Step right up, it's dating thread 97

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We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

Ha I'm not! I'm distracting myself with Tinder men who I don't give a damn about and trying to avoid checking his Facebook page.

I've just been away with work, which broke the whatsapp-checking habit. Before that I was looking to see when he was online all the bloody time.

I'm not usually so pathetic!

Phew, glad it wasn't. I'll keep my eyes peeled in case he pops up.

We both got out of 10 year relationships early last year. We were very very similar, got on super well.

Went on a few dates and I actually saw the moment that it dawned on him that he liked me and he freaked the fuck out and withdrew.

I've spoken to him about it since. We're cool. It was just a wrong place, wrong time thing. Which is pretty hard to get over really.

But I'm soldiering on!

It's early days waving, you must are allowed a bit of self indulgence...it's all part of the process.

Mr2015 commented on one of my FB posts. I am not going to like his comment. That'll show him!

Hahaha Folk !

Fandango you sound so sorted! I'm heartbroken over something maybe a bit similar but I am struggling & missing him so much even 4. months on....but I could scarcely get him to talk about it and he has mostly stonewalled me since... :(

MrMusic ....

Not that long in the end but somehow spread over 2 yrs with a long gap in the middle when be ran away before meeting in the first place.. I certainly don't want to believe I won't see him & still feel so connected to him .... But don't get me started! You got much more useful comments from everyone else....

I'm so not Ocelot. I had to go and get ADs in the end as I was struggling over Christmas. But I've put it all in perspective now. It was lovely while it lasted but it's done. Wasn't meant to be.

I'm sorry you're struggling Ocelot. Sometimes the ones with a break are the worst cos you always wonder if it'll be back on again sometime.

Morning Ladies...
This thread is brilliant!
I have a date tonight, decided not to go with POF as last time was an absolute disaster so on match ( not much better) and e harmony which seems a little more promising....
I'm a little rusty, separated and now divorced from ex hubby 2013 and a relationship in between with a guy who turned out to be a total time waster, hey ho onwards and upwards.
Good luck with the dating ladies, and looking forward to updates and success/ funny stories ha ha
Xxxx

Yes block soho if you can bear to. And delete him from fb before he does it to you!!! I deleted h from my phone and blocked him on pof. I did it so that i wouldnt be hurt more when he did it to me. and he would have i think.

For the first ten days it does seem so strange, "ill never see him again???" But adjustment to that idea comes fairly quickly

Actually he SAID he wanted a relationship but when it came to it be couldn't do it - said he was falling for me.... but then that falling in love was !ike falling off a cliff & he didn't like being out of control of his emotions :(
Its his birthday on Friday don't know how I'll get through the day...
I tried the wine thing at first Waving but try to limit those days as need to get up ear!y for work!

I think MrM might be a IDWAR - am playing it by ear at the moment, as I'm not sure I do, I'd like some fun. And someone to go out with.

My FWB was the first 'thing' after my marriage broke down. We haven't seen each other for months, but somehow he seems to know I'm moving on, and I(ve had loads of texts - we always agreed we were just friends who had sex, but now he appears to be jealous I think I need to deal with that ...

Morning

waving how are you doing? I agree with the others, give it a couple of weeks and you'll be fine. First two weeks are really odd. I felt bereft after tree and it's more the lack of someone to focus attention on/ feel excited about in my opinion. Once i broke the habit of having that person to message/ banter with, I was fine.
He won't find this thread, how would he?

to everyone else on thread.

So checking in post date with scot. Was a great date. There is a connection and chemistry. I don't want to get too serious too fast. Nor do I want to be in an exclusive relationship yet.
We're both still on dating apps and aware that we are potentially seeing other people and that is ok.
But we're equally committed to giving us the attention we need to see where it goes. Exciting and scary at the same time!

question alert. Thread moves too fast. What is IDWAR short for?

sassy I think it's I don't want a relationship