Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Wide awake here, thinking nice thoughts about my date tonight. Reckon I've picked out my outfit.

Sexting, I've not done, it hadn't been invented last time I was doing this. However there's a great Amy Schumer video about it on YouTube should we ever need it.

I like sexting but I can't take it seriously! I think part of the humour for me is describing what I'm doing, when in RL I'm sat in (probably) grubby pjs drinking a cup of tea, playing solitaire on my phone
Get someone who's good at it though and it can be very hot
But I've found most sexters don't come through in RL, my 'irons' are very firmly divided into sexters and non-sexters and it's the non-sexters I'm more likely to actually go on a date with. As a PP said, if you meet a sexter there's a sexual charge to the atmosphere which can be awkward.

Afraid to say I have been super gullible with Bee, ladies. No contact except a wee text at 10 yesterday, on and off OKC until 5, then my littlest woke me up at 2. And when I got back to bed, I foolishly checked OKC and he had been on at 1. So suspect another date. Which is fine and normal but I wish he had just told me, I didn't contact him, so I think I have done ok with the Bitching. :(

Ach, it easier for me to assume he is a bawbag who says/does the right thing in the moment. Then I can just move on without hoping "maybe". Super busy out and about today at work meetings so plenty distraction.

314, was it you asking about people's jobs? I work for the Scotland office of a mental health charity.

Morning all

Right playing catch up.

tanya it's early days. Chill. Yes he may be on a date. Or (like me over the weekend) was on a girls night out and idly logged into Happn in the taxi home because I was pissed and it was a way to pass the time. More importantly wait and see what happens when he gets in touch.

waving keeping everything crossed for you and soho today.

314 Your interview outfit sounds spot on. I always think something like that or a simple shift dress is good interview material if suits aren't required.

red good luck also on your date today!

prizey I don't do sexting with someone I've never met. After dates and if there's chemistry, sure. Otherwise not a chance.

Welcome to the thread eloquent

choccy words fail me. . You ok?

to everyone else

I have a date tmrw waving!!! Looking forward to it!

Ok Sassy, you were right and I am neurotic.

I can't do more than one iron at a time, even more than one potential iron really.

(Have heard from MrFoaf looking forward to tonight. I'm afraid I'm smitten). In other news, I've hit my target weight again after losing the Christmas excess.

I can't do more than one right now. Briefly I had two and for different reasons, at the weekend, there were heightened emotions associated to both. The one I was severing contact with because we'd become too close for people who weren't in a relationship, it was hard, and the other one, we're at four dates and I feel that the sex will be an audition of sorts and rightly or wrongly I'm allowing that to stress me. On top of that, I'm trying to organise a provisional driving licence (old ones have lapsed, I lived in london for too long, this is my excuse) and I have to do the theory again because it's been so long since I had a current licence, and, I have an interview this week, and I have two kids and a house and I'm not certain I have a babysitter for this week's date anyway, so another iron in the fire, you've got to be kidding! how do you all do it!?

I'm 8 and a half stone but I still feel unfit for nakedness (i'm only 5'2") Aiming for a work out later. I feel both hardly here at all and wobbly at the same time. old lady boyd! I'm so surprised I didn't put on weigth over christmas and new year.

Thanks toosassy I'll play it very simple at the interview. The top is black but it has two gold zips so it's not dowdy bllack. I like to think.

ps, wrt "sexting" i just couldn't do that before I'd even met somebody. They could be the weirdest weirdo on planet wierd, and then you turn up to meet them, and I'd feel a bit soiled or like I owed them weird sex!

I could do it a bit with a rl bf, the teacher, but only after I'd already slept with him.

Hello again I have posted a couple of times (mainly about my weird messages on POF )
I mentioned that I had arranged to meet a guy who I've been chatting with but for many reasons on both sides we couldn't manage until this coming Sunday!
So we have been chatting for just over a week and he's gone a bit quiet and odd! He texted me yesterday to say he finished at 7 and did I fancy a chat when he finished, I said ok, he said great.......and still nothing!

So I really cannot understand men Back on the bandwagon do you reckon??

Ooh and good luck with your interview Mississippi

Just passing through, will catch up later!

314 omg you cannot be serious.. I am the same height as you and way over 10 stones (if the converter I found is right hope not, non Brit here!). Sex is not a question of weight/wobbly whatever, focus on how attracted you are to him, not what you look like which is bloody perfect in terms of height/weight.---- Have fun!

Thanks! (name changed)

MrsLannister, I find it easy to deal with vagueness and waffle before I've met them.

So long as I'm not silly today I should have a fairly flat tummy for tonight's date. He's not going to see it probably but it'll make me feel more confident.

I like to talk to a few different ones, keep my options open!
I'm sick of being the one to do the asking for dates and such though.

I had/have an amazing sexting relationship with a guy. We always intend to meet and have once for the most amazing half an hour, only a kiss. It has been really fun and exciting.

314 i'm a 14/16, it's not about size, weight or wobblyness. I look good to who i look good to, does that make sense, this guy wants to have sex with you, he already thinks you're sexy!!!

mrslannister (great name, my ex looks like jamie, shame he's gay haha) i find that a lot and this is where i find myself thinking "do i text first?, should i wait!?" annoying!!!

missisipi i never feel like i owe t hem anything. I've walked out in dates before. But it's understandable, just something you don't enjoy, you're probably more likely to find someone worthy your way!!!

Right. I'm going to do jillian michael's six week six pack now and I hope that that will make me feel a bit calmer and a bit less stressed and a bit more confident.

314 and missisipi are the same person.... i'll get my coat

Wait, theres both another 314... way to confuse me guys!!!
haha

314 I guess you're right. There may not be a meeting now though!

Thanks eloquent cor it is a shame he is gay!! I'm going to wait I think. If he wants me he will try and get me

No sorry folks. I am paranoid about all my posts being linked up. I know it's obvious or fairly obvious that I'm the same person but once years ago somebody outed me and I have never forgotten it.

eloquent I know what you mean, it's not the wobbles so much, I'm worried that we'll have sex and he'll decide that physically it's "not right" . Which happens. And I know, I've slept with somebody (a bf, it didn't last long) and I thought that was a bit flat. So realistically I know he's right but having told me that he fancies me and he thinks emotionally we would work, to hear him then say ''some times it's right emotionally but not right physically" well, feel like I'm about to offer myself up on the casting couch! but, jillian michaels has helped diffuse a bit of the tension. If it's not right then I won't want it/him either.

Breath.
Tea.