Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

{PS, Mr renewable energy just messaged with ''be in touch about a coffee next week'' which seems a bit vague to me. Seems like good bye.

The eccentric profile man, I give up with him. Three replies, not one question in there, so I'm not responding to him.

Will message MrDel and if he suggests meeting up I'll say yes.

Aye, I wouldn't date a 49 year old. 34-42 is my mental limit I think.

I am 36, Waving.

Hi ladies, checking in.

Well my dates yesterday.

Morning coffee was fine. He was nice enough but will be sidelined because of the afternoon date.

Third date with scot. Amazing. Fun day. Great night. We had a clear chat in amongst it all around expectations of what this looks like.
I like him but won't be coming off any dating apps and I don't expect him to.

Spent the rest of today with my friends. All in all a great weekend.

What did I miss?

Yay, Sassy! And yay Scot for well representing my countrymen!

I think 52 is my limit, but they'd have to be 'good for their age'.

Glad you had a first good date, and a good third date sassy and a good day with your friends too.

And as if by magic, I just received a "how you" (literally) message from someone who describes himself as a "normal guy looking for the right girl".

314 You sound dangerously close to blaming yourself for what happened with H....You know it was nothing to do with you/your house/your kids, right? It was all just his stupid issues.

I'm sorry to those of you who have had abusive relationships and twatty exes.

The upside of exP being such an utter cock and cheating on me/leaving me for someone else is that he was, and still is I think, really guilty and let me call the shots about a lot of stuff when we broke up. And weirdly, it was almost easier breaking up with him than with Mr2015 because I could hate exP for what he did and I channelled all of that hatred into getting a good deal for me and looking after DS. I could never hate Mr2015 and that's kind of made it harder to get over.

Anyway, enough wallowing from me too! I've got a tiramisu (for one) in the fridge, and XFiles on Amazon Prime. Let the good times roll!

borntofolk honestly, I don't blame myself, I feel remarkably unscathed by it. I just mean that in my most self-doubting moments, which are now, just moments, I did find old thoughts coming back to me. The thoughts that would have been all-encompassing if this had happened to me before my self-esteem recovered. ie, that there's nothing to me. But now when I feel those critical voices I can tell them to fuck off and shut up!

ps, I know what you mean, if I could have got my X to dump me then he wouldn't have been so angry with me. I would have been allowed more freedom, and maybe he would have made some concessions out of guilt, but he has never ever yielded on any small point with me. He looks like the injured party and plays that part very well. Poor man.

I'm going to make another cup of tea and watch Mad Men.. thank goodness for Mr Net Flix, the real love of my life.

Hate the one worders! Though I have a lengthy OKC message to respond to, that I'm not interested in, but he has made an effort.

Have wine, Simon Reeve on TV (lovely, lovely Simon Reeve), and had an amazing riding lesson today, so all is well with the world. Except for my life going to bits, but apart from that....

waving what's the latest with soho?

Ladies, I've absolutely let the side down today
Remember flakey MrCS? When I was out last night I messaged him, he came over for a booty call this afternoon. It was lovely , I really, really fancy him. But I'm ok, if something else happens great but if not I'm not going to pine away.

Omg Gast
I thought I was naughty,but you are a minx!!

Simon Reeve is an explorer / does travel series' going into the non-touristy aspects of various countries etc. This series is Greece.

He's lovely. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simon_Reeve_(British_TV_presenter)

Gast, you are truly impressive. And we all need to move to Brighton.

MrCS was the flakey one who kept making plans then going quiet on me. But I didn't ask if I'd see him again so I have no expectations. It was a lovely afternoon and obviously I'd like a repeat but I'll live if it doesn't.

Sassy and 314 you're so sorted. Gast no judgement from me! As long as you had fun.

I just watched this Ted talk. Bloody brilliant.

Id been chatting to someone with no kids,but he told me yesterday that he cared for elderly parents every weekend,not being funny..when does he hope to date then?

I was chatting to someone who played football every weekend and was a member of cycling club. I couldn't see how the hell he could squeeze in seeing anyone!