Re: Feeling so down after husband has left me for another woman after 30 years

[Hushabyemountain98]

I posted yesterday but was a bit too detailed.
I am feeling so down and tonight I found myself sobbing out load.
I am finding this so hard. Even though I have a supportive family and friends.

Hi notonyurjellybellynelly.
I enjoyed Happy Valley.
I think they all play their parts so well.
James Norton is still menacing.
We will see as it unfolds!
I hope you are okay?
How did the golf go?
xx

Good Afternoon to my MN friends. It is lovely to see the sun today xx

Good afternoon Hush. You're right, it is lovely to see the sun. Bloomin' cold though! Was hoping to get out in the garden but my fingers froze.
You sound a bit more chipper today. That's me girl!
I had a horrible 'chat' with my husband today which has set me back a bit. Ended up walking the streets trying not to make eye contact with anyone as I was so tearful. I still find it very hard to believe how he can discard so many very good years together so easily. It is cruel, isn't it. We really are too nice for our own good!
Are you able to make anymore little plans? Out for tea or cinema with a friend?

Good Afternoon PiscoSour66,

You are right it is cold but better than all that rain!
I am trying to be chipper. I am just waiting for the next horrid e mail or deed!
I am sorry to hear that you had a horrible 'chat' with your husband today and that it has set you back again. I know what it is like walking the streets trying not to make eye contact with anyone as I was so tearful. I have done it through the years. You are right it is cruel. We are too nice and we do not deserve this treatment at all.
I have one of my sons at home for a while and my Sister and my niece are coming for coffee tomorrow. I had coffee with a friend this morning.
I may take my son to the cinema next week.
Take care and please try and forget your husbands horrid behaviour. I know that is easier said than done! xx

Thank you for your kind words Hush.
That is so awful Hush, that you've been walking and crying in the street for years. That really is no way to live. In the summer of last year I was in floods of tears walking the streets. Some blokes in a white van even stopped to get out to ask if they could help in some way! And it makes you wonder, if complete strangers are concerned about your welfare, then why can't your husband of so many years show at least a tiny bit of compassion? I still can't take in that this change in him is most likely permanent.
Anyways, I'm glad that your son is with you and you have visitors tomorrow. It all helps, even the smallest distractions. It's just such a lovely change to be with people that value you and like you for who you are xxx

You are welcome Pisco.
I am sorry that you were in such a state and that even complete strangers were concerned about you. I think that they can shut it out then they do not need to deal with it. My dh never came to look for me when I left the house and just recently he cared even less.
It is nice to have company as sitting dwelling on what has happened through no fault of your own is terrible.
Take care xx

Onwards and upwards! Xxx

Lets hope so!xx

Hi hush so happy to hear you have your son with you and your family coming this week. I like going to the movies with my DS - we went to see The Revenant recently - it was a bit grim! xxx

Hi Chiconbeige,
Thanks for your message.
I am glad that you like going to the movies with your DS. I am not sure what we will go and see?
Take care xx

I cannot sleep and I have to be up early!
My mind is going over and over everything xx

Morning Hush.
I hope that you eventually got some sleep. I was up with sick puppy so am off the the Vets shortly. It's cold but bright and sunny here.
Hope that your weekend with your son and family is lovely and that it gives you an opportunity to be supported.
I bought a big bunch of daffodils yesterday which are in vases slowly opening in the sun - a bit of early Spring cheerfulness.

Morning Hush. I hope you managed to get some rest at least.
I hate those monkeys that chatter continuously in our heads. I wish they would go away! (I realise that makes me sound like a loon!)
I don't know if you have tried already, but in the end I resorted to Nytol to get me to sleep. It did help and I managed four or five hours of sleep after taking it. I use the herbal version now after being to off by the chemist for using Nytol for too long and that seems to help too. But again, only about four or five hours, but much better than nothing.
Back to rain here. But the blossom is out on the tree and that makes things more jolly. Grocery shopping later and getting the house straight(ish) for the half term holidays.
Enjoy your coffee with your sister and niece x

Good Afternoon louisa,
I did get a couple of hours sleep in the end thank you.
I hope that the vet was able to help your puppy?
The anaesthetic does not agree with some animals.
Lets hope you get some sleep tonight.
The weather is miserable I have two wet dogs!
My son will be back later and my family have just gone,
I hope your daffodils will brighten your day.
I hope you have a good weekend.
Take Care xx

Good Afternoon Pisco,
Thank you. I got a couple of hours sleep in the end.
I know what you mean about the monkey chatter in your head(so I am a loon too!)
I have to be careful what I take as I take heart tablets. I will ask the pharmacist.
We have rain too. I have two wet dogs!
The blossom is lovely. I hope the grocery shopping and tidying up went well?

I enjoyed the coffee with my sister and niece thank you.
I better tidy up.
Finding it hard to get motivated.

Have a good weekend.
Take care xx

Good Afternoon Hush.
Grocery shopping went well, thanks. Tidying up not so
well. I'm at this moment sitting on the step outside enjoying some sunshine.
It's actually quite warm in the sun. Enjoying a tea and a scone. I know how to live it up!

Good Afternoon Pisco,

Glad the grocery shopping went well. Never mind about the tidying up!
We still have a lot of rain, no sun! Enjoy the sun and the tea and scone.
Life in the fast lane!!
Take care x

Hello there how are you today? It's gone cold here in Brussels. Xx

Its gone cold here in the Gulf as well. Even my visitors from the UK now understand it when we say it does get cold here at times. Still no rain though and we could really be doing with it.

Hello Chiconbeige,

I didn't realise that you were in Brussels?
Have you lived there long?
I am Ok but a little sad as I have just taken my DS to the station. He has gone back to his student house for a couple of days but will be back early next week.
It is cold and wet here. I have to get some housework done!
I do not like the weekend.
I had a bad night again. When I think back my dh has been planning this for quite a long time. He has been stringing me along for ages.
Have a nice weekend.
xx

Hi Hush. The slow realisation of stuff is just awful. Keeps adding to and prolonging the unhappiness. Layers and layers of deceit and lies. Every time something else becomes apparent that sinking feeling and heaviness comes back, again. And you keep thinking 'why didn't I see this, why wasn't he truthful with me?' The thing I'm struggling with today is the realisation that he thought so little of me, no respect for me whatsoever. Today I'm finding the disdain and contempt for me very hard to bear. As you must too.
Chin up Hush, it won't always be like this. Not only has it always been evident how kind you are, but your gentle sense of humour is slowly coming through too. X

Hello notonyur,

You do not think about it being cold in the Gulf. Will try and send you some of our rain.
I hope you are having a good weekend? xx

Hi Pisco,

I am with you Pisco. It is awful. He told so many lies and still is. The latest lies are unbearable because they have just totally trashed our whole marriage.
I am so sorry that he could treat you and make you feel like this. It is so cruel.
We deserve so much better.
Thank you for your kind words.
On a happier note beautiful flowers have just been delivered for me from my DS's. Made me cry again!
Thinking of you xx

Hi hush, my DH has a job here and I live with him here some of the time - my username means "belgian chicory" - it's a bit lame really but I chose it cos "Chicon" sounds a bit like chic. It is the favourite vegetable here and people consume it in huge quantities. Some of the time I'm in the UK. One thing I like here is that it's quite light in the afternoons and evenings - just looking out of the window and seeing how light it is.

How wonderful!!!
You see, you are loved and valued. To hell with the scumbags!
I bet you're really chuffed, that's the best kind of Valentine.