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would you date a shorter man?

212 replies

AmserGwin · 05/02/2016 16:55

Sorry if been done before. Had a date last night with a guy I met on-line and when I got there he was a good few inches shorter than me. I had wedges on, though not huge ones and am 5'5''. It did put me off to be honest, and I feel awful for being so shallow as he was really nice, and good looking. I suspect he would still be shorter than me if I was wearing flats, help! Should I meet him again? Would you date a guy that's shorter than you?

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VimFuego101 · 05/02/2016 20:16

I did, i wasn't crazy about it as I tended to feel a bit self conscious and slouch when walking next to him. But it wouldn't be a deal breaker.

RedRainRocks · 05/02/2016 20:17

Nope.
Not a chance

mrsnoon · 05/02/2016 20:21

Yep, best decision I ever made. DP was the total opposite of my "type" - short, hairy, beardy, covered in tattoos and with a couple of kids in tow. Almost 7 years later we have 2 more kids and are pretty damn happy. It was his personality that won me over because I was a bit unconvinced to begin with.

Oysterbabe · 05/02/2016 20:26

No I wouldn't. I'm 5ft 4 so he'd have to be pretty short. I did date someone my height for a while and cuddling him felt wrong. DH is 5ft 10, so not tall but tall enough for me.

LizardBreath · 05/02/2016 20:35

Nope, just don't fancy them. Always gutting when I realise actors are shorties. Kit Harrington / Jon snow for example. sigh

Orangeanddemons · 05/02/2016 20:40

No, just couldn't. I like men much taller than me, and I'm 5ft 8. I just feel like Gulliver in Liliput.

I did once go out with someone who had a 28" inch leg to my 32" and that just freaked me out completely.

Reese123 · 05/02/2016 20:44

I'm 5'2 and ive been on dates with shorter guys as Ive rocked up in heels and they lied about their height

Though I dated someone who was 6ft, and I can honestly say he was the biggest ass I have come across. So give me the shortie with a good heart anydaySmile

toffeeboffin · 05/02/2016 20:48

No.

If he had smaller hands that'd freak me out too.

BabyGanoush · 05/02/2016 20:50

Yes, but not if he was also very skinny with tiny hands and teeny feet (painting a nice picture here Grin)

Am 6ft though

It seems on this thread that the answer depends on the woman's height

PassiveAgressiveQueen · 05/02/2016 20:53

Am 5' 10" husband 5' 8"

helhathnofury · 05/02/2016 20:54

It's a running joke with my mates that I never pulled anyone taller than me. I'm 5'8 and they've all been slightly shorter - one guy who was only a quick snog - earned the title half pint!Blush

wonkylegs · 05/02/2016 20:56

I'd be surprised if I could find one as I'm 4'11 but if they were a nice enough bloke it wouldn't put me off.

Twinklestein · 05/02/2016 21:13

If I were really tall then yes, but I'm 5'5", and it would make him a considerable shortarse.

exWifebeginsat40 · 05/02/2016 21:23

i have a short boyfriend. i'm 5'5 and he claimed 5'4. the lying bastard. he's 5'3 on a good day.

we've been together 2 years and i have forgotten what a shortarse he is, except when he's been driving my car and pulls the seat so far forward for his little legs that i can't even get in. my inside leg is 32".

he would struggle to pass the height requirement for the Vampire at Chessington, but i love him anyway.

DickDewy · 05/02/2016 21:26

I might have dated someone short, but I wouldn't have lasted too long.

DickDewy · 05/02/2016 21:27

My husband is short - 5'9, but I am 5'7.5, so he passes - just.

High heels are a problem if I go out with him.

DickDewy · 05/02/2016 21:28

He has just pointed out he's a lofty 5'10 Grin

Monty27 · 05/02/2016 21:29

Absolutely NO. But it's not normally a problem as I am 5' 2". and have been single for about four years though Grin

HeadSpaceAvailable · 05/02/2016 21:29

Yes. He's 3 inches shorter than me - I'm 6ft - but it was the person not the physique that I fell in love with. I do feel a little freaky sometimes but that's me not him / us. I tried dating taller men but never wanted to keep one.

Was just being dumb & wondering how come it's inches for adult height & never cm, but the other way around for kids, then I twigged it's all down to the way clothes are sold to us.

gingerboy1912 · 05/02/2016 21:32

No but I'm 5' 2"

fastdaytears · 05/02/2016 21:33

I have always gone for a taller man, I have also always gone for bastards who are emotionally damaged in some way

Ha! Yes me too!

I know it's irrational but men have to be taller than me and older. Makes me feel little and young when am neither.

Obviously helps if they're emotionally distant, controlling and completely disinterested in my welfare but I'm fussy like that.

Patheticfallacy · 05/02/2016 21:37

I like taller men. I'm 5'7 and my boyfriend is 6'1 and that's a perfect gap for me. I've been out with taller men but it was too tall. He's all snuggly and perfect.

FoofFighter · 05/02/2016 21:38

My boyfriend is 5ft 5 and I am 5ft 7 almost 5ft 8 - it does bother me but only a little bit, but he's pretty toned etc and I am overweight and it bothers me more that both of his thighs are about the same as one of mine Grin I don't tend to wear heels anyway.

He himself doesn't have a problem with height, he's been out with women shorter and taller than him. I think if he was hung up about it, then I wouldn't be with him as I wouldn't find it attractive.

If you're attracted to him as a whole package then go on another date :)

crazyhead · 05/02/2016 21:40

No.....I am 5'4 and have always fancied taller men. I tried years ago to go out with a guy who was 5'6 - lovely guy though to be fair not right for me - but the height thing did really just not click.

It made me feel terribly guilty because it is such a cliche to go for height - I used to think of what I'd feel if a bloke told me they really had a strong preference for big breasts, say.

But then I came to the conclusion that sometimes you can't change it what you fancy. My sister, who is the same height as me, always seemed to go for short, skinny men - dunno why we're different!

My DH is a good 6ft and it just feels more 'natural'.

marzipanmaggie · 05/02/2016 21:49

I would never rule out a whole class of people based on a physical characteristic. As someone pointed out up-thread its basically the equivalent of ruling out a woman because she's too big/too old.

I have to say this is one of the issues which I have struggled with and as a general rule I find it hard to fancy men who are significantly shorter than me. It's more because it makes me feel really big and ungainly and therefore unsexy than any reflection on them, but its generally quite hard to shake.

Having said that I can think of someone I know at the moment who is off limits but if he were single I would really fancy and he's a good two inches shorter than me.

There are always exceptions to rules. I don't generally fancy redheads but I've fancied the *e off one or two.

Anyone who has a redline around any physical characteristic is going to be pulled up short from time to time when they realise they've broken their own rules.

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