I’m amazed how porn polarises views in the 21st century. It is so established that I’m surprised anyone finds it shocking, let alone the potential cause for divorce. Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not belittling anybody’s viewpoint here, or forgetting that each person / couple will set their own rules or boundaries in this regard. To each their own..
Back in the early days of porn films (50s, 60s and 70s) I dare say a lot of women in the industry were indeed broke, abused, drug addict and ‘coerced’ into performing. Equally, there were probably plenty of broke, abused, drug addict men too, but we never hear about them, do we? Anybody who equates liking porn to ‘enjoying the abuse of vulnerable people’ might as well chastise themselves for eating food whilst half the world starves. Do you like the clothes you’re wearing? They were likely produced by some underpaid woman or child. Some people have no boundaries... ;)
These days, porn is very much a lifestyle choice. A very large amount of it is produced by amateur men and women at home and unpaid. There are ‘webcam’ sites where people broadcast their activity for money. Then there is the old-school professionally produced and sold material. I have no proof to back-up my claim, but from what I’ve seen these days I don’t get the same ‘abuse culture’ feeling that was pervasive half a century ago.
As for “most porn depicts these women perfect bodied and young. They show sexual scenarios where the women are mostly subserviant to the men” – I disagree. Porn involves all shapes and sizes, with more mature participants clearly as popular a genre as any other and usually involves both parties ‘getting off’. Is it stylized and unrealistic? Sure. But inherently biased in favour of male pleasure? No, not from what I’ve seen.
I read a recent thread where the question was posed ‘has porn ruined a generation of men?’, or words to that effect. Does anybody here really think porn is new? Yes, it’s a lot more easily available, but it has existed for centuries. It’s carved in stone on ancient monuments, it appears in dusty manuscripts and pornographic photos have been traded since photography was invented for goodness sake. It's not a new invention.
“Porn” covers such a wide area, that it is almost impossible to ‘be against it’ anymore than one can be ‘against the internet’ as a whole. I liken porn to a supermarket: there’s loads of different stuff available, some of which you like, some you don’t, some you might even find morally challenging, such as you would seeing meat if you are vegetarian, or non-freerange eggs if you are concerned about animal welfare, etc. but you can select what you like and disregard the rest. Or indeed choose not to go in at all, but you wouldn’t stand outside protesting that it exists…
… although, then again you might, seeing as it’s staffed by broke men and women coerced into performing physical and degrading tasks which they don’t really want to do, in order to pay their bills ;)