Re: Feeling so down after husband has left me for another woman after 30 years

[Hushabyemountain98]

I posted yesterday but was a bit too detailed.
I am feeling so down and tonight I found myself sobbing out load.
I am finding this so hard. Even though I have a supportive family and friends.

Thanks Kirk,
i hope you have a good nights sleep without nytol and without dreams about your ex.
Maybe it will help knowing you are not alone in the house. It helps me.
Goodnight xx

I did it no nytol 💤

Good morning Kirk. Well done that's great xx

Did you manage to have a good night sleep Hush?

Good morning WTAFF.
I did manage to sleep last night thank you.
I hope you did too.
Just going out in the cold with the dogs xx

Hello Hush, how's your day going? I'm being really lazy - stuck on level 375 in Candy Crush and drinking too much coffee!

I've been out with mine. It's a lovely afternoon and I'm going to take the puppy down to the sea front and get some chips and eat them whilst watching the waves. It's one of my favourite things to do.

Chin up! Xx

Hi Chicon,

My day is not great. I found something else out today. He just couldn't care less about me. I have to accept that now.

Why not be lazy. It is Sunday after all!

Candy crush is so addictive!
I think coffee and Candy Crush are both too addictive!!
Enjoy xx

Hi WTAFF.
Glad you have been out dog walking.
Enjoy your walk with your puppy on the sea front.
The chips sound a good idea whilst watching the waves.

Enjoy xx

Sorry every one that I always seem to be moaning.
I just feel that I have really been done down!
I have two dogs that seem to spend their days whinging!
May be my mood is rubbing off on to them!
Sorry! xx

Hush, I'm glad you're going back to the Dr next week.

Thanks notonyurjellybelly.
I hope you do not think that I am mad!
I am not expecting much from the Doctor.
I think that when it comes down to it only I can get myself out of this.
I hope you are having a good day?
Are you at home again now?
xx

God no, I don't think you're mad! But I do think you could be clinically depressed. And there's no getting out of that yourself which is why Im glad you're going to see your Dr again - albeit a different one.

And yes, Im home I got back last night and in a few hours Im away to the airport to collect my sister in law who's coming for a week as she has holidays to use up. Ive just been out and got some new towels and girly bits for her bathroom as it was looking a bit jaded in there for some reason.

xxxx

Hi notonyurjellybellynelly.
I am glad you do not think I am mad!
I don't really know what I am apart from devastated!

I am glad you are safely home. I hope you enjoy having your sister in law to stay. It must be all go for you!
I hope you had a relaxing break?
How is your son?
I hope his mini eggs lasted?

Bye for now xx

Hi Hush. Weekends are always worse aren't they? I suppose that the only upside of finding things out about your DH is that the hate can start to build which will inevitably help you move on . I'm struggling with this at the moment as our circumstances are slightly different although we've both been abandoned. My DH has been here this afternoon although I get the feeling that we were the lesser of two evils! I honestly feel like such a mug sometimes yet earlier this week he said he was going to take my poorly DF out for some lunch! Is this a man giving up on his family? I honestly don't know.

Hi madamehooch,
You are right. Weekends are always the worst. Especially Sunday's.
I think you are also right about the upside of finding things out about my dh helping me to move on.
I am sorry that you are struggling.
Just watch out. These men are clever. Plus sometimes it is just mind games.
I thought maybe things were going to be alright but he knew different.
I hope you can have a pleasant evening. I try not to think about him but I cannot help it. I am just waiting for the next awful surprise!
Thinking of you.
Take care xx

Hi ladies , full agreement weekends are not great 😢 , but it's Mother's Day next Sunday ! Hush I also think you may be depressed and need something to help lift your serotonin levels , I survived from March until September and then went on sertaline started at 50mgs went up slowly to 150mgs to allow me to get through the treacle I was wading through and Christmas , it has really helped me to lift my head from the dark days and I am going to slowly reduce it now divorce is done , sometimes medication is needed and you would take antibiotics for a chest infection or insulin if you were a diabetic , I am a nurse and have no shame in feeling so low I couldn't move forward , give it so thought hush ❤️❤️❤️

By the way I still don't know who I am after a year , I kept saying I need to find my authentic self all the time , did go slightly delirious , the pain is worse than a bereavement because they abandoned us and don't care about us anymore st least in death they die loving you 😢

Hi Kirk,
I will ask the Doctor next week but they do not seem to want to give me anything. I cannot go in there and tell her what I think I need as they do not like that. I will gladly take something if they will give me tablets.
I think you are right about it being worse than bereavement.
I hope you have another good nights sleep and dream about someone or something nice xx

I cannot go in there and tell her what I think I need as they do not like that

Husha, what you can do is go into the Drs and explain how things are for you on a very bad day. That's what has to be considered for diagnosis/treatment but people can an often make the mistake of telling what its like on a better day.

I agree with noton , look up sertaline a serotonin slow release in inhibitor on the net , and say how bad things are and just be honest and say please can I have something to lift my mood as I can't get out of the feeling of doom , you are not suicidal but you need something more than talking therapy , cry that always works hush x

Hello Hush
As I mentioned in my last message to you,I saw my doc and he gave me anti depressents.They have certainly helped me.I was open and honest with him.Very hard for me as I am quite a private person.And yes I did cry.Always hurts to talk about my marriage.I hope the doctor you see this time is a little more understanding of what you are going through.
Thinking of you Hush.x

Thanks notonyurjellybellynelly.
I will go in and tell her how I feel on a very bad day xx

Thank you Kirk. I looked up the drug you mentioned but that one seems to be a no no for me because of the medication I am on. But there must be something they can give me. I cried last time but it didn't make any difference.
Take care xx

Hello Timetosay.
I am glad the anti depressants worked for you.
I will try to tell this Doctor how I am feeling and see what she says.
Thanks again.
Take care xx