Step right up, it's dating thread 97

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

That is discourteous as well!

What do the rules for the digital age say about messaging back. Is there a formula to how long you leave it?

So... I have a DATE. MrTheatre and I agreed on drinks tomorrow. And turns out he was thinking of going to the same concert on Friday that I do not have a plus one for... We shall see. But I am overly excited. He is hot. And funny. And normal. And we do have a lot in common. I am seeing glitter and unicorns right now and it is just a first date. Anyone hanging around on the thread tomorrow has a free card to slap some sense into me.

Hello All! Welcome sole helen and steady

I am at a loss for keeping up with the thread. Will digest properly tomorrow.

So pleased waving has a diversion, 314 totally in agreement with MrCanceller.

Happy to hear helen and gast are so on the case with getting out there. gast you have some sort of OLD magic dust?

Me, I'm depressed. The number of apps I'm on at the moment is frankly embarrassing (am letting some subscriptions expire over the next few weeks) and I can't even rustle up a single iron.

Maybe my profiles are all bollox. I've had millions of chats that have gone dead. I feel actually un datable

Not even getting much in the way of inappropriate 20-somethings!

My self esteem is taking a beating right now - this is NOT good.

That's a shitty trick Steady. I agree very discourteous.

Ooh how exciting Jolly. But I'm sure you'll be the epitome of cool, calm and collected tomorrow!

I just received this rather charming message. Check out the age though... I'm 41!!

Oh that's just charming!!!!!!!! There are so many hilarious replies you could send.....

Yeah Steady I came across my last date newly on Tinder today so I guess we won't be seeing each other again. His loss. I'm fucking awesome and I've also decided that MrBH felt so out of his league after meeting me that he came up with some lane crappy excuse to not take me out.

Really Handy? I honestly couldn't think of anything other than asking if his mummy knew he was online!

Haha three hell will freeze over before I can coach myself into trying to become that person. I am just going to aim for "not completely insane"

BTW, I just found this hilarious article on "Why you're single according to your MBTI type"..thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/03/heres-why-youre-still-single-based-on-your-myers-briggs-personality-type/

Waving and Gast My rudest so far has been "hey just wondering if you're very busty?"

I feel like an amateur! Must try harder!

In other news, I have a date

Oh well Jolly. I'm sure you'll be charming either way.

Waves to all, and hello to the new daters.

Waving and ocelot thank you. I asked someone at work too, and she said whatever you feel comfortable in and what about jeans and a nice top. Which did spark a conversation about the definition of 'a nice top'! Not sure I'm any the wiser - not a t-shirt or a jumper, but still not certain what one actually is! Have lost a bit of weight, so my short skirt is too big now otherwise would go with that. Need to go shopping ...

Three spill the beans on your date ...

Jolly have a gentle slap ... but it is nice to feel excited by a date

Not rude, but I was offered a 3some with 2 young guys on okc who had girlfriends
My current favourite is a guy who wanted to do a naughty photo shoot where I could wear a mask for privacy - this was a first message too!

Thanks, Waving, I have a top like that - am fairly busty with a small waist, so they are flattering. Will have a bit if a try on tonight. Who are you seeing tonight?

I was asked by a Dom to be his sub the other day ... surely there are better places than OKC to look for stuff like that?

I had my first rude message the other day:
"How do yo fancy being treated like a princess and fucked like a pornstar?"
Neither thanks

My guy has agreed to next Saturday for coffee and cake - what do I wear?!

The two out of my leaguers haven't replied. Clearly I was out of my league.....

Oh honey blimey

Morning.

Waving pleased the date went well. Have you heard from MrIDNWAR?

So my date, well hmmm what can I say.

I asked him what he was looking for to be given this response

It's a good question. I'm not just looking for 'fun' to start with.
I guess that I always overthink things and never enjoy the moment if that makes sense? I kind of just want to enjoy the moment without over thinking things and see what happens. How about you?

I'm now like I think you aren't that into me but don't wanna say IDWAR as you know I will walk and that means the sex walks too!

First date attire I tend to go for skinny indigo jeans and a Bardot type top, black stilettos and a leather biker jacket.

I'm getting back on tinder just in case! Always good to have options!

Roland what the hell kind of answer is that?? I agree with you, he wants to keep you hanging on ...

MrM is not super tall, so I don't want to wear really high heels (also spend a lot of time on my feet at work, in heels makes me sound like a street walker so it's nice to give my feet a rest!). But the rest of your first date outfit sounds lovely.

Have settled on black skinny jeans, ankle boots and either a wrap top or a top with a sort of slit/cut out in the boob area - doesn't show much at all, but kind of hints at it. Will try it all on tonight. honey I wore something similar to that for my coffee and cake date.

Waving the sexy secretary lawyer look is hot, I'm sure you date will appreciate it.