Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

Sounds like you had a good time Waving!

Twiggy I think very shortly you could be surprising your DDs :o

MyGast I wish people like that would just accept that they are not yet ready to date, and stop wasting our time.

I do know what you mean about "arty types" - I am reasonably convinced that Mr Designer has A Job. One that you go to and it pays you money. There are people at my work whose job titles include the word "Designer", and they are properly functioning adults.

I hope so anyway.

Oh wow waving thanks for the update, I bet you are knackered after last night Sounds like it went very well indeed - A relationship ,

I didn't know that rule twiggy thank you.....damn 3 years out.

Skimmed thread. OMG waving are you off the market???? You go girl!!!

How's everyone else?

prizey there is no rule. If you like him and he likes you and fun is to be had, it is no ones business. A guy at work is dating someone 18 years younger than him! They're so in love and happy they couldn't give a monkeys what anyone thinks. Fair play to them I say.

mygast really? Block and ignore.

bbc lovely update! Thanks for sharing!

twiggy lol at your updates! Keep us updated!
I'm glad I'm not the only one to look at my family set up and think there's no way I can bring someone new into this. It's just so hard (and way too soon for me) to imagine. You're not alone in feeling that way. I guess when the right one comes along it will just work.

Re designers. We have UX/ UI designers where I work. They earn a fortune and are in uber demand with a lot of them freelancing. No early judging laydees. A lot of people in good jobs deliberately underplay it in the world of OLD.

Hello to anyone I've missed. Sorry the thread moves so quickly.

I'm seeing Tree tmrw. Quite looking forward to seeing him actually which is worrying in itself.

nomore you ok? Just seen the bunfight on the other thread.....

Yay Waving that is great - both of the facts he said this was a "relationship" and that you had too much of a good time to mentally take notes! Off to go get that bitch rules book now ----

314 thanks for the optimum rule. Doing the maths it seems my optimum may be ...Popcorn and means I have at least 6 more dates to go before I know for sure. Aargh. Or 7 and then optimum would be Ikea. Or 8+ and I might go nuts before I actually go through that pile of frogs.

Today I have had a lovely message from a dude with the most gigantic mustache I have ever seen. PASS.

Oh Waving that's brilliant - well played

Been busy working and mulling over my current thread in 'relationships' so not much to report.

Lovely man on Bumble (can't even bother to think up a name, I'm sure is about to go belly up) has been very good with messaging. Suddenly now that I've asked re meeting after two days back-and-forth messaging - he's gone quite - some major skeleton is about to come out of the cupboard as per all my others!!! How hard can it be???? I just want to GO ON A DATE - waaaaaa!!!!

Ghast block MrR without delay!!!!

Waving off the market - woop!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just spoken to Mr Blond on the phone for the first time - slightly disappointed. He sounds old! Hardly paused for breath and a bit of a know-it-all which is off putting. But his photos look lovely, and he's clever and interesting, just a bit too much in-your-face. Pleased I did it though, because he was the front runner so now I'm a lot more open minded about the others I'm seeing before him.

Mr Boat has just sent me an unprecedented third text. He sounds just right, phrases everything nicely, right balance of questions and answers and, because he's such a rare texter, there's no anxiety when he doesn't text because I'm not expecting them iyswim.

jolly you set high standards with your menfolk

Beautiful Bee has knocked RedDrummer off of the top spot. Big time. I hate to be this self-deprecating, but I think he's "out of my league" looks wise, but SO much in common, and nice chat so far.

Oh tanyadm that's how I feel about h , like, should I put myself through this? But I also feel there's a personality click. So I'll just hope for the best and hope I'm not devastated later.

Hang on though, you haven't had time to meet Bee since you said if he stood up to his photos he was handsome. Wait and see, he could have a squeaky voice or something. Or smell. Just wait.

Waving glad it's moved forward a step!

Twiggy789 Oh dear. Maybe he was nervous. I don't like the phone much myself. I prefer to exchange information and chat in person. Will you still meet him?

Tanyadm I didn't mean to pour cold water on your bomfire, I meant, it's hard to tell about leagues from just a photo. I think, show up, then I'll know if you're outta my league buddy

I know, maybe he's hideous.... Yes. He's hideous, and smelly. Urgh BEE!

But he is from Co Durham, and I do love a good northern / Geordie accent...

Gonna have to attempt to meet this one....

Chemistry is a funny thing. Not dates, but I know there have been men I've worked with over the years and I thought things like, he'd be attractive if only he didn't bite his nails and clear his throat so loudly. Or jangle his changes like he's the fifth member of a boy band. Or smell of curry.

Sorry. I can be put off even relatively handsome men. And then go wild for somebody that looks a bit kooky but is very fit and healthy and dresses nicely, and don't laugh, 'moves nicely' :-p

Oh fabulous. I hope it's more Ant and Dec than Gazza!

Twiggy I should gave added that Mustache is into ballroom dancing (he is not even 30!! Judgy I know )And guess what he does for a living? Yep, good ole lawyer too. ----

I like your standard 314, pretty much the same here. Just add no out-of-control mustaches and no handcuffs.

Yes, I'll still meet him. I was texting him and then said I had to walk the dog, and he wanted to call me so I felt safer. It was a really sweet gesture although the way I look when I walk the dog would have any self respecting mugger running for the hills and I'd feel mean blowing him out after that.

Just his photo doesn't match his voice at all, if that makes sense.

I should say that what I find attractive wouldn't be to most people's tastes, obviously I can't share the poor man's actual username, but if I said my celeb crushes were Tim Minchin, Iain Glen, Matt Berninger and Idris Elba.... Ok, everyone loves Idris. Google Bryce Dessner, imagine a cuter, less messy haired version. Ok, I am weird!

Think it's safe to say we won't be after the same men tanyadm

I don't often lol.....but lol Twiggy!

Tanya, I am with you on this list, minus Tim Minchin. Especially Bryce Dessner!!! You lucky gal, haha.

Ok the rest of you, and Twiggy, what's your type? With celebrity comparisons if necessary!

❤️ you Jolly, but what's not to love about Tim Minchin?!

Mr R is well and truly blocked.

Getting lots of messages on POF and OKC but from no-one who looks interesting.

I think I need help with my messaging technique, sent a couple of first messages and not got a reply back which isn't the end of the world.

Mr CS is the most promising candidate but I noticed he updated his POF the other day (after we met). Whilst I've got no right to demand anything it still makes me

I've sent a few first messages too, and not heard back.

But if you think about the number of messages you are ignoring - you'd expect that a highish proportion of first messages never get a reply.

Particularly on places like OKC (I don't know much about POF) where anyone can message anyone.

The guy you like the look of, who you just messaged, may show up as "Online" because he's messaging someone that he likes, and not be even looking at other people.