works do last night, no wedding ring on Dh this morning

[Onedayinthesun]

We have been together 18 years, 2 Dc and an adult Sc.

No trust issues ever, have never even questioned his faithfulness, I have not once been concerned about anything that would point to cheating at no point in our marriage.

He went out last night to his works Christmas party, I heard him come home at 5am. He slept in the sofa in the kitchen last night at 7.30am I told him to go to bed, he was still drunk - no wedding ring on his finger. I found it in his inside pocket of his suit.

Devastated.

There is no point even asking him why - there is only one reason a man would do this.

I couldn't confront anything this morning I needed to get my kids to school and go to work. I'm numb thinking about what he has done last night, Christmas is ruined.

I have to face him tonight and don't want the kids to find out, he doesn't know I have his ring, I can't talk to anyone in rl

Blimey my husband has never owned a wedding ring- he didn't want one because of his job (builder) meaning he could potentially hurt himself & didn't want to worry about losing it. I go years without wearing mine- currently in a wearing stage, but it annoys the life out of me (the ring- I'm not used to it!)
That is of no use to you OP. I bet there is an innocent explanation- I didn't realise so much store was put on the wearing of rings but I suppose if you always wear one, then it is odd not to.

I hope there is a reasonable explanation OP. I take my rings off all the time and so does DH for many many different reasons, I would try not to jump to conclusions. x

Oh op, I hope it is going well for you my lovely. I just wanted to add that my DH is forever taking off his ring because his fingers swell and shrink with temperature changes. Luckily it is a good fit for my thumb so he generally just passes it over to me.
I am wishing you a happy outcome

Hope there is a valid reason

I hope you're ok OP. You won't know if there's a reason unless you talk to him though (not that you're guaranteed to find out the truth, but it's worth a try).

OP it diesn't look good. Say nothing and wait.
You'll know.

I don't understand why other people taking their rings off all the time is relevant when OP says he never takes his ring off, ever

How are you OP?

I'm sorry to keep hammering this point home, but is he likely to be doing DIY or MOVING BLOODY MACHINERY at a work party at 3am???

I wasn't suggesting he was, just listing occasions on which I remove my wedding ring. Some of them weren't relevant, some were.

OP says he never takes his ring off, ever

Which only means she's never seen him take it off. My wife may think that I never take my ring off as I don't think I have done so when she's been around (although she takes hers off regularly - she often leaves it off for days).

Exactly sinber. Someone pointed out that they took their rings off while pregnant, as if that would have anything to do with the OPs husband taking his ring off!

But I agree there are endless possibilities why he may have taken it off. Perhaps he was rescuing a kitten in a tree and didn't want to risk one of its claws getting trapped in his ring, perhaps he was abducted by aliens who are allergic to wedding rings so he moved it out of their sight to be courteous. Or maybe he took it off because he was hoping for a drunk bunk-up. Who knows?

Does he usually come home as late as 5am
That would set off alarm bells

I often take my rings off, as does DH - we both take part in a hobby that doesn't allow any jewellery. Sometimes I can go weeks without wearing them although he tends to put his back on each time. This has no relevance at all to OP's DH though (unless he was at a karate class too).

If OP's DH never takes his ring off - until now - then I hope he has a good explanation. Hope you're OK, oneday .

Let's not get hysterical, people.

OP, how are you?

Whether or not others take of their rings is irrelevant - this man doesn't and it's out of character.

Op I hope you are OK and you are able to stay calm and collected. Don't knee jerk into anything, take your time

I would keep hold of the ring too and say nothing to him yet.
I'd act like I hadn't noticed it was missing and wait and see what he said and how he acted when he realised it was missing.

If he's been up to no good then there's a chance he may have this woman's number and may secretly call/text her in a panic to ask if he's left the ring at her place.

Ime, sorry to say but men don't generally remove their rings on a night out for any other reason than to try and pull

Yes, but even people who never take their rings off may still take it off at least once for some reason, rings aren't glued on, so people are giving examples of what one of those might be.

He never takes it off, except he did this once. OP just doesn't know why yet, but neither does anyone else.

Hope you're Ok OP

I don't think there is any reasonable explanation for this. You will have to confront him and be prepared to demand that he leave. It's awful that this is happening at this time of year but you mustn't let him pull the wool over your eyes. Your gut is telling you something and you should pay heed to it.

I also sometimes take my ring off. My OH may never have realised I do this. Sometimes it just gets on my nerves.

Hope you are all right OP.

I'm going to stop speculating on this now until OP returns, as doesn't feel right to keep doing so.

This is an eye opener for me. Neither DH nor I wear our wedding rings and haven't for years, we do go out separately sometimes on work do's and I have never even thought about being on the pull because of a lack of a ring and I sure DH doesn't either. Maybe people look at us in a different light, like we are swingers or something.

Well it's strange how considering Op's H never takes his ring off, the one time he has is on a night out, the same night he got home at 5 am.

My DP doesn't take a particular ring off, normally, but recent did so because underneath the band it was feeling sore, he said.

A day pr two later he had a red, raw bump where he'd felt the soreness.

So I understand the OP saying her DH doesn't ever take his ring off is making her worry, but there could indeed be an innocent explanation.

Really hope you're okay, OP. What a bloody awful start to Christmas.

Yes, I agree that people do take their wedding ring off for whatever reason, but to always wear this symbolic ring and to suddenly take it off on a night out (without your partner there) and then stay out all night is definitely suspect!