Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

I've signed up to Match but it annoys me it says it's free but you have to pay to see your matches. Trying to decide if I can be arsed!

I think match is a bit rubbish, to be honest, I have a subscription I got fairly cheap, else I would delete mine. You can, however, subscribe and get a full refund as long as you cancel within 14 days. :)

Hmm, makes me think he's a sneaky bastard and is still looking why he is seeing someone.

There could be many ok reasons too though. I don't think you should go about this thinking that people are acting with the worst motivations.

RedMaple you're not Annie by any chance? if so you were lovely to me on a thread ages ago! Thanks for the tip. She is really very sweet herself though & sensitive, caring etc.

Born bonne chance with your late night paramour! Know what you mean about getting a text that makes you go all wide awake again in an instant. & it's nice to read about someone dealing so well with anxiety

Coffee was lovely thank you and it felt like it went by in five minutes. Lots of eye contact, she is soo pretty. Last night was very cuddly and affectionate which I love. = rampant daydreaming today

Don't think I need to worry about competition – in any case, it's one of her very close friends and obviously she comes first, and they've had ample opportunity to get together already. Apparently they're talking regularly about it and working things out. I like that she has such strong friendships. And I feel shit for the mutual friend because obviously I see how amazing this girl is & to be her best friend and fancy her at the same time, unrequited, must be hell.

Humble this is the thing, everyone I've been involved with romantically has been much better looking than me, and I don't know how it happens, I think maybe it's a self esteem thing on their part. (only talking about 6 people btw!). I think we need to dismantle the league system!
Is H the one in Thailand? (read a while back on the thread) GL anyway

Handy fingers crossed! & a steady stream of G&Ts I hope

Jolly I think enough people now are keen to take things a bit slower and enjoy the will you, won't you uncertain period, so you probably would get an understanding reaction if you just tell them?
I feel like I maybe jump into bed a bit too easily but at the same time I like feeling so free.

Alaugh ignore the dick, you're worth more. That said you're a braver woman than me, not sure I could do any OLD, I have friends who meet everyone they hook up with on tinder and it sounds fun but I don't know...

merci Waving, soho sounds keen!

Eloquent I love solo cinema – when I lived in a place where there were loads of cinemas I went 2-3 times a week usually alone. Done it so much, since I was about 15, that I couldn't feel self conscious. It's my little dark oasis.

Red, I thought the same thing when I was walking the dogs. Why did I assume the worst? His mother could have just died or something else terrible could have happened that has made him decide to take a break for a while. I really must learn not to take things personally.

I've decided to take the bull by the horns and post some pictures on my profile in a couple of months time and if he responds by emailing me I won't bear a grudge. In the meantime I will keep looking, if only to do some window shopping.

I think Match is rubbish as well. I had a look but decided not to join because there's hardly anybody on there!

Velour, OLD is not for the faint-hearted as I'm finding out.

I'm not sure about Tinder because you have to log in with Facebook and I'm a bit wary of that.

laugh I think the way that POF works is when you delete your profile, no one can contact you or even read your messages. I deleted my profile before xmas because I was getting a bit of hassle on there and couldn't work out how to block one person...I had been chatting to Birdman on and off so sent him a message to say I was going and gave him my number. But he didn't read it before I deleted so although he could see a message from me, there was no contents. Luckily, I went back on and he found me and messaged me again.

So yeah, there could be any number of reasons for someone to delete their profile and anyway, it's acceptable to have several people on the go anyway, until you both decide to be exclusive. I bloody hate that bit though...

velour glad your coffee went well!

so now both the mutual friend and she are coming over tonight
not sure how this will work

Never mind irons, why are the men of Scotland all behaving like buses and arriving at the same time?

Having a fascinating chat with...,he can be called Pasta, about his previously published erotica and other subjects.....

Born, what you've said confirms that he has hidden his profile rather than delete it. I know what you mean about not being able to block people on POF, I've Googled it and searched for it but so far not been able to find the solution. It's good that you were able to contact Birdman again and hopefully the story will have a happy ending.

Velour, I'm not sure what you are doing tonight exactly but I hope it goes well for you.

Tanya, Pasta sounds interesting, he's obviously into sex which is never a bad thing. No doubt you'll keep us updated of any developments.

I was messaged by a Scotsman yesterday...I live in Brighton!

I was all ready to sign up to GS but I don't have £96 spare right now...is it worth it?

He seems very articulate and respectful, so yes into sex, but seeing as it's been nearly two years for me, that isn't a negative. Looking for a relationship, same profession loosely as me.....I am a bit intrigued...

Gast, the Scots are obviously getting a bit......erm....

I've just been told by someone in Nottingham that I'm the first person he's been attracted to in 13 months. I don't believe a word of it, but it's flattering. I'm also being chatted up by a more local 29 year old. Geek has gone mysteriously quiet though which is annoying.

(I'm not Annie, velour).

And out of nowhere, Pasta is suddenly the frontrunner.... Did not see that one coming!

Blimey tanya

Scarf can you summarise the MrC situation? What makes you think he's lying?

I must admit that my first thought was "married".

But also Stripey and I have moved our date up to this Saturday. Eek!