Step right up, it's dating thread 97

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We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

314 step away from any devices that you can use to message Bear. He isn't worth it.

I've finally caught up with reading this thread - it's very busy! Yay toWaving for taking her mind off Soho ... and I am in awe at all of you who are messaging more than a couple of people at once - I am struggling to have the time, so I have accidentally dropped one of my irons ... he wanted my number (to Whatsapp, I think) but I am finding it hard to keep on top of all conversations/messaging, so I didn't get back to him on Sunday ...

My update Mr Video is still on holiday, and I have another date with MrM on Saturday night possibly going into Sunday morning Really looking forward to that. We have been messaging each other every day. Am quite happy to just see what happens with him.

Argh post didn't post so here's a re write.
Bloke who I nicknamed Mr grump messaged me back saying 'yeah whatever'
Such a lovely response.
Feeling like shite and having large glass of wine.
He could have at least been nicer about it.
Arse.

Oh, I forgot, I am getting myself stressed working out what to wear for dates. (I can't really go into detail, but I rarely socialised during my decades-long EA marriage, so I have no idea what people wear to go out. I realise that sounds odd. And sad).

Am going to a comedy thing, and an early dinner - what would everyone suggest?

Winter he is an arse. And you don't want to be doing with a moody git like him, he'd be no fun to date.

Bat thanks - am feeling a little deflated tonight but glad he's shown his true personality before anything happened.
As for clothing, I'm rubbish with this sort of stuff so hope someone else comes along with some advice haha!

Hello everyone!!

Haven't had time to catch up with all the messages.

I am writing off SoberJoe, he was the one to message me last and I didn't reply. I SWEAR he's gay

I've been messaging another guy on POF, MrGlasses and he's suggested we meet at the weekend for a coffee, but It's my weekend with my DS so I've suggested next weekend. Hopefully he'll be understanding!

I've also been brave and messaged two men who both seem a little out of my league, but maybe I'm just being harsh on myself? Both have really good jobs and nice looking. Up til now I've not messaged any men first they've all come to me. We'll see!

Yes, he's saved you wasting your time on him, Winter.

Oh, I also wanted to say that you can sign up for the lovely Matthew Hussey's emails - today's one was about phoning (not texting) your man ...

I've had my first like from someone who's profile pic is them holding a fish. Who is 67 (I'm 51). Who wants to 'make love' again before he dies, presumably

*whose

Gross batshit!!

yuck yuck

Ok, I messaged some guy. Looks a bit smarmy with weird hair but not UNattractive and he has a good profile. Age 49. That age that keeps cropping up.

Hi, I've been following the thread for a couple of days and thought I'd see if I can join please?

I broke up with my cheating husband last April after 9 years of marriage.

I joined POF in September, and had a couple of dates but my heart wasn't in it. At the end of December I was contacted by someone I used to know 11 years before. We talked for a couple of weeks then met up for a date. It was so lovely, and we really hit it off. We met up quite a few more times, he came to my house on various occasions, and eventually we slept together. After we slept together, things really went downhill he didn't message for days (we had messaged every day since getting back in contact) He set up a few dates, but cancelled for various reasons. We did meet up again for another date which went well, again. But he went quiet again afterwards. (I'm cutting a long story very short here!)

We messaged on Sunday and he asked to see me on Monday night. Monday morning, he cancelled again, this time with man flu. I haven't even replied this time, which as been difficult! I thought I'd wait and see if he got in contact again, but he hasn't. I'm right not to text again, right?!

I've gone back on POF to take my mind off it, and behave mesaaged a few men, but my mind is still thinking What If about the last guy.

So I have a couple of new dates:

TindrM, very honest, looking for FWB, we're meeting for coffee next Saturday (5th March)

Bognor is keen to meet up when I'm next child free, which is sometime in the middle of March.

Teach2 is an iron from a while ago, think he's more a booty call than anything else but I think we're meeting up on Sunday; although he's gone quiet so who knows.

Think that's pretty much it for me.

Evening all!!

Right so catching up.

Welcome to the thread steady. Ahhhh steady we need to fill you in on the moose burgers story then the behaviour of the last guy will make sense.

honey nothing ventured nothing gained I say.

winter you dodged a bullet! He sounds like a ray of sunshine....

314 you're on epic form at the moment. What on earth is Tyskie and can I have some please? I can understand the rant actually. But he's so not worth it. I'd just type back the standard....here's 20p why don't you phone someone who cares....or....,can you hear that? Worlds smallest violin is playing somewhere.

solebizz so are you saying he's saying you're just mates?

waving I think it's entirely possible that they mean what they say. And at that moment they feel all those things. Feeling nice things / emotions about people and yet not wanting a relationship with that person are possible at the same time. I think there may have been a moment with scot where it was soooo good that for a split second I thought I was in love with him. DTD and intimacy really screws with emotions and this modern dating world doesn't seem to have any answers.....

helen welcome also. I agree re the marrieds but they are right on one thing. You'll never find someone unless you put yourself out there....

gast nice work on the irons.

Sorry to anyone I've missed, this thread is so very busy.

Whose on the next date?

*who's

Moose burgers?! Do tell!

You lot are on top form tonight! I was sniggering on the bus at batshit's old fish dude wanted to have sex one last time before he dies!

Did you see we made FB? "What you need to know about online dating as a single parent" 7 of our rules!

Also, I am talking to a man on Tinder! I have an iron! I'm not jinxing it by naming him yet but tis good cos a) he messaged me first and b) there is actual funny conversation happening!

TooSassy tyskie is german beer! Prost!

Well, I let him have it both barrels. My exasperation at OLD and how it's the fault of men who think like he does. So if he doesn't reply to me, I've dealt with that problem I mentioned earlier of having your needs met at level 3 preventing you from trying harder to get them met at level 8.
I'm not angry at him though. It's a general anger, aimed at entitled men everywhere, and also, anger that I'm getting older.

Batshit, somebody asked if he could have sex with you one last time before he dies? oh that's so sexy!

314 you aren't as old as me :-)

Not me particularly, it's on his profile that he wants to 'make love again' ...

Bat wear what you feel good in - for me that's jeans & tunic/dress 24/7 but it depends on what you like...

I actually wore a dress today (with crazy pink tights that everyone loved) because Caryn Franklin - from The Clothes Show for those of you who remember - was coming(!) she was quite interesting as well as looking fab...and tiny

Thanks for the welcome Sassy. Just counted up and I've met 26 different blokes in the last 17 months, including 4 so called relationships, 1 one night stand (well, it was my birthday!) and only one I would call a disaster. So doing my best to put myself out there 😁

I've joined PoF tonight. It's fun I don't understand it at all though!

This thread moves so fast! I'm trying my best to keep up!

wow, Helenn, I take my hat off to you. If it's a numbers game, you and gast will win the game! I've only got to about 9 in 6 months and I went out with one of them for about 7 weeks I think, so I'm not meeting enough men to feel as jaded as I do tonight.

Have just seen that my last guy has set up a new profile on POF, so I guess it's definitely over between us...