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Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 02/02/2016 18:09

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin
  3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens
  5. Trust your gut instinct
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  8. If it's not fun- stop
  9. Loo update is mandatory
10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will
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BornToFolk · 12/02/2016 19:32

Fucking hell 314 !Shock The nerve of the guy! Can you report him to POF? Petty I know and they probably wouldn't do anything anyway but it's just so fucking rude! And unimaginative... I can see why you are pissed off.

ocelot7 · 12/02/2016 19:33

A guy did that to me once too Mag I'd be inclined to whatsapp him telling him he has a cheek..but perhaps better not
You can still see his profile if you search by username when you are not logged in - if you want to chart his transformation into a male version of you Shock

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 12/02/2016 19:39

Do you think this is ok for a curry at home first date? The jumper is lurex-y?

Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96
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ocelot7 · 12/02/2016 19:47

Looks fine to me Gast ... though can't tell what you've got on yr lower half? Does the outfit include the posh undies? :)
Are you really having a first date at home though? Hmm

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 12/02/2016 19:48

Just black jeans. Yes first date at home, yeah I know Confused.

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ocelot7 · 12/02/2016 20:25

I think we are going to need loo updates Gast ...

BatshitCrazyWoman · 12/02/2016 20:27

Bloody hell 314 what an arse H is.

Gast you look lovely. And yes, loo updates :-)

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SoThatHappened · 12/02/2016 20:49

Christ look at this tinder profile

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Goldfish21 · 12/02/2016 21:37

Thanks, Folk and Waving. It's so frustrating not being able to find anyone I like to message! I've done OLD a few times, and it seems to get harder every time.

Gast, the outfit looks lovely, but I'm always worried about having first dates at home (sorry!)

314, I'd be annoyed by that too!

Waving, hope your evening goes well - please tell us all about it!

ocelot7 · 12/02/2016 21:38

There are apparently websites specific to what he wants but I think he'd have to pay so hes being a cheapskate as well as everything else...its hard to imagine what would induce someone to take him up on his offer...

TooSassy · 13/02/2016 00:27

Checking in. Not a loo date per se as am home.

Good date. Unfortunately the person I had built up in my mind was not the person I met. However there is still promise. So not ruled out yet.

Gym in the morning then the next 2 tmrw! Wink

Will catch up with thread in the morning xx

SoThatHappened · 13/02/2016 00:28

He's well endowed Ocelot.

Perhaps it's the cock that his thinks is the main attraction.

Mag314 · 13/02/2016 00:56

Glad it was good Sassy!

Well-endowed is not all it's cracked up to be imo.

LadyLou30 · 13/02/2016 08:32

I've been reading this thread for a few weeks and learnt loads, thanks ladies. I'm quite newly single (out of 13 yr relationship/marriage). In the last month I thought I'd pop online just for a bit of excitement really. Not interested in a relationship at all. I was a bit rubbish at it and spoke to people I felt sorry for a bit but I don't think that was the best thing to do. Anyway, I got chatting to a guy last Friday which soon moved onto whattsapp. We met on Wednesday for a lunch date and meeting tonight for drinks and curry. He's invited me back to his after!!?? He's very polite, successful, but not my type physically (not unattractive at all) but he couldn't me more different from my ex. He's a total 'grown up' for a start. He's 42, I'm 36. He's two teenage kids, I've a 2 and 5 yr old but he still seems really keen.
Anyway, I won't sleep with him tonight and see how the evening goes.

Mag314 · 13/02/2016 10:31

I'm having a very large cup of coffee here, and I might squeeze back on the thread. mr Canceller and I are emailing each other and the chat is very easy, not just banter. We can talk. He's quite open, which I like. But there is no flirtatious element at all. Which considering he's met me, and now we've ''taken it off the site'' and on to email, I'm not sure what his motivation for messaging me would be. Friendship? One of many irons? I wonder. He seems very passive. He's very clever, but he's also either very passive or very half-hearted about me in a romantic way. But I enjoy talking to him and I did enjoy his company, last August fgs, so I'll keep going with it.

Also, Mr RenewableEnergy wants to meet for a coffee. I said yes I'd like to but I told him about the thing. So it will be interesting to see if I hear back now.

Mag314 · 13/02/2016 10:39

Hi ladylou welcome Smile Hope your date goes well tonight. I would be a bit cautious about him because of the fact that he already invited you back to his house on what would be only your second date! But just bank that brazen cheek in your consciousness, and then go ahead and enjoy the date and make sure you have your transport home arranged, and that he knows that. I hope it goes well!

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Mag314 · 13/02/2016 10:55

waving that's good, that you had a good time, and that you're naturally chatting to Soho again. I'd be scared things would somehow become weird if they were left too long. So the drunken decision to text was a good one I think. All's well...

Yes, I know what you mean. I like friends. I don't want to get too one-tracked about this. I can be a friend and I would like more friends. I do think friendship is the best basis for something that has a chance of surviving more than 6 weeks. H and I were never friends. I enjoyed his company. It's not quite the same. I was always performing a bit. I was completely dazzled by his alpha-male ness.

Bon courage with the children's party later. I remember last year, I had to take my son to laser quasar shooting thing, and I hadn't been able to hold down so much as a cup of tea with so much as 25 mls of milk in it all day. That was one of the toughest days of my life, my son's 9th bd. Peppermint tea is good. Wash down 3 nurofen with peppermint tea. That's my top tip. Brew

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 13/02/2016 11:45

I'm here but so is he still (no sex though). Will update later once he's gone I promise.

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Goldfish21 · 13/02/2016 13:10

Gast, glad you're ok and eagerly awaiting your update!

Sassy, how was he different from what you'd expected? Are you going to see him again? Did you say you have two more dates today? I'm impressed (and a wee bit jealous!)

Waving, glad you had fun last night! I often find that I get less keen on people between dates, especially when there's little contact between dates. If they're good at keeping in touch, it's not so bad.

314, it sounds as if you and Mr Canceller get on quite well, and if you're open to being friends or more, it sounds like there's nothing to lose by having another date. Has he suggested meeting up again? What's the story with MrRenewableEnergy and the thing?

Meanwhile, I finally got a message from someone who sounds ok and was favourited by someone who also looks ok, so perhaps I have an iron or two after all. Hooray!

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 13/02/2016 13:14

He's just left. Feeling a bit Hmmabout it all. He came over with a curry which we ate then cuddled up on the sofa. Had a few kisses which were ok but not fantastic. Then he fell asleep! Had nice cuddles in bed but nothing more. I got up to post something and he slept for 2 more hours, then got up, said he felt really rough, apologised then left, giving me a hug and peck on the cheek. Pretty sure I won't be seeing him again. But to be honest I'm not sure if I want to, he seems really angry about life, and some of his opinions about things are totally opposite to mine which I would struggle with if I were looking for a LTR.

Just feeling disappointed that yet another person hasn't turned out to be the person I hoped for. I don't have hugely ridiculous needs, I just want to find someone I connect with who feels the same.

On to the next one...

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BatshitCrazyWoman · 13/02/2016 13:22

Oh, Waving good luck with the party - a can of full sugar Coke and a packet of crisps works for me, hangover-wise ... I also find I get less keen if I don't have a lot of contact with them.

Gast - glad you're ok, looking forward to your update.

Sassy and ladylou good luck with your dates today.

I have yet another weekend in with no dates. I know now that I definitely want someone who is available at least sometimes at weekends/weekend evenings, as I have the most time available to me then. Next Saturday I am meeting Running Man, for a walk in the park and cake. We've had a bit of Whatsapp chat, which did eventually stop feeling like an interview, and turned a bit flirty.

I like to chat, but I need a bit of a flirty 'edge' ....

Had a long, long chat with Mr M last night, which ended with a bit of sexting. I know, I know, I've never met him, just spoken to him on the phone Blush but I find him very, very attractive ..

One day I'll be able to report back on here from an actual date!!

BatshitCrazyWoman · 13/02/2016 13:27

Gast that's a shame. You'll find someone, you just have to keep going.

314 Maybe Mr Canceller will be one of those who grow on you gradually?