Suspect husband cheating with work colleague

[MrsP23]

I have suspected for a while now that dh has been having an emotional or even actual affair with someone from work. There have been various texts and things that I've seen that have made me come to this conclusion

I've confronted him about it and he denies it and plays it down.

Tonight he has been out on a work night out and sent her a message saying 'gutted......again!!!! But those are ur terms' know this in itself could relate to anything but coupled with others texts it just seems well not good.

I know it's very early/late but if anyone is out there what do u think?

TIA x

It is very strange isn't it. Part of me was pleased because he is making some distance between them but then part of me thought is he only leaving because she doesn't want to know or things are on 'her terms' so he's decided he's had enough.

I know it's hard to stay rational in these situations but currently you don't really have a lot to go on.

He would he extremely stupid to messaging personal stuff to someone on his phone knowing you have access to it. Is he a bit stupid when it comes to things like this.

What's your plan this week? Are you waiting for something to happen that might incriminate him? What of it doesn't come and you can't shake the suspicion?

It does sound from what you are saying that your relationship is in a bit of a rut and when you meet at school there is always that "what would it be like with someone else" feeling that some but not all will get.

To be honest yes he is toy story as I've seen messages before to her. I honestly do not think that anything physical has happened but I do think the want is there like u say when u meet at school and stay together all that time I suppose for some there is going to be a bit of wonderment

I want to see if anything else comes of this most recent text although I'm sure they will just talk about it at work to be fair and if not I will confront him about the text I can't go on indefinitely not knowing whether something is going on.

He will most likely just deny it though and take you back to square one.

It's worth a go though. Might be better talking about your relationship in general to start things off and then get round to this subject. If you come straight out with it then he will no doubt get all defensive.

Yeah I think ur right to start from there the last thing I want is for him to shut off completely

What a start to the day that was then!

You're right, any comeback to that text will be a chat at work, so no use waiting for a reply before broaching the subject. Agree with ToyStory, best sidle up to it and see what comes out.

Take care xx

That might be a positive thing? He probably wants to distance himself from her...

Good for you that you managed to keep your cool. Well done!

But it's that awful nagging feeling, that you're not too sure ofnjer. By phoning up his work, I think that was a good positive step. You're making your stand, and letting her subtly know that you're his wife!

This could be you're opener with your Husband, to ask why he wants to move within his job? Why the sudden change of direction? Watch his reaction.

Typo error... You're not too sure of her..

Another zombie thread. What is going on with all of these?