Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

Yay!! More details next time missus

Yippee for Sassy's loo update!!!

Whoop whoop Sassy! Full report due later tomorrow morning ?

I have replied to a couple guys on OKC and will be lining up dates when I return next week - no more dating the thread for me -- though you lot are much better than most of my dates so far!--

Yay Sassy!

On train home.

Lovely funny guy. Just as easy in real life as on whatsapp. Very down to earth. We had lots of interesting debates about the new dating landscape. Ended with my giving my personal slant on how women can feel post dates.
Especially regarding messaging after a date.
That I am totally chilled if no message comes the next day ( if it's just been a date). But I know full well that I would be in pieces if no message came the next day if I had slept with him.

Now here's an interesting view that he gave (which is why I am sharing this story). Men are totally caught up in the conundrum of not appearing 'too keen'. Apparently there is many a male out there not too sure how to handle the new female dating pool (we are turning more alpha ladies). How much is too much contact? How soon is too soon to message? Listen ladies. This is a lovely looking, intelligent guy. And this is how he thinks.

Had another long telephone conversation with Teach tonight but at one point he mentioned he had a couple of irons in the fire on Tinder. I feel and even though I've no right to feel anything like that. I don't know if he was joking or not as he'd just made a joke about our date.

Oh Sassy he sounds fab and a mine of information and also keen! That's great!!! What are we calling this gent?

Oh gast but don't you have your own iron or two?

handy am with you on the mine of info.

waving PAY attention to this one. I may be wrong but you strike me as an alpha female. I'm not saying you or we have soho sussed. But maybe.....just maybe. He's messaging you pretty consistently from Thailand. Not over poweringly so.

Listen the players exist (as evidenced by Tree), but there is also a section of men thinking like us...

gast he's being upfront and honest. How did it come up? I wouldn't pull my irons either so early on. Simply as a protective mechanism more than anything.

Yeah I do which is what makes me such a hypocrite!

Love your update Sassy, especially the in-date message! Melted my heart a tiny bit, what a sweetie!

Ooh, good find sassy.

Sympathies with you gast, I'm struggling a little here too.

Morning all

red what's going on? Why are you struggling?

gast how are you today.

tanya thank you! I know, I cannot believe he did something so so funny and thoughtful (and just downright sweet).

waving I'll call him mrscot. I'm collecting countries! French, Scotland....Pilot is Irish.

Waves to handy jolly 314

Any more dates today? I think there are a few lines up tmrw aren't there? Gast is seeing teach I think...

I'm ok, still a bit that Teach has other irons but totally accepting that I'm being unreasonable. Am going to try to broach the subject tomorrow when I see him.

The trouble is now, the people I haven't met just don't measure up to him, even though in theory they might be better.

Had a tentative lunch date with MrCS today but surprise, surprise there's been silence for 2 days, so I may need help composing a 'fuck you' message later.

I'm going to cheer myself up by going fancy underwear shopping, getting all ammunition out for Teach tomorrow night

gast

I'll help you write your fuck you message.

Fuck you.

How's that?
Chin up lovely lady. Don't focus on the irons. Focus on you and him and the here and now.

Listen I had an amazing time last night, but if he asked me to say stop dating after a few dates he would push me away. It's too much too soon. It doesn't mean I don't like him. It's just too much commitment. I'm not in my 20's anymore. I have to get to know someone way better and naturally want to make space and make the decision to stop seeing other people without any pressure. Does that make sense?

Ah, a fellow countryman. Oddly, apart from Northerner, all my dating experiences (including ex-H) have been English!

It does make sense, I guess it's just when I asked him what he wanted he straight out said he wanted a girlfriend, and he seemed shocked when I said I had other dates.

I have to look at it like if it's going to work then other dates won't matter. But I don't want him to meet someone else he likes better (which is what I'm afraid of)

TooSassy Sounds like a great date! A big awwww to messaging on the actual date And thank you for sharing his insights...makes total sense.

Gast I totally get where you are coming from re other irons. From your POV, you know that you are really into Teach and just watching your back by having a few irons on the go. He's probably doing the same but I understand the fear that he's going to find someone "better". Fancy underwear shopping sounds like a plan!

So, I finally had a message from Birdman last night...at 10.30 when I was just about to head off to bed. So started off feeling a bit peeved as I was really knackered and annoyed it had taken him so long to respond but we actually ended up having a nice chat for about an hour and things were getting a little more flirty, which was good. No mention of a 2nd date though...although we are now FB friends...is that a terrible idea after 1 date?!

Operation fancy pants was a success... look out Teach (nothing too outrageous, just a nice silk matching bra & pants but hopefully it will be an improvement on last week's which involved Superman pants!)

Nothing beats superman pants, don't talk crazy talk laydee!