered self esteem wants to believe that's true and that there's nothing wrong with me (don't mean I'm prefect but you know what I mean!) but part of me thinks it's bollocks, if you like someone you figure a way through life and it's logistical challenges. Thoughts and advice?!! Thanks!

I'm also a wee bit wobbly today as its MrMusic's birthday :(
I sent him a text (no reply :( ) after 3 & previously 4 weeks NC and have promised myself - & friends! - that its the last I will send :(
Meanwhile trying to be v.busy & have arranged dinner with a friend - she can be a bit flakey so I'm really hoping she doesn't cancel on me...

Tulip I almost wonder if you were dating MrMusic - it was just the same for me....

So my exh has the children once every 3 months, and that's this weekend. I was meant to be going out with the guy I'd been seeing the new year, but he's fallem off the face of the earth this week and I've now seen him on POF, so obviously that's not happening. Just feel a bit down, had hoped that by this weekend I might've had a date to look forward to.
Never mind, I'm spending some time with a friend, and will try and do something nice for myself- like sleep and read...!

Yes, I know re Soho, but what if it was just me he didn't want a relationship with, and he meets someone who he does want a relationship with?

I know that feeling and it's a horrible one. And hard to shake off. You will though! MrCyclist sounds promising though.

Handy I also read Cockapoo as Cockatoo and was visualising some kind of Jedward do!

Batshit That would annoy me too. I like firm plans! Hope you hear from him soon.

Jolly That's a bit of a shame about Theatre but doesn't sound like a total lost cause?

I hit a new dating low last night. I swiped right on a man on Tinder, purely because his profile pic was him with a sedated tiger. We matched, he messaged immediately so we had a nice little row about how I thought he was an animal exploting twat and he thought I was judgemental and boring. Not sure why I bothered as he's not going to pay any attention to some random on Tinder but I have to say it felt good to vent a bit...

And also, I WANT DATE! I haven't had one for aaaages and it's not fair! Think I'll message MrKeen from Tinder tonight and see. I'm not that fussed by him but he was nice enough and he's tall and I just want to go out with someone.

Waving from what you've said about Soho, it does sound like he has some issues - but yes, a horrible feeling that he will meet someone and run away into the sunset straight away I know what you mean about your body - I'm in my 50s and have had children, but it is what it is (having a very appreciative FWB has helped with that) - date MrCyclist and see what happens - he wants to see you, he likes what he sees!

I really, really want to see a picture of Cockapoo's hair!!

MrM has said he's really looking forward to tomorrow, he didn't want to be too 'in my face' apparently . And we still haven't made any arrangements!

I have 007 wanting to phone me - we've barely chatted and I am at work and then probably titivating tonight (as am out most of the day tomorrow, before my date). Might have to call him on my way from the station to home ....

MrVideo is in the USA - Whatsapp'd me before he went to say when he was free on his return.

Jolly will you give Theatre another go?

Folk I hope you find someone for a date this weekend.

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