Re: Feeling so down after husband has left me for another woman after 30 years

[Hushabyemountain98]

I posted yesterday but was a bit too detailed.
I am feeling so down and tonight I found myself sobbing out load.
I am finding this so hard. Even though I have a supportive family and friends.

Yes it is rather funny Pisco!
I think I could do with ordering a kiddies meal!
Maybe we should do the same as they do in the US they will always put food thats left in a box if you ask. Rather than trying to wrap food in your serviette when no one is looking!

xx

I know, I love that about the States, how there is no shame to ask for a doggy bag. I also love their portions too.....

I don't think I could cope with the American portion sizes now!
Sometimes it is quantity over quality!XX

How are you today Hush? Xx

Hello WTAFF.
I am okay. Thank you xx

Hiya, Husha,

Its day 5 of my sister in laws visit and its been raining for 3 of them. Of course its not what she was expecting but for us its Heaven, and thats before I even mention the Thunder and Lightening. Its been fabulous! Have you ever seen a double rainbow? We had one over the house the other day, not that I knew till my daughter and DIL got in touch and said go and look outside! They had seen it from where they live and thought - jeez thats just over mama's.

But besides that my SIL is building up a wee bit of a tan because she's been able to get out into the garden between downpours. We are staying at home today though. I fractured my toe before I went to Beirut and its killing me. Its my pinkie toe but it looks like a big fat slug today and its telling me no more walking and sightseeing pls - just give me a rest!

How are you keeping?

xxxx

Hi notonyur,

I cannot believe that it has been raining for 3 days of your sister in laws visit!
I am glad that you are happy with it!
I dont think that I have ever seen a double rainbow! How lovely.

It is good that your SIL is managing to build up a tan.
I am sorry to hear about your toe. It must be really painful. I think it will be good to give it a rest today.

I am Okay. My sister and brother in law are coming in a few minutes for coffee. I have just made a few cakes.
My dog was at the vet yesterday for more blood tests. Just have to wait for the results.

I am going to do some food shopping later and then am going to try and do some house sorting as I have a fear that everything to do with the Divorce is going to come to a head at once!

I hope you have a nice relaxing day xx

Hello my MN friends. I hope you have all had a good day and if not hopefully tomorrow will be better?
xx

Hi Hush. Unfortunately, I haven't had a great day. Got a bit of a headache with it. Anyway enough about me - how are you?

Xx

Hi Hush. I went into a school today to do some storytime sessions for World Book Day. It did take my mind off things for a bit. Xx

Hello Hush,
All well here - just a few busy working days here in retired land .
Hope it was nice having family there this morning. I like the sound of the cakes. I have succumbed to wine after a busy day and am about to head for a Netflix series.
Take care xx

Sorry to hear that you have not had a great day WTAFF.
Sorry you have a headache too. I hope you will have a better day tomorrow?
I am okay I had my sister and BIL for coffee this morning.
I did some food shopping and a bit of general tidying up. Oh and I made bread and cakes.
xx

Hi madamehooch. Glad that you went into a school today to do some story time sessions for World Book Day. Good that it took your mind off things for a while.
I had my sister and brother in law around for coffee. I made bread and cakes. Did some food shopping and some tidying up.
Have a nice evening xx

Hello Louisa,

Glad all well with you and that you are keeping busy working!
Oh well you have to have some perks after a busy day. Enjoy Netflix. Will have to find something interesting to watch. Maybe Question Time later.
I may watch The Night Manager again!

Have a nice evening xx

Hello Hush,
Glad to hear you had family round and that you had it in you to make cakes and bread.Even baking things is an achievement
My day has been not too bad.Just general tidying,food shopping.
Have you spoken to the other doc yet?
I hope you get a better response from this one.x

Hello Timetosay58.
I am glad that your day has not been too bad.
I go to the doctor next Tuesday. I hope I get a better response too.
Good night xx

Hello there Hush there was some real spring sunshine today in London and cherry blossom everywhere. I've had a very busy week paying the price for going away last week! Xx

Hello Chicon. We had some real spring sunshine too.Still a biting wind though.
Sorry that you are paying the price at work for being away last week. When do you go back to Brussels?
Take care xx

How's things today Hush? The weather has been horrid up North today!

I think I'm going to curl up on the sofa
Tonight and watch some Netflix. Perhaps have some hot chocolate too!

Xx

Hello WTAFF.
Have you had snow today?
We had some wet snow and hail stones.
Sun inbetween!
I hope you have a relaxing evening watching Netflix and having a hot chocolate.
I have had a very tearful day. I tried not to cry in front of my son but I could not help it. Sorry!xx

Hi Hush. We have had hail mainly. Then just heavy rain.

I'm sore to hear that today has been a bad day. Do you have any plans to keep you busy tonight and this weekend?

It will not be long before the nights are much lighter. I always feel better when it isn't dark 20 hours per day!

Xx

It's ok to cry, hush my love, it's a very emotional and worrying time for you at the moment, and you need your sons support to get through this.

My sons have been my rock during the past 16 months, and still continue to help me recover. I hope they are going to treat you on Sunday!

It's still so early days for you, but you really are doing well considering such an awful betrayal by your husband.

I would still have a chat with your doctor, and please get off the sofa and make your room a haven for you again.

Thanks WTAFF.
Oh! Glad you did to have snow.
I am going out to see my sister tomorrow. Not sure what is happening on Sunday.
You are right. It will be nice when the evenings are much lighter.
Enjoy your evening xx

Hi Hobbit.
Thanks for your support as always.
I am glad that your sons have been your rock during the past 16 months.
Mine have been really good but I am afraid that they may be fed up with hearing about it!
I will talk to my Doctor on Tuesday.
I will also try to get off the sofa and make my room a haven again.
xx

It's hard not to talk about it though sweetheart when that is all that is going around in your head at the moment though isn't it?

The pain of the loss of a partner of 30 years, and the worry for your future is overwhelming, it consumes you, day and night, the stress makes it difficult to eat, sleep and function normally, I know, because I've been through it.

But you will get through it, you have no other option anyway, unless he decides to come back, and I sincerely hope you wouldn't let him do that.

It will get easier, but it does take time, and I realise that's the hardest part, waiting to feel "normal" again. It is a new "normal" though, and you have to recognise that. Sending you love and strength, xx