works do last night, no wedding ring on Dh this morning

[Onedayinthesun]

We have been together 18 years, 2 Dc and an adult Sc.

No trust issues ever, have never even questioned his faithfulness, I have not once been concerned about anything that would point to cheating at no point in our marriage.

He went out last night to his works Christmas party, I heard him come home at 5am. He slept in the sofa in the kitchen last night at 7.30am I told him to go to bed, he was still drunk - no wedding ring on his finger. I found it in his inside pocket of his suit.

Devastated.

There is no point even asking him why - there is only one reason a man would do this.

I couldn't confront anything this morning I needed to get my kids to school and go to work. I'm numb thinking about what he has done last night, Christmas is ruined.

I have to face him tonight and don't want the kids to find out, he doesn't know I have his ring, I can't talk to anyone in rl

Oh dear I'm sorry but I wouldn't believe him. If someone gets in a fight, is their first instinct really to take off their wedding ring?

How are you going to take it from here OP? Is there anyone you know who he works with to verify his account of events?

Allal I know , it's his manner as well

Don't believe that, sorry. Removing a ring while lifting, cycling - yes. During a drunken fight - no, I don't think so. Surely if he was concerned abour the ring, the safest place would be his finger.

Shit, I'm sorry oneday

"It's the truth" - why would he say that - and so quickly, too?

Yes telephone

Doesn't make sense full stop. Did he report he'd been assaulted to the police? Any marks where he was punched to the ground .
Ask Andy if he was with anyone before Andy left?

He's lying.

Sorry his responses haven't reassured you
:(

Tell him that that is the LAMEST excuse I have ever heard.
A 5 year old would make up better!

He cycles 150miles per week and could not catch them? Really?

Dumbbells and bars are usually easier to grip without rings. In fact I don't see anyone lifting with rings on their fingers. They tend to stop the hand gripping the weight and when the dumbbells are heavy they dig into the skin.

Same with cycling. You need maximum grip. Rings disturb the flatness of thr palm on the bars and after a few miles does hurt. I ride a similar distance.

That's a crap excuse, especially with his training history. I'm sorry OP. Really hope you can have an honest conversation with him :(

So he lay in bed all day and that's the best he could come up with.

1 out of 10 for effort. So sorry OP.

I have no words, I just don't know?
If he's been a dick he's not likely to tell you the truth I guess but his fabrication is so flimsy its barely there.

Maybe you should drag him to the police station and report the incident, so the police can check the CCTV and find the person who got attacked and check theyre okay.

Saj he was pissed?? This is not about his fitness??
Even if there was a fight and it did take place he wouldn't have caught them.

The fact is I don't believe this took place.

His ring was in his inside suit pocket, he was in a club with a man who has affairs all the time, his friends went home at midnight and he gets home at 5am

He's lying

Sounds weird - especially as he hasn't tried to reassure you. Is he right or left handed? I think you said he's into martial arts? So if he was left handed, he'd hit with that hand and not want the ring to cause extra damage? Or took it off because someone was attempting to mug him?

I guess you are not going to find out now.

My initial guess was that the cheating director was on the pull and he was a wing man. The ring thing and the cagey attitude (unless massively feeling like crap) is just off.

Hope it's nothing. :(

DH does bodybuilding. He never takes any of his rings off, even when lifting. He uses weightlifting gloves.

Oh God.

I really hoped that there would be a good explanation .

I take mine off all the time. So in your scenario I'd probably have randomly decided in the cab that taking it off now would save valuable getting undressed time when I got in, or that it was hurting my hot swollen fingers in a club (not that I've taken it off in a club. I have done on holiday though).

The "I was in a fight and I stopped to take it off", er, just why would you?

So the guy takes off his ring and you immediately persume he is cheating? I am out, good luck.

I'm so sorry OP what a fucking bastard shitty situation :( I really don't know what to suggest. 18 years is a lot to give up on especially given what you've told us about how it's usually a solid relationship. But at the same time if he won't even be honest I don't see how you go forward and continue to trust him?

How old are your DC? My husband stays out that late sometimes, but it pisses me off to high heaven. I personally think there ought to come a time in your life where it's not acceptable to get so obliterated anymore!

The only thing I can think is that if he was that wasted and spent the day asleep then he still now might not be himself. You have the weekend for him to come around and start talking to you properly. Let's hope that happens.

Again, so sorry you're going through this

Libraries this is it, why would you?

Just think, he could have caught the guy, if only he had not stopped to take his wedding ring off and put it in his suit pocket

Blimey OP, this doesn't sound great if I'm honest. At the very least, I'd say he's gone to a club with cheating colleague and taken his ring off then.
Maybe nothing happened but where on earth was he until 5am????
Clubs in my town kick out at 2am I think but maybe you're nearer a bigger town or city.
The 'fight' story is just plain ridiculous. Surely he credits you with more intelligence than that?!
I'd keep demanding the truth.