Step right up, it's dating thread 97

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We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

yes, that's the one! little rucksack and a red rain coat.

Hello all!

So much to catch up on wow!

Waving ,

Okay so the consensus is to just wait and not say much? Eeek, okay I will do that.

I kind of thought there was this 3rd date rule where if nothing had happened the guy will run. I'm not sure he is this kind of person though. I'm overthinking it because it feels like if I mess this one up in done. No more dating.

I possibly have a third iron, Irish, from last night, we'll see what he comes back with tonight. Tinder is doing its thing for me at the moment!

Tanya - I find Tinder (I'm only on there) really bloody plentiful! The amount of messages / matches it comes up with are weird! I have to have a system

He contacted you the same night that the blonde guy 6'3 contacted you to tell you about life in the porn industry right?! Where in Ireland! Galway?!

And does anyone else get asked 'What are you looking for on here?' ALOT!!!! I have no idea how to answer the question as I do not know!

Yes Shame I agree with the others, you can tell him you like being around him but you want to take this slow. No need for any explanation. If he is indeed nice he is unlikely to run away, quite the contrary.

Ooh nice going there tanya !

shame you are the prize, my love. However lovely this man is - you are the prize.

I'm chatting to someone on OKC - check me out! May be an iron. But he says he's a specialist police officer (with a holiday home in Antigua - anyone know him?!).

Police officers are generally not my cuppa. Not because I'm a fugitive or anything, you understand. Very chatty though. We'll see.....

So I'm online on pof right now...and suddenly getting a bunch of sexual innuendos from random guys. I am sooo not interested in that...have been using my block button, lol

Shame, I am very, very fussy about right swiping, so the matches hadn't been that plentiful, but a bit of a bounty this week. All with attractive, interesting seeming men! Hooray, just the boost I need. Going to attempt to engineer a date with Arty this week as we had talked about doing so when he got back from his show in London.

Hi waving I've heard nothing from Soho. If you hear no update from me re Soho you can safely assume there is zero update. I'd rather date you than Soho. And I've screen shotted most of our communication. I would PM it to you (it's not very interesting) but I am crap at the technology and have no idea how to do it.........

Oh! Guess who's just been asked out by a French Canadian? C'est moi!

Bit weird as we only matched today and barely chatted but I asked him how he liked Reading and he said we could go out for coffee and he'd tell me...smooth!

Popcorn and soho are the two sides of the same coin.

I initially bailed when Popcorn said he did not want a relationship, not because he said it (and that should have been my cue) but because I had too much on my plate at the time and I also thought I projected to much on him. BUT looking back I think I also gave HIM the space, as if he would come to his senses and see how great a couple we could make. Newsflash, he did not, he probably went on playing the field and forgot all about me.

I know he liked me and was into me. He just likes his freedom to fuck around more. See, self-absorbed wanker. BTW during the break he even changed his quote on Whatsapp to cheesy me me me "dream your life, live your dreams". Quite telling!!

And with that Handy, Popcorn fits perfectly in your theory!

Who wants to play a little game of how to..spot a self-absorbed wanker? We could make a list of red flags and pin them on this thread!

I will start:

1. says he does not want a relationship "right now" but leaves the door for you to "convince them otherwise"
2. during the first messaging session, he shares way more info on himself than he asks you about - he builds intimacy by making you feel you know him

Jolly, Bee had a line in his profile about "Being true to myself, even when it hurts like hell." WHAT the F was I thinking? Red flag with fluorescent crimson lights round it! But he was clever with the two way messaging. We knew half each other's life stories before we even met, and he was so charming and lovely, in a seemingly genuine way. Stupid, stupid me for falling for it.

3. lots of pursuing even if it's giving mixed messages or ambiguity = gives the impression of keenness...

Haha I know Tanya I usually have zero tolerance for douchey YOLO BS too.

God, I dated a 30 yo frat boy. Eeeek.

So yes 3) he is more than everything into himself and he owns it

X post Handy. Agree agree agree. And it makes you think "this is so easy with him". Eek again.

Do you think they are doing that much pursuing because they actually think we should be running for the hills??

Do you reckon it's OK to ask the French Candian if we can chat a bit more before meeting up? Or should I just meet for a coffee? What's the worst than can happen? He might be a raging Tory...

Here's no 4) Is very complimentary about you, despite not knowing very much about you. You're special...but not special enough for a relationship or even to carry on talking to...

Oh here's a big one 5) they think you have an amazing vibe/attitude/outlook on life (delete as appropriate) and that's a big 'hook' for us amazing women (because yes we do!) it's the start of a miniature idolise/devalue/toy-with-rather-than-discard with associated episodes of 'going cold' on you... cycle....

And if there's any going cold that's where we should get the hell out!

Hello again folks. I wanted to say to both waving & 314 you both deserve soooo much better! Waving I know (having followed the threads avidly) that you say Soho genuine liked you - and I'm not dissing that, but if a friend had treated you in the same way that he has, then what would you think/feel? (obviously taking the sex out of it).

314 you actually sound more confident, given your experience with H and how you've processed it for what it was (and what a t*at he was!)

As others have said, you are on form at the mo

Handy I think I'm in love with you . You give fab advice!

Go Sassy on a loo update.

Shame he doesn't need to know anything about your past at this point. If you wanna do the deed, then do it safely (condoms) and if it goes further then he needs a check on STI's as well!

To everyone else- happy dating ( sorry, but this moves way to fast for me)

I'm still seeing Mr Rough/Diamond. He bought my cat a scratching pod made me chuckle...