Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

Four dates in five days - what was I thinking of?! My phone is about to combust as I try to keep in touch with them all - apart from Mr Boat, who sends a couple of lovely and well written texts a day and then that's it.

First date outfit for Mr Boat is skinny jeans, nice top and boots. Might replicate it for Mr Cash - both dates in country pubs. Not the same one!

Mr Blond gets 'the dress' - it's not failed me before and I have agreed to a meal first so think I need to make an effort.

Mr Pole will probably get me in pjs as I'll be fed up of putting on make up by then!

Feeling really guilty about meeting them all now, feel like I'm cheating on them all. They have all been in touch today to say how much they are looking forward to it and it doesn't seem right to be talking to them all at the same time - you are all right, I so need a spreadsheet.

On top of this just got a text from someone I met six weeks ago and we agreed to be FBs once a week - I know, I know, but I have needs We both agreed that if we met someone who was important to us we'd knock this absolutely amazing sex on the head. Think he wants more though...

So all stressed now, and eating my way through an out-of-date box of mince pies isn't helping.

Tiz a fine line indeed nomore and one I seem totally unable to draw....

I suppose it is a bit of a quick bounce back, but while there was a good intellectual connection with TS, I never once looked at his photos and thought "I want that person". Whereas if Bee stands up to his pics...

(But also intelligent, creative and sends properly written messages, as well as being beautiful).

It's weird that feeling isn't it, like cheating!?

you're just at the casual drive by stage and yet it can still feel a bit weird. Override that feeling. I started out feeling I was being a bit harsh on old bear going off to meet H, but now I'm feeling shabby for continuing to be in touch with Bear despite really liking H. But I know it's NONSENSE. I owe neither of them anything and they've promised me nothing.

Good work twiggy !

Hi! Tons to catch up on this thread! I see waving hasn't posted a more detailed update. Come on waving we won't let you off that easily!

Will catch up on thread later this evening!!!

It is! I think because TS was so very sweet and old fashioned and gawky, I feel especially like I am being slutty flirting with Bee not 24 hours later. But all TS and I did was drink tea and talk. Can't not act on connections where they happen!

Was she at work!? I know she's a lawyer. Well I'll be work tomorrow but you won't catch me working :-p

Twiggy even if you really like the first man, keep ploughing on.

Are you childfree?!

So Mr R from POF has just admitted he's still lives with his partner but there's no intimacy, they're only together for the sake of their child

Ah that old chestnut. Block him. Don't even bother replying.

I think it's because I like them all and enjoy our contact. I've done the same with a right pair of fruit cakes before now and wasn't bothered at all. Just feel like I'm leading them all on. Ho hum - one of the many joys of OLD I guess!

Got 2 DDs but both more than self sufficient so they don't really affect me going out, although would be a different story if I brought them all home!

Agree with nomore - avoid Mr R like the plague mygast - think we've all heard that one before!

Oh that's great Twiggy, frees you up to work through them faster! It could take me two years to find "mr pure gold" but at the rate you're cracking through them :-p you'll find him really soon. Big pile of frogs on the side!

I wonder what the average number of frogs is....

Twiggy, I said to my dd earlier that I'd had a date over Christmas when she was with her dad. Maybe it's time I prepared her. Although that sounds very optimistic of me. She didn't respond to the comment. But I saw her look surprised.

Blimey. Well, It does depend............ have you heard of optimal stopping theory? It is supposed to apply to looking for a spouse I think. And assuming that it takes a year. The 'rule' seemed to be that if you get about a third of the way in and you meet somebody who is far better than all of the others, then that is the 'optimal' stopping point.

BUT of course, the first one could be overlooked, or you might have to look all year. But I thought it was interesting that there was a sort of rule.

It applies for house hunting anyway.

Not to mention, you might want to stop but your frog might want to keep looking!!

Not heard of that, I'll Google it.

Think my two DDs are humouring me, as in 'isn't it sweet, Mum is trying OLD!' but don't think they actually think I'll bring anyone back. At 17 and 19 they clearly think I'm past it!

I was looking at my family and Christmas, parents, DDs, DB and SIL and just thought I can't imagine introducing anyone into this mix. They are all lovely and would no doubt be welcoming but I'd be so nervous. Plus ExDH still pops round to see the DDs so wouldn't be awkward at all....

A year - 52 weeks x 4 dates = 208 entries on a spreadsheet x 1000

Stop, I've only just got my mojo with this lark!

Oh Waving, damn your lawyerish professionalism, we need the news!

I'm still in a conundrum with what to do with this young whipper snapper, how young is too young?

Twiggy I know what you mean, its weird how it feels like cheating, but its really not, so ignore those feelings.

Mygast I agree with the others, thats not 'separated' as far as I'm concerned.

Where is waving with a proper update?

prizey isn't the rule something like half your age plus seven?

Deleting those apps must be so cathartic waving, can't wait to do that