Re: Feeling so down after husband has left me for another woman after 30 years

[Hushabyemountain98]

I posted yesterday but was a bit too detailed.
I am feeling so down and tonight I found myself sobbing out load.
I am finding this so hard. Even though I have a supportive family and friends.

Evening all. Pizza has been demolished. The topping was tomato sauce that I had made, mozzarella, pepperoni, prosciutto (the very last of the Christmas food!), mushrooms, peppers, onions and cheddar. And a big glass of Coke!
Almost like being on holiday.

Hush, You have spent 3 decades thinking about your OH. It's not as simple as just switching off - although it does help when those sad feeling change to irritation and fury etc. Am also watching question time - although may crash out asleep shortly. xx

Well done kirk! How are you?

Hi Kirk. I am trying not to look. But it is hard. You are good doing what you did xx

Hi Pisco. The pizza sounded delicious. You obviously did a good job xx

You are right Louisa. It is really difficult to change the way you think after over 30 years. I am trying!
I hope you manage to stay awake through Question Time xx

I am ok absolute paperwork has come through so abut more crying , he text my work phone the only one not blocked yesterday saying he wishes he could turn everything back to before he had her and he needs to leave work to get away from her !!! I couldn't help it , I text back you had every chance to go to therapy etc but you didn't you made your choices , still hurts like mad but I am getting better , off to my occupational health therapy today which will help , back full time 7th March as work have let me work part time got last 3 months and paid me full time which has been what I needed to heal , weekends are hard but working this one so being a nurse this gives me a purpose in life thank god ! Keep strong we will all get there in the end x

Hi Hush. Hope you managed to get some sleep. I slept better but feel a bit low today. I'm usually better once I'm showered but not today. Everything seems such an effort. I'm hoping a dog walk will spur me into action! Does you have any plans for today? Xx

Good morning Kirk.
I am sorry that you are upset again because of the absolute paperwork. Also that you got a text from your exdh. Good for telling him that he made his choices!
Although it still hurts like mad. I am glad it is getting better for you.
I hope the health therapy helps you today.
I am glad to hear that work have been good to you.
I hope all goes well when you start back full time.
Keep strong and as you say we will get there in the end.
Take care xx

Hi madamehooch,
I managed to get some sleep last night thank you.
I am glad that you got some sleep. Sorry that you feel a bit low today.
It is a shame that the shower did not make you feel better.
Maybe the dog walk will help.
I am just about to take mine out or at least they are going to drag me down the road!
I am not sure what I will do today apart from the usual things!
I have to wait in for a tradesman to come. I did that yesterday afternoon but no joy!
Do you have any plans for today?
I hope your day picks up xx

Morning Hush,
Glad that you had some sleep. Hope the dog dragging was not too cold - it's freezing here!
Am wondering whether to get my nails done today - am not one to 'pamper myself' but they're looking very ragged and thought it may be a morale booster. xx

Morning Louisa,
The dog dragging was not too cold here!
I think my arms are longer!
Yes, go and get your nails done. Will be good for you.
Have a good day xx

Hi hush. What have you been up to today?

I've just finished at the gym. I'm Shattered!
Xx

Hi WTAFF.
I have not been up to a lot. I have walked the dogs. Done some cleaning. Made bread. Now I am getting dinner ready as my youngest son will be home later. I also did a bit of food shopping locally.

You are good going to the gym. I hope you can relax tonight after all that exertion!

xx

Hi Hush . It sounds like you accomplished quite a bit today xx

Hi madamehooch,

I suppose I did accomplish quite a lot.

Did the dog walk help this morning?
How has your day been?xx

I had a stressful morning as I went to see my parents and my DF is very poorly and a difficult patient. I did have a good chat to my DM though which we don't often have a chance to do. I'm really tired now and could quite happily go to bed except DD has her boyfriend round! xx

Sorry that you had a stressful morning madamehooch. I am sorry that your DF is very poorly and that he is a difficult patient.
It is good that you got to have a good chat with your DM. I hope she is managing to cope with your DF?
Its a shame that you cannot go to bed but maybe not a good idea as your DD has her boyfriend around. I hope you can relax a bit even if you cannot go to bed?xx

I saw the picture I was dreading tonight. Totally devastated xx

Oh Hush .
Facebook?
I've no wise words - it's crap I know. What a selfish twat he is . xxx

Hush

I don't have any wise words, either - except to say that it might help to look back through the thread and read again the stories from other posters who have been in your position, and are now in a much better place than they were.

This will be you, one day. It will happen!

Yes Louisa.
Facebook.
My son took my laptop and blocked it.
xx

Thank you Breadandwine.
I will look back through my thread.
I hope you are right.
I feel the lowest I have ever felt xx

Hello Hush. I feel so sorry for you. Like the others it's difficult to find the right words to say. The pain must be hideous. I'm so glad your son has blocked it though. It is the only thing to do. Thinking of you. Xxx

Thank you Pisco. This has really floored me. I knew it was coming but it is still so hard. Thanks again for your kindness xxx