Step right up, it's dating thread 97

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

Well I think I am done with tradesman. He hasn't responded yet but I've shared stuff with my mum and she's pointed out that he keeps coomenting negatively on things that I meant to be lighthearted and joking...and not picking up at all on any of the things that would be a great opportunity to find coomon ground or to even judt explore further if he was really interested in getting to know me.

I've noticed these things too but didn't want to overthink anything. His last message helped put it all into context...

Common ground

Yeah, cold turkey would probably be a good idea. I'm edging towards it (yeah, I know...). I blocked him on Twitter which felt GOOD as that's where him and new GF met and have been all lovey dovey.
Still FB friends and he's been liking everything I do recently, for some reason. I can't quite bring myself to defriend him but will if the lovey - dovey seeps over onto FB as I can't see that every day.
We're also mapmyrun buddies and I think that'll be the next thing to go...

Oh and it was defo Soho that I swiped on Bumble earlier, just saw the UCL thing that reminded me. He hasn't matched with me though but I may be too far away...or he might just not fancy me...rude!

Hey...went on 5th date in 4 weeks with Mr Short I call him. Things were going well but today I feel bit let down and doubting everything...

I always knew he was sarcastic, bit wind up merchant but today it was throughout whole time we spent together. The comments, like joking about me walking too fast or that I eat fast "Your finished already?" that happened few times. Putting my coat on "Why are you putting your coat on to go toilet?" why did he even have to ask? leave me be. Or I made comment when we are in the car and I get back "Oh I get that, calm down"

This is all said in jest but my ex was abusive and very critical, I cant handle these sarcastic comments. I felt down at the end of our time together actually. I am going have a chat with him tonight, if he cant tone it down then I will end it. I don't want be with someone like that.

Argh why is there always something wrong? maybe its me.

Yes waving your short message is really good. Short and to the point but it says a lot. Also communicates that you're not weeping hoping he'll change his mind. I like your block caps text!

Are you sure you want to see him again Rebecca? From what you've said he doesn't sound very nice.

yes, even if it's just his humour, I'd find it demoralising over time. Build me up! don't drag me down.

Mom2k, yeh, sounds like he thinks he is the judge of what's wrong with society! and fancies himself as an intellectual heavyweight. Let him lift weights while you sit in a comfy chair and watch the bachelor!

Rebecca that does sound wearing. And by date 4 you can't really blame nerves can you? Maybe he's try ok to engineer the old-married-couple-taking-the-piss-out-of-each-other type closeness? Epic fail if that's the case.

Mom yeah that sounds hard work too. Someone is going on a date tonight - is it Sassy ?

Mr IDWAR

waving I'd say if you think it might cheer you up - go. If your heart's not in it (like mine wasn't with disastrous MrIT) then don't.

I love Mr IDWAR!

Just got a message from someone on OKC who might be normal. He hasn't completed any of the questions though.... So comes up as 0% match. Which I don't like.

Curly haired chef is also Cornish, a surfer and diver. Sigh.

Good sigh or bad tanya ?

Let him lift weights while you sit in a comfy chair and watch the bachelor

Sounds good to me! bye bye tradesman...

Oh so good sigh!

It was exceptionally rubbish of him to string you along like that for so long.