works do last night, no wedding ring on Dh this morning

[Onedayinthesun]

We have been together 18 years, 2 Dc and an adult Sc.

No trust issues ever, have never even questioned his faithfulness, I have not once been concerned about anything that would point to cheating at no point in our marriage.

He went out last night to his works Christmas party, I heard him come home at 5am. He slept in the sofa in the kitchen last night at 7.30am I told him to go to bed, he was still drunk - no wedding ring on his finger. I found it in his inside pocket of his suit.

Devastated.

There is no point even asking him why - there is only one reason a man would do this.

I couldn't confront anything this morning I needed to get my kids to school and go to work. I'm numb thinking about what he has done last night, Christmas is ruined.

I have to face him tonight and don't want the kids to find out, he doesn't know I have his ring, I can't talk to anyone in rl

I'd keep the ring too and see when / if he mentions if. Hope you're ok.

Have you talked to him, OP? What explanation did he give?

I'm keeping everything crossed that there's a reasonable explanation for this OP

I wouldn't jump to any conclusions.

I really hope he's got a good explanation. Please don't assume the worst, until you've spoken with him.

"Where did you go last night?

Dh "we ended up in a night club with my Director" (serial cheat)

"Where was Andy and the rest?"

Dh "they went home early"

"You are not wearing your wedding ring, where is it?"

Dh "I don't know. On the way home last night I tried to break up a fight in the street and got punched. They knocked me to the floor, I took my ring off and put it in my pocket when I gave chase"

"Did you catch them?"

Dh "No"

"At 4.30 in the morning?"

Dh "yes"

"Really? Why would you think to remove your ring?"

Dh " I don't know, why does it matter, it's the truth"

Walks off, doesn't want to talk about it, won't look me in the eye, get off my case body language. My husband is an ex martial artist and trained in cage fighting, never took his ring off when training.

It's lame, I don't believe him

Sounds dodgy, sorry OP.

Not concerned that his ring is "missing"

I'm afraid I don't either, I'm sorry

Were any of his / your friends witness to the fight?

Sounds a bit of a weak excuse, TBH.

Sounds a bit odd.

My wife doesn't usually wear a ring (should I be concerned?) however I do. When I am at work I do tend to remove it as with my watch as it stops me typing quickly.

What sounds odd that his weight hasn't changed although he is a fitness freak. I usually run, cycle and workout in the gym and the last thing I want to be wearing are jewellery. Rings don't work with weights or gym machines and on a bike they tend to hurt hands from gripping the handlebars.

I suspect he would be removing his ring whilst not with you but not for anything dodgy. If he is into fitness then he would not have the time or inclination.

On his way home, walked from town on his own, no one else there

Has he a mark where he says he was punched?

Yes. It does sound rather lame :(

Hes full of shit. So sorry Op

And did he then go and try to put his ring on? Did he seem surprised when you mentioned the ring, or was he expecting it?

Saj why is it odd that he wears a wedding band when training? He cycles about 150 miles at the weekend and lifts in the gym 3 times a week and doesn't remove it?? I train with him in the gym and wear mine too.

Really sorry OP but that just sounds so far fetched and him being so defensive too.

I can't see a mark on his face

He didn't look surprised when I mentioned the ring :(

That explanation seems rather weak.
To have the where withall to remove a ring whilst running is unusual?

So sorry Oneday
Same here. My H never took his ring off. Well, I thought he didn't. Unfortunately he made the mistake of leaving it on the sink in his hotel room when he was away 'on business'. The hotel rang home (me!) to let him know - fool.

You have been knocked to the ground in a fight, the fight has nothing to do with you.
They run off, and you decide to give chase (why?)
But you delay for a few vital moments to take your wedding ring off and stow it safely in your pocket.

He's defensive and it sounds too far fetched. If he's never taken it off before, even for training, there would be no reason to remove it now.

Spinach :(