Re: Feeling so down after husband has left me for another woman after 30 years

[Hushabyemountain98]

I posted yesterday but was a bit too detailed.
I am feeling so down and tonight I found myself sobbing out load.
I am finding this so hard. Even though I have a supportive family and friends.

Yes it has to be Heinz Cream of Tomato! I might put some cream in!
Yes Bewitched with Samantha! It would be good if you could wiggle your nose like she did and sort out certain people. Maybe add some horns and a tail!!x

Cream of tomotoe with milk kept me alive for a month In the early days 🙈

Thanks Kirk. I am glad that Cream of Tomato soup kept you going. I have just bought some to have for dinner.
I hope you are okay xx

It was hot chocolate made with milk that kept me alive for the first month or so. Enjoy your soup Hush xxx

Just wanting to put a word in for living off Apple strudel - I think it could work! I admitted to Hush ages ago that I once survived a break up by living off chocolate flavour complan! Xx

Hi Pisco,
The soup with bread was really nice.
I love hot chocolate so there is another option.
xx

Hi Chicon,

Living off proper apple strudel would be really good but might not be good for my weight!!
I remember you mentioning the chocolate complan.
How is it where you are?xx

Slices of Edam are the survival diet here, helped by a G&T now and again.

How are you Hush? Any developments?

Thanks Allalonenow.
I don't like Edam but I like Gouda. Always helped by a G&T.
How are you?

I am trying to be okay. I am suffering with my mouth/teeth, I am on Penicillin
at the moment.
I am trying to tidy the house and box up my husbands stuff that is out in rooms.
I went for a coffee with an old friend this afternoon.
My solicitor seems to be on the ball.
I am hoping that my youngest son will be home for a day or so this week.

Trying not to think too much about what my husband is up to but it is really hard!
Have a nice evening xx

What are your plans for this evening Hush? I met up with my Mum after work and we went for pizza. I've eaten so much I feel ill.

I think I will have to start hitting the gym a bit harder. Do you like any particular exercise?

Xx

Good evening WTAFF.
Not a lot of plans for tonight. Will be watching Holby and Happy Valley and talking to my friends on MN.

Glad you met up with your Mum for a pizza. Sorry you ate too much!
I only really do dog walking at the moment. What exercise do you like?
Have a nice evening xx

I'm quite into Body Pump and Zumba. I also like to swim as I find the solitude in the pool quite relaxing.

Do you have Netflix? There are some really good films and box sets on there that you can get engrossed in. I like Orange is the New Black. I've also had he Making of a Murderer recommended to me so I will be checking that out as soon as I get a spare afternoon!

Bovril, chocolate milk qnd chicken slices here. All things I'd have turned my nose up at before..also tesco value cheese omelettes (frozen).

Really struggling to find something I fancy. I was eating bananas but no good now. I do take a vitamin pill everyday though.

Horlicks? Sometimes ok, sometimes sickening.

I m nice and slim though 😊

I wondered whether I could try Zumba, but I have Atrial Fibrillation so it may not be for me?
I hate to admit it but I cannot swim!

My sons have Netflix but I don't. Perhaps I will look into it.
I hope you get to watch the recommendation when you have a spare afternoon.

Take care xx

Husha, Zumba is very fast and Im thinking something like yoga or pilates or body balance would be good for you, but you could also do a spin cycling class with your,or the bikes, heart rate monitor set to a maximum beat per minute that your Dr would work out for you.

But having been in the business I would say yoga or pilates, with your daily dog walking would be a great combination of work out for you. Then if you fancied a change you could do body balance which is yoga/pilates combined but with routines set to music.

Evening all. We could have some sort of smorgasbord with that strange assortment of food. We might even find a vitamin or two! The break up lifesaver diet. Weight loss guaranteed!
That's it Hush, why don't you learn to swim? I know that our local council pool has ladies only learn to swim sessions. They're not expensive at all and you take as long as you need to learn. Another one of my wise lady neighbours learnt to swim at 55. Why don't you look into it. I'm telling you, it's one of life's nicest pleasures to swim in a warm, clear sea or a wide open lake.
I used to enjoy Pilates too. When I first started my old class everyone was a beginner and you really could see people becoming stronger week by week, the exercises becoming easier for them when previously they could hardly lift their legs off the floor. And it's a good way of meeting new people too. Try it!
My class just used to be in the local community hall.
I couldn't tell you what I watched on the telly tonight, I fell asleep.
Good night xxx

Thank you OldestStory for your message.
I'm sorry that you are struggling to find something you fancy eating.
I am eating more than I did. I eat a little more when my son comes home.
I drink quite a lot of milk either in drinks or just as it is.

I am glad that you are nice and slim but you have to be careful.
Take care xx

Thanks notonyurjellybellynelly. I have done pilates before. I think maybe I will give it a try again. Or maybe the body balance.
Thanks for the advice.
I hope you are having a nice break? Did you find any imported stuff in the supermarkets?
Goodnight xx

Good evening Pisco. You are right it is some sort of smorgasbord of strange food. The breakup diet. Maybe there is a book title there!

I will look into learning to swim. I am not afraid of water and I always went in the sea etc when I was younger. I took my sons to swimming lessons.
Pilates is the other thing I will look around for.

I hope you have a good nights sleep.
xx

It is after 2am and I cannot sleep. My mind is working overtime again.
I have just had a very loud sob. I just feel so lonely xx

Sorry about that Hush. You will get through this. The early days are the worst. I was also a bit of an insomniac last night. The worst thing is that I can only ever fall asleep about half an hour before I know I have to get up - then I fall into a deep sleep. Grr!

I hope you managed to get some sleep.

I'm thinking of you. Xx

Thank you WTAFF.
I am sorry that you have trouble sleeping.
I got to sleep sometime after 4am.
I feel washed out.

Many Thanks xx

Im sorry about that Hush. You must be exhausted. Would you consider another trip back to the Dr, but a different one this time?

Re my holiday - Im having a lovely time even though Ive not found anything in the supermarkets that we dont get at home.

We're going sight seeing today. Up to some Roman Ruins in Balbek which were too dangerous to visit the last time I was here due to stray rockets coming over the mountains from Syria. But its ok now, on this side of the mountains at least.

I was sitting here in bed last night doing a bit of clothes shopping and I was wondering what with summer just being round the corner if you'd consider a bit of a make over by way of a new hair do and a few new bits and pieces for your wardrobe. I know it sounds like a bit of a frippery in very sad times but its not, it can in actual fact put quite a spring in your step.

Then that got me to wondering if you fancied planning a wee break or something for next year. It would give you something to look forward to and I would be more than happy to go with you just so you had a bit of company even if you booked with this kind of group. You wouldnt have to go any where exotic, unless you really want to, there are loads of places in the Uk or Europe, and these are just two companies chosen at random after googling - maybe you could have a wee google yourself and see whats out there for when you feel a bit better. I just googled solo travellers.

www.justyou.co.uk

www.onetraveller.co.uk

Have a bit of a squeeze (((xxxx)))

Morning Hush ( and all!)
Sorry you didn't get a good night's sleep. It's a lovely crisp cold sunny day here and I've had a lie in. Am off for a trip into town today so must get up and make myself look respectable.
Hope you have a better day than you did night.
xx

Hi Hush and everyone else

I hope you don't mind me joining this thread. I feel that even though I don't know you in RL we could be kindred spirits.

Without going into too much detail, my DH of 24 years left me and our 16 year old DD two months ago. There is no OW. He was diagnosed with depression by his doctor (although won't admit he has it). He is currently living with his parents and taking anti-depressants. He has had one counselling session but won't go for any more (despite promising me he would). He won't talk to anyone about how he is feeling. He wants to continue being a part of our lives but has said that he won't be coming home, so I'm finding it difficult to move on although I'm not ready to let him go yet. It's a very weird situation.

This has devastated our families. My DF is very poorly and I'm trying to keep a brave face on for their and my DD's sake. She is due to take her GCSE's in May.

I do have lots of real life support but they're all married with families.

I'm not sleeping well at all. I wake up in the early hours and feel like I'm having panic attacks. I just want to go to sleep and wake up and find everything is OK.

On the face of it, I'm getting through. I go to work, get up every morning, put my game face on. I'm trying to do all the things my friends have told me to do - think of myself, look after myself. I'm trying but all I can think about is my old life. I just want it back.

I've been to the doctors, I've spoken on the phone to a counsellor and I've even rung the Samaritans. I feel worse now than I did when it happened.

I know people have said it gets better over time. I just wish I could believe that.

I'm hoping that posting on here will help in some way.