Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

handywisewoman 50 mins away is not that far really. I wouldn't call that a ldr! is there a nice pub/cafe or restaurant 20 mins away from you? I think you should make him travel just a bit further

I'm on tinder. Think it cuts out all the nonsense and the big plus is that only guys you match with can contact you !!

Has anyone completed someone's 'quiz' on Match? If so, if your answer is marked in red in your sent emails, does that mean you've answered in the way opposite to what they want?

Spotted someone really nice and compatible looking (shares one of my hobbies, which is unusual for a man!), but if I've given the 'wrong' answer to this particular question, then the 'back away' klaxons are ringing!

I don't care what somebody else does with their spare time though. Scuba diving stamp collecting. what matters to me is a match in the length of time together, apart and sharing. So I hope people don't read too much in to that quiz!

I should put on some make up now (very light make up of course :-p ) and go out for my coffee date. The one I showed up for yesterday as well eejit

I mean the quiz bit where you can set your own questions for people to answer? One of the questions was "Would you completely change your hair if your partner asked you to." Well, F off right there mate if that's what he expects of women!

Yes, Sum, enjoy!

Please report back, sum314 hope you have a great date now that you got the right day hee hee

So MrC has Whatsapped me today but forgot my occupation - which we actually discussed last night, and I mean discussed not 'mentioned in passing'. I told him what I was doing today and he had literally no idea what I do! He Whatsapped to say he's 'a bit' embarrassed. So a black mark there. He needs to redeem himself. I am off out for a run, before another spinster evening night in sans kids. Ho hum. Am rather hoping he redeems himself by offering to take me out - tonight!!!! Annnnnd back in the room.......

Ok so what next, guys, I messaged back:
Me: 'anything else you need a recap on '
MrC: if I'd have known I wouldn't have made such a fool of myself. I'm not normally such a numpty, glad you see the funny side'

....... Am actually a bit about that. There's no mention of meeting (I know we only started messaging last night but we are both available this week) and so now after out mega messaging/phone call last night I'm a bit

Shall I leave his message unreplied to? Or shall I message and indicate the -ness?

Games. I've entered the playing games zone. FFS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Handy, it is game! Well at first at least.

Your message was quite lighthearted so if I were you I'd leave it at that.

Wait until he contacts you.

Might he have had a drink? Handy. Hence the verbosity and forgetfulness. Not guilty of that at all sometimes, ahem

Yes waving having a few on the go really protects you from elevating any one of them on to a pedestal I think.

Well I'm just back from my 3pm coffee date! we had two coffees and then found a bar and went for a glass of wine and then they brought menus over to us and I said, how about we go to &^% nice restaurant nearby. I thought that that would prolong the date a bit longer! btw, whoever said not to rule out men who aren't that great with written English, I'm so glad I didn't do that with this man. He is one of the .05% of Irish people who was raised in Galway with Irish his first language. He had said a few things when we were messaging like "so we're on the same table?" instead of "we're on the same page" and I had thought, that's a bit odd. But in person he was so easy to chat to. I really liked him and we got on very well but I know that the first date is just a performance. You go home and think about it. Would that person fit in to my life. What would my friends think of him/her. Were we just performing? Could we sit in silence? And so I know now bitter experience the first date going very well doesn't mean a great deal. But still, happy to report, nice date with a nice man... and a bit of a kiss at the station. He had very nice full lips

ps, and actually, he was really nice about me turning up on the wrong day. He said he'd read that that's a 'thing' at Christmas and it means that you're able to relax. So he was complimenting me on my ability to lose track of the days. And he seemed to mean that compliment so sincerely, working as an analyst......

Handywisewoman You've reminded me, exercise was another thing I meant to fit in this week sans enfants. Jillian Michaels tomorrow.

So I was honest in the end with MrC re forgetting we discussed my occupation. Told him it made me raise an eyebrow. I thought that was better than a stony silence. He said he doesn't blame me. It's now become a joke, that will potentially run and run... And we have arranged a date for Friday! yey!

Good! He'll know that listening while you are speaking is the minimum level of attention required!

Glad you've had an angst-free evening, Waving

Re MrC I hope I've done the right thing. Any more slip ups and I'll be showing him the red card!

Onwards.....

I was mince314 & more314 (Mince pie, more pie, some/sum pie) Apologies for frequent name changes. I reveal too much!!

Ive had great first dates a few times now! @_@ so i will try to remember it was just one good fun evening as it stands.

A small update from me. Have agreed to a 2nd date with Mr Forest, but not till next week.

Have been messaging a guy- will call him Mr Dot, and the reason being is that all of his messages go like this "Hi you... wot u up2.... ?" Occasionally, there are less dots, but it's starting to grate on me . If you decide you don't want to continue messaging someone, do you tell them, or just ignore? Am I being too polite in all of this? Oh, and twice I've pulled him up for being inappropriate (I'm not a prude, but not having met him it, pisses me off).

Also talking to another guy -Mr Welsh, who is fast becoming a hopeful, as we seem to have a lot in common and he's not pushy or smutty .

oh I do that! I must limit my dots. I had no idea it could be annoying.

I let things dwindle if I'm not sure about somebody. I message somebody back, give them a chance to win me over but if they don't, I just send a shorter reply each time. That's my modus operandi.....................

Mr Welsh sounds nice. I wouldn't like the inappropriate stuff either. I want to KNOW that they're capable of showing respect first and foremost.

Lol Sum. It's the amount of dots that grates, it's like he's speaking in morse code..... . I think I may try the reduced messaging and see how that goes.

Congrats on the Irishman date. Sounded like it went well (I love an Irish accent) .