would you date a shorter man?

[AmserGwin]

Sorry if been done before. Had a date last night with a guy I met on-line and when I got there he was a good few inches shorter than me. I had wedges on, though not huge ones and am 5'5''. It did put me off to be honest, and I feel awful for being so shallow as he was really nice, and good looking. I suspect he would still be shorter than me if I was wearing flats, help! Should I meet him again? Would you date a guy that's shorter than you?

No. I'm quite shallow. Fortunately I'm also not particularly tall so it's very been a problem.

Being able to recognise I feel xxx because of how I have been socially conditioned doesn't actually stop you feeling it though.

cottonfrock but that is a thing though isn't it, being a breast / leg / bum man? Everyone has a 'type' that they think they like but you can never account chemistry. I said I wouldn't date a man shorter than me but to be fair I never had a shorter guy approach me.

The thing that bothers me most about shorter men is their tendency to wear stacked shoes (Simon Cowel, Bono, Tom Cruise). That would really put me off.

I'm confused Thursday because changing the emphasis of my sentence doesn't really change the sentence.

As I put quite clearly, it is my opinion. I'm not saying everyone will think like me or should think like me. It is what I think.

You may think manliness cannot be measured physically. I totally disagree with that. Just my opinion of course which I'm entitled to have

Cotton whether I've been 'socialised' or whether it's hard wired, TBH I don't dig that deep as to why. It is just my preferences. There are certain things that are a turn off for me. I'm sure you have preferences too. As for men only wanting a Dcup - that's up to them isn't it, it's their preference. That will probably inflame you but we can't change the world and if someone came on here and said they only fancy dark haired men, always have done, well... it is their choice isn't it...

Been married to a shorter guy for 13 years. It's hilarious when I wear heels

He has absolutely no hang ups about his height though. Have met other short men who spend their whole life trying to be ultra "manly" to make up for it and it is very tedious.

DH is also a bit younger than me.

I like a manly man but I don't think that is related to height. I was put off by a man I went out with once who had completely hairless legs.

Tall men = strong/fit/better hunter/protector - therefore your babies will survive.

Going back to caveman times but it's still innate in many females.

I don't think it's social conditioning I think it's just natural to be more attracted to tall men

As I said it's what happens in the animal kingdom

At the dating stage I think attraction is important. It's different if you are friends first or have known someone for years but if it's something you find off putting now. It will be even more off putting a few years down the line

girly hand movements

Genuinely confused? What are "girly hand movements"?
Is this why I've always had issue with finding partners? Am I doing girly hand movements and not even knowing it?

Towards I think you dated my DH! but he is manly

Chemistry is indefinable. We all have attractions, whether it be eyes, voice, hair, height, laugh, sense of humour, knowledge, intelligence, kindness. I lump it all in together TBH.

Surfer yes yes yes. That is what I've been trying to say. Not necessarily 'conditioned' but hard wired.

Ah see, I'm being a hypocrite.
Because it turns out I don't find narrow minded people attractive

Girly hand movements for example

George Shelley on I'm a celeb. Me and oh were watching that saying he's just very girly, he has to be gay. Look at his hands flapping about!

All the stuff with ferne seemed like an act because he just seemed girly

Didn't really act like a manly man on I'm a celeb

A few months later. Everyone watching thinking he's a bit girly was right. He's come out now

I'm five foot, I don't think I've ever come across a man shorter than me.
I would be happy to date someone shorter though, it wouldn't bother me I don't think.

BTW my XP was a whole foot taller than me at 6'4".

I think there are qualities more important than height when selecting a partner

Uare
He's come out as bisexual.
I didn't know who he was but it took 2 seconds to find that out.
So you can't claim it was an act that he was with a girl.
So do bi men do 'girly hand movements' or just gay men iyho?

I'm spoiled because DP is tall, fit and gorgeous. When I was young and single I had ridiculous rules like 'nobody under six feet tall' etc.

In middle age now, if I found myself single, I'd hope to be much more open minded and less focused on looks. But I'm pretty short so most men are taller anyway.

Yes, my dh is 3 inches shorter than me.

I honestly think women are much more shallow than men. I think it's an innate, evolutionary condition though, because women, in general, are limited in how many children they can produce so need to be extremely selective in choosing a partner, whereas theoretically a man could father thousands of offspring in a lifetime.

No but im 5'2"
If i were 5.8" i would say ok thevsame height
if i were 5.9" id say never say never
if i were 5.10 or over id probably think i could rule out that many men

Some evidence that you could be wrong about that IrishDad:

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/theres-one-quality-in-men-that-women-find-even-more-attractive-than-good-looks-a6816576.html

I don't know about that IrishDad

I think everyone has types that they find attractive. some are more broad in what appeals, some less so. doesn't necessarily make anyone right or wrong or more shallow.

Personally i find the whole "Manliness" sub-theme very interesting, and i say that as very unmanly manly man.

Morriszapp im 44 and single and dating and shorter menbjust dont message me.
Just been dumped by a man ofv6'2"
Happy to date men of 5'8"
Where thecfuckvare they and why do only tall men want to meet me?
Darwinism saidca friend on thevdatingvthread

Irishdad, I'm sure you've seen numerous examples of women being shallow. But they are not shallower than men. If you look on any dating site, you will see that the majority of men don't want to meet women even slightly older than them.

Nor will they entertain women they think are 'fat', regardless of their own body shape.

It's a total myth that males are necessarily larger than females in the animal kingdom. Females are larger than males in most species of invertebrates, many species of fish, some reptiles, amphibians and birds. In mammals, lots of species of whales, rabbits, deer/antelope, bats, mice/voles/shrews, hyenas, seals, hippos etc etc. So not something 'natural'.

And there's endless scholarship on the culture- and time-specific nature of sexual attractiveness.