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Spying on whatsap

331 replies

Lucyloo2222 · 11/02/2016 15:36

Hi does anyone know if my activity can be looked at on whatsap ? My partner is very jealous and seems to know who I've been having conversations with on whatsap . When I get in he always asks have I heard from anyone today and if I miss anyone out he will say their name and ask are you sure you haven't heard from then . He's obsessed every time I use my phone asking 'who is that ? What are they saying ? ' . I was wandering how accessible this information is as he has no access to my phone as I constantly have to change my code . This isn't because I have ever done anything wrong it's just that in the past he has took my phone in the night while I've been asleep and helped himself to what he wants

OP posts:
wizzywig · 15/02/2016 10:20

Please leave this man.

ConkersDontScareSpiders · 15/02/2016 11:07

Hope you are ok op

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Lucyloo2222 · 15/02/2016 12:08

Sorry all I've been at work and unable to get online . I. Am ok . The behaviour is still very different and he's very accommodating with the simple things . I don't want to say too much now but all is in hand and I'm scared but confident about my plans . Been thinking and taking on board your comments very much . Most are in my plans . I don't know how he can see me on here but I need to be cautious xxx

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OnceAMeerNotAlwaysAMeer · 15/02/2016 12:19

Best of luck lucy. life will get stormier for a while, then you'll have a great deal better time having freedom back. Keep on keeping on

ConkersDontScareSpiders · 15/02/2016 12:20

Glad you are ok

IguanaTail · 15/02/2016 12:41

Can you change your password on your phone?

If it's an iPhone it's Settings-Touch ID and passcode.

Also take off location services while you're there.

IguanaTail · 15/02/2016 12:41

If you have a finger print passcode, delete them all and start over. Just in case he's added his finger.

mix56 · 15/02/2016 12:43

Good, it sounds like you are set to live your life happily ! Just please do, as PP have mentioned, let your work colleagues, school, family & close friends know that you are moving on x day, & why.

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Lucyloo2222 · 15/02/2016 12:50

I will do . Thanks . I have turned location services off , changed password for Apple , and my phone is a number I change every hour or so as I'm that paranoid . Can't think of anything else really x

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Buttercup443 · 15/02/2016 12:57

Glad to hear you're okay Lucy. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Hop you get a chance to ring 101 and let them check your car and support you in situ in your moving day. X

Goingtobeawesome · 15/02/2016 13:00

Make sure you delete history too. Good luck.

Rainbowlou1 · 15/02/2016 13:02

You are one strong lady! Keep us posted and we are all there beside you x

Fannycraddock79 · 15/02/2016 13:47

There is a thread in relationships from a while ago called 'dh has been secretly recording me' where some very knowledgeable people gave some great advice. I can't link as on phone.

blessedwithtwo · 15/02/2016 14:10

Good luck Lucy! Stay strong!

pinkyredrose · 15/02/2016 16:37

Make sure to delete your history on everything you use also delete browser search history so he can't see what you've been looking for . Good luck! Also always log out of email, websites etc.

IguanaTail · 15/02/2016 16:45

I would also change my username on sites.

janethegirl2 · 15/02/2016 19:01

Or get this thread moved to OTBT so he can't google it

Goingtobeawesome · 15/02/2016 19:14

He won't need to google now he knows exactly where to go.

toastyarmadillo · 15/02/2016 19:30

Agreed please log this with the police as a bare minimum! Stay safe xx

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Lucyloo2222 · 16/02/2016 04:02

FannyCraddock thanks for the lead this was really useful and mix56 for yours . Shocking

OP posts:
Pinter · 16/02/2016 04:33

That last post was not her style...

toastyarmadillo · 16/02/2016 06:40

Lucy are you okay?

Rainbowlou1 · 16/02/2016 08:26

Pinter I thought that too..

ConkersDontScareSpiders · 16/02/2016 09:10

And me.hoping she was just reading and replying quick as at work.