Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

Thanks. You've confirmed my fears. It's all just got a little creepy if I'm honest. Will send this one into the recycle bin!

Hey, just seen there's a match social in Brighton soon, who's coming?

Let's all go! :)

I unmatched the fucker without even replying.

Screw this.

1. No contact phone number. Not even offered.
2. Not keeping me updated when he knew I was waiting around for hours and that he would be late.
3. Acting like he had done me a favour in rearranging his work schedule for me but not having the time to tell me he would be late.

Oh fuck this......

Oh. Just chatting to a fairly nice but fairly dull guy on PoF and Mears has just sent me a photo of himself in the shower... That's brightened my evening considerably!

So in my hiatus, I accidentally have an iron, we've been having some very gentle "how was your day" type chat on Tinder, and he asked me to go for a drink with him when he comes back from a show he's doing in London. He's a writer / artist / illustrator (because apparently, that's my type), and a couple of years younger than me, but seems very sweet.

gast could you imagine us all descending???

Road trip to Brighton it is then!

It would be awesome!

Whoop! Dating thread road trip! The men of Brighton would not know what's hit them...

I'd be up for that!

Ooh dating road trip! Yey! Haha!

MrIT is now playing it just right, texting every other day, keeping it going without being annoying. I think, like Scarf, I am actually a man on the inside!!!

Top binning soThat and taking - full marks

Bit pissed off - have been texting MrM this evening, our first date is supposed to be tomorrow (he reminded me yesterday), but still no time or place arranged

.... and all my other irons have fizzled :-( have a feeling my date tonight is with OKC looking for irons ...

Not sure how to play it if MrM gets in touch later about tonight - my phone will be locked away pretty much all day, so I won't see any message until pretty much the end of the day ....

Had another two married men message me - is there something about my face

What's this about a road trip?

Batshit Are they actually telling you that they are married?! Not sure about MrM. That would piss me off too. I am a planner and feel much more comfortable when I know when/where things are happening but I know that not everyone is like that. Maybe he's just more chilled out...he knows you have a date booked and is just being relaxed about making final arrangements. But it's up to you whether that's acceptable or not...

So yeah, I was right about Mears. Just seems to be after a bit of sexting. Ah well, made for a fun evening anyway, even if it's not going anywhere else....
I got bored of MrNicebutdull on PoF so won't be taking that any further.

So, that's me back to no irons.

And not strictly dating related, but thought you guys might understand... tonight I am going to be seeing ExP's girlfriend for the first time since catching her in my bed with my partner (and then chasing her out of my hourse) nearly 4 years ago. I've managed to avoid her so far but her kids are now doing a hobby with DS and there's an event tonight which I want to be at to support DS and I know she'll be there too.

My plan is to focus on DS, ignore her as much as I can and be icily polite if forced to interact. And try to hint at a hot date/amazing social event later tonight (when in reality I'm going to the gym for the first time!) Sound good? I knew it would happen sooner or later but it's still going to be horrible...

Yes Folk, they are saying they are married, and want a sexual relationship on the side.

I'm a planner, MrM does seem more relaxed. I'll see what happens - he has a window of about 30 minutes, and then I'll be on the train home to wine, OKC and my PHD

PJs, that should say!

Oh Folk, just read your whole post (am at work). Yes that's a good plan. And look effortlessly fabulous, too

Oh Folk, that's a horrible situation to be in! What a pair of ***s she and your ex were! Well done for managing to avoid it for this long though, and very good luck!

x

Thanks everyone! I'm going to have to go straight from work so looking amazing will be tricky but I will at look as good as I can, and channel "breezy and unconcerned" Then gym, PJs and a massive chocolate pudding I think!
Ooooh, Mears has just messaged...maybe he's up for round 2 later!