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Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

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tanyadm · 08/01/2016 22:57

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin
  3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens
  5. Trust your gut instinct
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  8. If it's not fun- stop
  9. Loo update is mandatory
10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.
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HandyWoman · 15/01/2016 16:58

waving yes she'll be attending the birthday party. She'd go to the opening of an envelope. Therein lies part of the problem. But only part.

I literally can't imagine being in the same building and having nothing to say to her, but that's exactly how it'll be SadConfusedHmm

eloquent · 15/01/2016 17:03

Be really nice to her. That will annoy her more handy woman

HandyWoman · 15/01/2016 17:06

Hadn't considered that. Except I don't trust her not to be going off socialising with my ex and his gf (she gave me zero reassurance in this area) so my instinct is just to stay away.

eloquent · 15/01/2016 17:34

Ah, okay. Then yeah, maybe staying away is the best idea.

This is why i hate people.

HandyWoman · 15/01/2016 19:07

Okay, so, am ready for my date - just waiting for the babysitter. Am wearing a dress!! I know, I know, against the rules, but it's a boost to help me get in the 'zone'. Blush

If there is no loo update it'll most likely be due to my location and lack of 'G' rather thank anything else.

Hoping my shitty week ends on a better note - here I go........

TooSassy · 15/01/2016 19:08

Best of luck handy!!!! Am sure it'll be FAB!

JollyXmasJumper · 15/01/2016 19:17

Good luck handy!!

RedMapleLeaf · 15/01/2016 19:27

cheers from the bath

Rock that dress!

SquareRootOf314 · 15/01/2016 19:36

handy I hope it's a nice uncomplicated evening!

backonthebikeagain · 15/01/2016 19:42

Hi all, please can I can join you? I am just arranging a first date with a very nice man, not my usual type looks wise but very nice! I am absolutely terrified! I have been single for nearly 4 years, have 2 children and hate my body! I have known this man, we will call him Bob, for a while as we work for the same company!

I will read the whole thread when I get the chance :)

RedMapleLeaf · 15/01/2016 19:46

I'm another newbie back, welcome.

SquareRootOf314 · 15/01/2016 19:47

Is wearing a dress against the rules?

Handy, I know you're out, but for when you get back...I think you need to trust in the power of your own judgement. You have, to put it bluntly, assessed her character and found it lacking. She's been relegated this woman. That is your absolute prerogative.

It really doesn't matter whether she realises it or not. But I suspect she will know. She's lost your good opinion. Her loss. Not yours. I would agree with the others, give her a bland, detached smile dead behind the eyes Nothing will unsettle her more than your gracious behaviour.

SquareRootOf314 · 15/01/2016 19:48

backonthebike that sounds good! If you work with him, then he knows who you are. Relax Wine

DeeDee47 · 15/01/2016 19:52

apologies for the late reply,i only got back today,i did stay over in a plush appartment!!! say no more

date went so well,chemistry and lots of laughter.

But he cant offer me anymore right now,he has a busy life and a son,we have the distance,lovely man wrong time,i am gutted as now might find the friendship painfull as he doesent want any more.
im very sad and emotional,its an awful feeling,you begin to think whats wrong with me?
hard to know whether getting back in the saddle is the answer as its all a little raw!
thanks for thinking of me and good luck to you all with dates this weekend x

RedMapleLeaf · 15/01/2016 20:09

So you had sex with him?

DeeDee47 · 15/01/2016 20:30

I did,it felt right at the time😞

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RedMapleLeaf · 15/01/2016 20:36

Aw, sounds very bitter sweet.

DeeDee47 · 15/01/2016 20:45

I'm finding it rather difficult,probably not him,but past hurts coming to the surface,he has been there for me for 10 months,I now feel it will be too painfull to continue with that,though he wants us to keep in touch

RedMapleLeaf · 15/01/2016 20:47

I must admit I couldn't handle this.

JollyXmasJumper · 15/01/2016 20:59

Oh Dee I am sorry. If he is not available but "wants to keep in touch" I would be wary of becoming a back-up plan though. There is nothing wrong with you and you deserve someone that does not make you feel that way. You deserve way better than that! So..back off from the friend zone and get back in here!

JollyXmasJumper · 15/01/2016 21:05

Hi Back welcome! Don't be terrified, that man actually knows you from real life and found you interesting and hot enough to ask you out, so from his point of view I guess your body is pretty appealing to him! You have already done a good chunk of the job here. Time for Brew

DeeDee47 · 15/01/2016 21:28

Thank you for your kind comments
Just had a bath,and a cry
I think we both obviously wanted different things
I'm going to have a break now,cant keep putting myself through this.

eloquent · 15/01/2016 21:55

I'm sorry dee. There is someone out there for you.
Its bloody hard all this xx

SquareRootOf314 · 15/01/2016 22:06

Brew poor DeeDee. Don't give him your friendship. It will take up too much space in your head and your heart.