Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

Handy, that's my real cap & gown

yeh I'm trying to think of a mitigating reply to the question ''how come you haven't seen them for 8 years?"

They live in Japan?

for you N0More

Oh gawd.... So the story is he saw them over Xmas then she 'said she wasn't happy and stopped contact' then he said he 'took it to court yet again ended up loosing [sic]

I'm sorry, I don't know much but I do know that if he had gone to court there would have to be a compelling reason to be denied contact.

Oh FFS. Another dud!!!!! This guy's been fine til now. I think I may ghost......!!!!!!!!!!! I mean, what's there to say????????

Ok. It's been driving me mad. What is a Loo Update???

handy . Either he did something really bad and hasn't been allowed contact on his terms. Or he cannot be arsed. They could live on the moon fgs and that wouldn't be a good enough excuse.
You ladies are so lovely. I'd outright call him on it and say W.T.F????? There is no justification for that. Oh well at least we know that the Trees aren't the same. Mines a single dad who raised his son. Seeing him Weds night.

Just had a very direct message on Bumble. Let's call him MrBanker, asked me outright what I wanted from the app.
I felt like replying...do a little dance, make a little Lurve get down tonight. But I thought better of it. .

This is sooo much fun!

X posts.

Yup. There has to be something really bad for a judge to deny access. Either that or simply put the kids have said they don't want to see him. At that age the courts will take the children's feelings into account. RUN!!!!!

Oh do please reply that Sassy !!!!!!! Those stupid direct 'what are you here for' questions are charmless, immature and irritating!!!! Send him that!!!! Dare you!!!!

I luffs you all on here too

Come on Waving !!!!!!

Hold on. He saw them over Christmas and has already had a court hearing regarding contact?

Total horseshit. He's lying. You would only get a court hearing so quickly if it's an emergency (I.e the children are at risk etc). If she has simply said she isn't happy and he can't see them, for him to take her to court to see them is not emergency hearing stuff. Sorry I just don't buy it.

Run, run, run (and block)

Bye bye Tree2

I think he meant Xmas 8yrs ago. But it matters not. I so can't be arsed now (hence the chainsaw massacre that's about to ensue).

I should have thought this through better - messaging them all now is a bloody nightmare! I just want to come on here and read about what everyone is up to!

Lol.

Rule 10 people. No dating the thread!

handy I think that's the worst thing so far on this thread. How do you not see your own kids for 8 years??? There really are some utter scumbags out there. As much as my STBXH is a twunt I so hope he remains invoked with the DC's. Heartbreaking otherwise.

I think I have spent more time on here tonight than looking for TS replacements

Hahaha Twiggy that's a fine ole mess you got yourself into hee hee!!!

And yep fair point Sassy, Rule No.10.

I've dealt a blow to Tree2, I told him I can't comprehend the situation and unless there are highly unusual circumstances he's unlikely to be what I'm looking for.

Am preparing for more anger now (unless someone can tell me quick how to block people on POF...)

Courtesy of Google.

Scroll to the bottom of his message and you should be able to block user.

Talking to 2 pople yesterday but let them have the last message and went to bed. Now have had a busy evening and might not message them.

Chances of them replying if I message tomorrow? Probably slim, but I will see if theories about "bitches" or "hard to get" hold.

Managed to block Tree2 despite him telling me I was being harsh and that he pays child maintenance and now CSA.

Call me ruthless but I cannot be bloody bothered with any of that. I would be forever waiting for the shoe to drop. No ta.

Pedestrian Bumble man has just sent a message for the first time in about 4 days!!!!!

Nice north London Bumble guy messaged me at lunchtime - need to check in with him........

Lol Twiggy you might actually need that spreadsheet

Trills IME those who were genuinely interested actually do reply even if you do not answer right away.

Handy probably the best call to make. Wow at 8 years without seeing his kids!

Oh and twiggy can you pass on the spreadsheet template once you have built one? IKEA is messaging a lot now, and then there is Bubbly-Handcuffs that I have not replied to, MrSparklyEyes, and a new one WHO IS FINALLY A GUITARIST. Hurrrayyyyy.

Yeh, either he was so controlling she went to court and had proof he was abusive and controlling

or

It was awkward and unpleasant and he backed off because they had a row and then he never stepped back up again which makes him a passive blamer .

But is DrMalawi his OKcupid name?

Folks, if any of the guys you've been on dates with are in your skype contacts list be very careful you don't send the link to this thread to them. I just installed skype earlier today, on the request of one gentleman, and then I couldn't seem to add him as a contact and I was playing around with it. I saw the s symbol at the top and I clicked on that and it brought up this page saying ''share step inside the dating thread 93' with Name Name. I nearly died. My heart stopped beating for a second. I panicked. I cancelled out of it, but I thought I'd done it, actually sent it. OMG. Haven't had a shock like that since ........ maybe never. My nerves. For all I knew he could be reading this now, laughing, but severing all contact for ever.

I really need waving to come back and distract me from my own prattishness.
What did Sabrina say?

Dunno, missed it. I promised myself I'd be in bed by 10:30pm.

oops.......

Hope Waving is Ok about whatever's going on. I really do.